Weird situation... what would you do?

[Diane]

Dh and I received an invitation to a wedding that is to be held on October 30th. The thing is... we have absolutely no clue who these people are. :grimace: We've called dh's mom/aunts... cousins, and none of them know who they are, nor have any of them received an invitation. Okay... so now were thinking that it's probably from someone on his birth DAD's side of the family. The invitation is from the same city that his mom is now living... (four hour drive for us) and where a lot of his birth dad's relatives live now. Dh has only ever talked with a few of them (an uncle and a cousin) but have never met any of them. So now... do we assume that's who it's coming from, or do you think would it be tacky to call/ask??? That and if it is from one of them... do you think it's the proper time for us to go and meet with them for the first time? (don't want to take away from the bride and groom) What's right... what would you do? If it's his birth dad's side of the family I know that dh would really like to go and meet with them... but IMHO I'd feel SOOOOOOOO awkward not knowing ANYone. HELP!!! LOL Thanks.......

Diane...

[AnnW]

If it is from the birth family, they sent it, so I wouldn't worry about over shadowing.
I think it would be fine to call and ask who they are.

[JAK]

I would call and ask who they are. I'm sure you two were invited for a reason. I'd go if I knew who they were and was comfortable with it all.

[BevJ]

Wow, what a situation to be in, lol...I guess there's nothing to do but call and ask who they are. Enjoy the wedding at any rate!

[Melody]

What an uncomfortable phone call. If you met some people from that family can you just call one of them and ask? It's not someone that one of you have worked with in the past? Good luck finding out who it is.
If you go to the wedding and feel awkward you could always leave the reception a little early and have a night on the town together.

[Diane]

What an uncomfortable phone call. If you met some people from that family can you just call one of them and ask? It's not someone that one of you have worked with in the past? Good luck finding out who it is.
If you go to the wedding and feel awkward you could always leave the reception a little early and have a night on the town together.

We've never met with any of them... only have had one conversation with each of these people (aunt and uncle) so we don't really "know" them. The only reason why were thinking it's one of them is because that's where some of his dad's side of the family live. ?( ?( I'm at a total loss as to what to do... dh sent the RSVP today saying we'd be there without knowing what/who??? We don't really have a phone # to call, but he could try looking it up on the internet. I'm just kind of feeling really stupid about this whole thing... I've never gone to a wedding where I don't know the bride/groom or anyone else who's going to be there. Kind of weird but yet at the same time kind of exciting. (if it is his dad's side of the family) We've been told (by them) that my dh looks a LOT like his dad and that side of the family. Dh has never seen anyone who he resembles so I think it would be kind of exciting for him. We'll see... LOL
Thanks all...

Diane...

[MaryL]

I guess I wouldn't want to go to a wedding where I wasn't sure who the bride and groom were. Who will you be talking to...visiting with...etc? I think it's odd that you were invited if you don't really have a relationship with any of these people. Wouldn't that make you feel uncomfortable at the wedding? I wouldn't want the event to become a "reunion", rather than a celebration of the union of the bride/groom. If they really want to meet you...there must be much more appropriate times to meet. JMO, of course.

[Diane]

I guess I wouldn't want to go to a wedding where I wasn't sure who the bride and groom were. Who will you be talking to...visiting with...etc? I think it's odd that you were invited if you don't really have a relationship with any of these people. Wouldn't that make you feel uncomfortable at the wedding? I wouldn't want the event to become a "reunion", rather than a celebration of the union of the bride/groom. If they really want to meet you...there must be much more appropriate times to meet. JMO, of course.

That's EXACTLY how I'm feeling. 8o Dh is doing some investigating (e-mailing a few more cousins) and hopefully by the time of the wedding we'll know who it is. Another thing I'm not thrilled about is that it's on Halloween and I like being home and handing out candy on that night. I have a LOT of old dc kids who will stop by to see me and say Hi. It's always nice to see them. At this wedding reception, they want you to dress up... which is something I'm not really into. Ugh... Honestly, I'm just wishing this wedding would just go away. LOL

Diane...

[Melody]

They want you to wear a halloween costume to the wedding reception? 8o
Won't that make it even more difficult to go to the wedding and find out who they are? lol good luck!

[AnnW]

How funny, I read the "dress up" comment as putting on ****tail clothes not costumers! DUH on me! LOL