Prayers Needed, Please

[Leigh]

I have been a little hesitant to post this. I guess I was trying not to jinx myself to soon, but it is looking like dh and I are going to get a divorce. We have been having problems for a while now, and he refuses to go see a counselor. I have stayed for about as long as I can to try and make our marriage work, but it doesn't seem that it is going to happen. I don't want to get a divorce, and I am going to continue to work on my marriage, but I still feel that we need to have some time apart. Please keep us in your prayers as we go through this difficult time in our lives. Thank you all so much!

[angie r]

Oh Leigh, I am so sorry. I will pray for you.

[Diane]

I'm so sorry to hear this Leigh... I will definitely be keeping you and your dh in my thoughts and prayers. ((((HUGS))))

Diane...

[Beth/TX]

So sorry to hear this. :( I will pray for you. I hope everything works out.

[vea29]

Leigh~ Sorry to hear that....I will keep you in my thoughts. Remember we're here for you if you need to vent. ((((hugs))))

[AnnW]

I am so sorry! I know first hand how the stress of infertility can wreck havoc on a marriage!

[imamama]

(((((Leigh))))) I'm so very sorry to hear this. I hope you'll be able to work through it and this is just a stumbling block. You know we're here to talk/vent to any time!

[BevJ]

I am so sorry to hear this. I am hopeful that you'll be able to work it out.

[Leigh]

Thanks gals! I really appreciate all the support.

Ann~ You are right, part of this is because of the infertility. He blames me and says that if I was pregnant already that none of this would be happening. He thinks that I haven't tried hard enough.

[littlesista06]

Oh Leigh, bless your heart. I hope things can work out and your dh will meet you half way. (I also ditto what Ann says.... hang in there.) (((hugs)))

[JAK]

Prayers being said that you both make it through this difficult time. (((Leigh))) I'm so sorry you are going through this.

[Melody]

Thanks gals! I really appreciate all the support.

Ann~ You are right, part of this is because of the infertility. He blames me and says that if I was pregnant already that none of this would be happening. He thinks that I haven't tried hard enough.

Oh sweetie! (((Hugs))) Hang in there. Prayers being said for you.

[Amy]

Thanks gals! I really appreciate all the support.

Ann~ You are right, part of this is because of the infertility. He blames me and says that if I was pregnant already that none of this would be happening. He thinks that I haven't tried hard enough.

Tried hard enough for what??? I hope you know we are here for you!

[BevJ]

Tried hard enough for what??? I hope you know we are here for you!
what she said.

[AnnW]

Thanks gals! I really appreciate all the support.

Ann~ You are right, part of this is because of the infertility. He blames me and says that if I was pregnant already that none of this would be happening. He thinks that I haven't tried hard enough.

I am sorry, but I had to chuckle....have you not been FORCING him to have sex enough? LOL
Has he been tested?

[darlene]

((((Leigh))) Sorry to hear of this.

[littlesista06]

Thanks gals! I really appreciate all the support.

Ann~ You are right, part of this is because of the infertility. He blames me and says that if I was pregnant already that none of this would be happening. He thinks that I haven't tried hard enough.

I'm sorry, but what a sh^*head. Were you not the one getting tested? Were you not the one taking drugs? Were you not the one devasted by getting your period every freaking month? That's a cop out and he's an a$$hole for laying that on you. jmo :tinysmile

[KarlaB]

{{{Leigh}}} I am so sorry. I hope you're hanging in there and like the others said, we are all here for you!!

[Mickey]

I am so sorry, Leigh.

[PamE]

I'm sorry, but what a sh^*head. Were you not the one getting tested? Were you not the one taking drugs? Were you not the one devasted by getting your period every freaking month? That's a cop out and he's an a$$hole for laying that on you. jmo :tinysmile

I'm so sorry, Leigh! :\ (((HUGS))) I have to second what sista said on this one!

[bizymum]

I am so sorry Leigh,,hang in there...Ditto to what everyone else has said.

[Leigh]

Tried hard enough for what??? I hope you know we are here for you!

He doesn't think that I tried hard enough to get pregnant.

[Leigh]

I'm sorry, but what a sh^*head. Were you not the one getting tested? Were you not the one taking drugs? Were you not the one devasted by getting your period every freaking month? That's a cop out and he's an a$$hole for laying that on you. jmo :tinysmile

I agree with you right now, so don't worry about it. LOL!! He is definitely not one of my favorite people right now.

[AnnW]

Did he ever get tested?

[kat]

Leigh, bless your heart. So sorry to hear this. I'll be keeping you in my prayers as you go through this difficult time. (((((hugs)))))

[angie r]

((((Leigh)))) Bless your heart!

[Leigh]

Did he ever get tested?

Nope! Never!

[AnnW]

Nope! Never!


I see what's going on. So sorry. It could very well be his problem. Don't let him make you feel badly. But I know how damaging to your self esteem this all can be anyway.
((((((Leigh))))))

[Amy]

Screw him!!! Leigh, follow your truth, no matter what. By creating change, you are going to force him to make a choice. If his choice doesn't lead you back to him in the end, then DON'T BE AFRAID!! Have faith and you will be amazed how much better your life will be in the end.

[Diane]

Nope! Never!

8o I can't believe he'd have the nerve to blame you when he's never gone in to be tested. 8o He's probably afraid of what they might find, so he avoids it and refuses to even try. You shouldn't feel guilty for something that may well be his problem. :rolleyes: I'm sure that if he was tested and it was found that the problem was his... you would be right there supporting him. When you love each other you're there for each other and you learn to accept/deal with whatever comes your way, no matter who's fault it is. There is always adoption. :)

Feel free to come here and vent any time you want Leigh... were always here for you!

Diane...

[Melody]

I can't believe he has been blaming you and yet not been tested? That doesn't make any sense. (((Leigh)))

[Cathy]

Leigh, I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

(((((((Leigh)))))))

[Ryleigh S.]

So sorry you are goiing through this. {{{{{HUGS}}}}} and prayers coming your way. Vent away..... you know we are here for you.

[Kate]

Leigh, so sorry to hear of this sad time in your life. I pray that everything will work out for the best for you.

[MaryL]

{{{{{{Leigh}}}}}} I'm so sorry to hear that you guys are having trouble. Don't let him make you feel badly...it takes two to make it happen! He's being a jerk.

[Leigh]

Thanks gals! I just wanted to add to that fertiltity issues aren't the only problems we are having. We are having some other issues too. He is very controlling , demanding, and jealous, and that is part of our problem too. I want to feel like a wife not a child living with her father, and that is what I feel like now. I don't feel like an equal partner, I feel like a child.

But thanks gals for all of your words of encouragement. It really boost my spirits.

[AnnW]

Bless your heart!!! You ARE a grown up and deserve to be treated with respect and with honor.

[Melody]

Thanks gals! I just wanted to add to that fertiltity issues aren't the only problems we are having. We are having some other issues too. He is very controlling , demanding, and jealous, and that is part of our problem too. I want to feel like a wife not a child living with her father, and that is what I feel like now. I don't feel like an equal partner, I feel like a child.

But thanks gals for all of your words of encouragement. It really boost my spirits.

(((Leigh))) You do need to be treated like an equal. (I've had that talk with dh myself).