Brichard
05-15-2001, 11:40 AM
Has anybody read the "Five Love Languages" book by Chapman? In the book he lists 5 ways that we receive love. We can all get something out of each of the five, but tend to favor one or the other. I'll list the lanugages, and tell me what you think!
On a side note, reading the book was very helpful in working with our ds and dd. ds is a Physical guy, and if you take the time to interrupt what you are doing and hold him for awhile... you fill up his love language cup and he will let you finish a task.
dd needs quality time to feel loved. When she is upset, it is best to drop what you are doing and go have a tea party, watch a movie with her, play a game... whatever it takes!
I think it has also helped Angie R and I with our relationship. We tend to see the world through our own eyes and expect others to have the same way of feeling love. But... that is not the case.
Here they are!
Acts ofService- You show love to this person my doing the little things. Put away the dishes, take out the trash, fold the laundry...
Quality Time- This person wants your time. If you want to show love, focus your attention with this person and do things together.
Words of Encouragement- This person loves to hear kind words. Genuine compliments make this personality feel loved as this is a very auditory person.
Physical- Need hand holding, touching, caressing,
making love, etc. to feel loved.
Gifts- The size of gift is not important, but this person feels most loved when given a card, flowers, pencil, any type of gift.
In case you are wondering I am a Physical love language person with Words of Encouragement being a close second.
If you want to ask your friends or family, there is a handy little acronym to remember the different love languages. Here it is. STEPG
Service
Time
Encouragement
Physical
Gifts
On a side note, reading the book was very helpful in working with our ds and dd. ds is a Physical guy, and if you take the time to interrupt what you are doing and hold him for awhile... you fill up his love language cup and he will let you finish a task.
dd needs quality time to feel loved. When she is upset, it is best to drop what you are doing and go have a tea party, watch a movie with her, play a game... whatever it takes!
I think it has also helped Angie R and I with our relationship. We tend to see the world through our own eyes and expect others to have the same way of feeling love. But... that is not the case.
Here they are!
Acts ofService- You show love to this person my doing the little things. Put away the dishes, take out the trash, fold the laundry...
Quality Time- This person wants your time. If you want to show love, focus your attention with this person and do things together.
Words of Encouragement- This person loves to hear kind words. Genuine compliments make this personality feel loved as this is a very auditory person.
Physical- Need hand holding, touching, caressing,
making love, etc. to feel loved.
Gifts- The size of gift is not important, but this person feels most loved when given a card, flowers, pencil, any type of gift.
In case you are wondering I am a Physical love language person with Words of Encouragement being a close second.
If you want to ask your friends or family, there is a handy little acronym to remember the different love languages. Here it is. STEPG
Service
Time
Encouragement
Physical
Gifts