Melody
01-04-2005, 06:30 PM
With some people! Needing to vent here.
Over the holidays we heard a comment or two from sil1 because she wasn't 'invited' to bil's for Christmas Eve. Seems she had her nose out of joint. Well, she lives and hour and half away and there is no way she would have come (she never comes to family events in Ottawa) and has always got an excuse. This was just a small gathering for the few of us who do live here. Who would want to come and then drive home again on Christmas Eve with three little kids? And she wasnt' the only out of towner not invited and no one here thought it was a big deal. She has never come to my kids birthday parties. She's definatley the odd one in the bunch. Anyhow, before Christmas she was calling us and asking if we would go to her town for a skating party if she booked the rink for just family. Great, yes we would go, even the others said yes. She never did book it. (we were all going to chip in for the cost) Fine. Sil2 said that she would like to have a skating party up here, preferably the canal but the rink if the canal was closed. Calls and sil1 said that she won't come but her dh will bring the six yr old dd. UGH! We wanted HER to come, not him but will put up with him if she would come. She said it was too much work to bring twin 1 yr olds. So I talked to her today, why doesn't she come and leave dh at home with twins so she can enjoy the day with us and dd since dh gets all the glory for all the fun stuff with dd (I didn't put it like that but that's the way it is). No, too afraid to drive in the city. Well, drive to my house and I'll drive us in the city in my van. No, doens't think she can keep up with dd on skates!! So why don't you all come? Too much work to get the twins ready and chase them. Well, they have sleds, put them in one. They won't sit for long. Well, neither will my two yr old but they have places to play in the snow when they don't want to be in the sled. No, dh really wants to take her. Of course he does!!! He does ALL the fun stuff with the dd while she keeps herself cooped up with babies. Why should we have to put up with bil when we don't like him??? UGH! Now sil2 is ready to cancell the whole thing and say we will make it for when she can come. Side note here: Knowing her nose was out of joint over Christmas Eve, I invited her along with sil2 for a sliding party on New Yrs E and she came up with excuses not to come then too. Said it was too much to chase them, even though I'm baby proof. Then it was too much to pack to come. Well, what does she think sil2 and I have been doing for the last 12 years???
Thanks for listening, starting to feel better. Feel free for advice on what to say the next time she comes up with too many excuses after her nose is out of joint.
Over the holidays we heard a comment or two from sil1 because she wasn't 'invited' to bil's for Christmas Eve. Seems she had her nose out of joint. Well, she lives and hour and half away and there is no way she would have come (she never comes to family events in Ottawa) and has always got an excuse. This was just a small gathering for the few of us who do live here. Who would want to come and then drive home again on Christmas Eve with three little kids? And she wasnt' the only out of towner not invited and no one here thought it was a big deal. She has never come to my kids birthday parties. She's definatley the odd one in the bunch. Anyhow, before Christmas she was calling us and asking if we would go to her town for a skating party if she booked the rink for just family. Great, yes we would go, even the others said yes. She never did book it. (we were all going to chip in for the cost) Fine. Sil2 said that she would like to have a skating party up here, preferably the canal but the rink if the canal was closed. Calls and sil1 said that she won't come but her dh will bring the six yr old dd. UGH! We wanted HER to come, not him but will put up with him if she would come. She said it was too much work to bring twin 1 yr olds. So I talked to her today, why doesn't she come and leave dh at home with twins so she can enjoy the day with us and dd since dh gets all the glory for all the fun stuff with dd (I didn't put it like that but that's the way it is). No, too afraid to drive in the city. Well, drive to my house and I'll drive us in the city in my van. No, doens't think she can keep up with dd on skates!! So why don't you all come? Too much work to get the twins ready and chase them. Well, they have sleds, put them in one. They won't sit for long. Well, neither will my two yr old but they have places to play in the snow when they don't want to be in the sled. No, dh really wants to take her. Of course he does!!! He does ALL the fun stuff with the dd while she keeps herself cooped up with babies. Why should we have to put up with bil when we don't like him??? UGH! Now sil2 is ready to cancell the whole thing and say we will make it for when she can come. Side note here: Knowing her nose was out of joint over Christmas Eve, I invited her along with sil2 for a sliding party on New Yrs E and she came up with excuses not to come then too. Said it was too much to chase them, even though I'm baby proof. Then it was too much to pack to come. Well, what does she think sil2 and I have been doing for the last 12 years???
Thanks for listening, starting to feel better. Feel free for advice on what to say the next time she comes up with too many excuses after her nose is out of joint.