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JeannieOR
05-14-2001, 11:44 AM
The following was sent to me by my cousin's wife. I changed some of the names but I thought my Board Buddies would appreciate the sentiment all the same...

Before I share my mom memory I have to acknowledge someone without whom my, story would not be possible...my son Jason’s birth mother, Kathy. Kathy gave DH & I the greatest gift one person can bestow upon another...her child. DH & I had tried for several years to conceive a child, without success. We always felt adoption was as good an option, simply because we did not feel the biological tie was the most important thing to consider when you are part of a family. After an unsuccessful independent adoption attempt we decided to try an agency in a neighboring town. Unbelievably, less than 3 months after our homestudy was approved, we got the call we hoped for, but thought would be much longer in coming: a couple considering placing their child for adoption wanted to meet with us. The meeting with Kathy and her boyfriend Kyle went well, we thought, but we naturally did not want to get our hopes up. We found out on October 10 that Jason had been born, and had been placed in temporary foster care until Kathy and Kyle made their decision about the adoption and signed the parental termination papers. We got the call on Wednesday, October 16, that those papers had, indeed, been signed and we made arrangements to pick up Jason that Friday. The drive up to the agency that day seemed to take an eternity. When we arrived at the office we were told that Kathy had taken Jason to K-Mart to have his picture taken, which took much longer than we anticipated. Finally, after waiting for nearly an hour (but it seemed like years) Kathy came through the door with Jason. She walked right up to me and placed him in my arms. I know it had to be the hardest thing she had ever done in her life, but it meant so much to me. We stayed there for about an hour talking and making a fuss over Jason (the first diaper changing was rather comical), and then we went our separate ways. I rode all the way home in the back seat with Jason, unable and unwilling to take my eyes off him, for fear he would somehow disappear. Well, that is my greatest mom memory. Thank you for allowing me to share it with you. And Kathy, wherever you are, thank you for making Mother's Day such a precious and wonderful day for me.

netmechwife
05-14-2001, 11:57 AM
That is so great that you were able to have Jason as your son. I really look up to his mom for loving him enough to want the best for him. It would be so hard to place your child in someone elses care. I agree it must have been very hard. My mom had 4 kids, 1 abortion and a miscarriage by the time she was 18. She did the best she could to raise us, but there were a lot of hard times.

My foster mom never was able to have children either and adopted 3 and took me in as their child.

I'm glad there are mothers like you and her who care for the little ones who may have otherwise been forgotten or aborted.

You are a very special person!!!

AnnW you are too...

Melody
05-14-2001, 11:58 AM
Wow! Thanks for sharing the story, how moving.

netmechwife
05-14-2001, 11:59 AM
Sorry about that. Could you send this to your cousin's wife?

KarlaB
05-14-2001, 12:00 PM
What a touching story!! I am tearing up again :bigcry: ...quit doing this to me ladies! ;)

Thanks for sharing the story!!!! :)

Leigh
05-14-2001, 12:14 PM
I too was adopted, and I thank God every day that my birth mother was strong enough to have the courage to give me a good life. My case was totally closed and I have sort of been trying to find her. We have done some checks on adoption boards with no luck, but one day I hope to meet her and tell her thanks in person. She gave me one of the best gifts she could have, she had enough love to know to let go. I appreciate ya'll letting me share my story. I also want to thank you for sharing that story with me. I love to hear about other successful adoptions.

Amy
05-14-2001, 12:41 PM
What a beautiful story Jeannie! Thanks for passing it along!

AnnW
05-14-2001, 01:19 PM
Thanks for sharing!

RCT
05-15-2001, 09:17 AM
what a wonderful story, thanks for sharing.....being adopted is a blessing for most of us.....I always knew I was loved and wanted.....

kat
05-15-2001, 12:34 PM
Very touching. Thanks for sharing.

Ryleigh
05-15-2001, 04:35 PM
Originally posted by KarlaB
What a touching story!! I am tearing up again :bigcry: ...quit doing this to me ladies! ;)

Thanks for sharing the story!!!! :)


Very sweet story!!!

Karla ~ you seem to be tearing up a lot lately :bigcry:.... are you sure you're not the one that's expecting????

KarlaB
05-15-2001, 05:14 PM
Originally posted by Ryleigh



Very sweet story!!!

Karla ~ you seem to be tearing up a lot lately :bigcry:.... are you sure you're not the one that's expecting????

I'm sure! :) Just lots of stress here lately and I think everything seems to hit me extra hard emotionally right now.