Ds wet pants at school

[Melody]

Ds2 was in choir and I guess they are not supposed to leave during a song. So he put his hand up and the teacher said to wait a minute without asking what he wanted. Ds said it was a really long song and couldn't hold it anymore. By the time he got to the bathroom it was too late. Someone had a pair of jogging pants he was able to wear until I got there and of course he was sent back to class after the recess was over (the time they have choir). So he has already been teased about it, especially by the kid who had been bullying him last year. He's in the shower now. Will have to wash the pants he borrowed and return them. I feel bad for him but he's old enough to know he should have left and gone to the washroom anyhow. It's crazy he couldn't hold it or ask to go sooner. I have noticed him squirming before because he had to go and didn't want to stop doing what he was doing to go and I had to tell him to go. This must be a sign something is wrong? Am going to talk to his dr. next time we are in there (not that far off), not sure if it'll do any good. Any advice? I feel bad for him but am frustrated too and don't want to seem like I am angry to him.

[AnnW]

It doesn't sound like to me there is something 'wrong'. More like he waits too long to acknowlege to himself he has to go and then it's squirmy time!
How ridiculous of that teacher to not let him leave.
At our elementary school, we sent a change of pants/underwear in a ziplock bag at the beginning of the year in case of accidents.

[Melody]

If it was a case of the teaching knowing he had to go and didn't let him leave then I would still be at the school bi#$$%$ about it. She didn't know, he put up his hand and she said to wait just a moment and then she would ask what he wanted. Guess she should have asked him then what he wanted. I can't figure out why he let himself wet his pants instead of just leaving the room. I feel for him because he's had a rough go of those boys teasing him and just when it was calming this happens. I don't know what to tell him to get him through this. I did talk to him, I hope he doesn't wait too long anymore. Thanks Ann.

[Diane]

Oh... I feel so bad for him. He probably felt he couldn't just walk out. I think the kids are told not to leave the classroom unless they've got permission from the teacher. I once threw up right on my teacher's lap because we were told NEVER to leave without permission. She wasn't paying any attention to my hand waving, so I walked up just in time to... :rolleyes: :rolleyes: Of course she was quite angry, and I guess I couldn't really blame her. When she asked me why I didn't just go... I told her, you said we couldn't. (she was a mean teacher anyway and I was scared of her) I thought that if I did I'd be in big trouble... LOL

I really feel for your ds... I hope these boy's will stop teasing him and he'll be able to get threw this without too many problems. (((HUGS)))

Diane

[BevJ]

Hugs to your ds Mel...eventually something else will take the kids minds off what happened to your ds at school and this will all be a distant memory. I know that doesn't help now, but you can remind him of that.

[angie r]

Bless his heart, I'm so sorry!

Dd#1 wet her pants in 1st grade at her desk and she kept calling her teacher to come over and her teacher kept saying... come up here... finally teacher went over to her and saw what happened. Thankfully the teacher immediately called all the kids to the "reading rug" and as they made the way over she took dd by the hand to the nurse. They called me and I took clothes in so she didn't have to wear anything "funky." She went right back into class a second thought.

Hopefully this is a learning experience for the teacher and not anything to be "remembered" by his friends.

[PamE]

Poor guy! I imagine he was torn between really knowing how bad the emergency was and whether or not he should really just leave the room. :( Can I wait, can't I? Should I go, shouldn't I?

[Melody]

Thanks everyone. I can say that it's probably more on my mind than his. I was beside myself wanting so bad to protect him from the teasing. Ds1 came home from school and said "everybody" was talking about it and some kids laughing. His good friend didn't say much, just that he heard. I know one girl asked ds2 if he was okay right after it happened so I think the boys are going with the "he wasn't feeling well, didn't know" story.
Angie, nice teacher. It's so nice when they notice something like that and try to cover for the kids. I remember being in 2nd grade and couldn't get the drawstring cord on my pants to untangle. It happened in the girls washroom during recess and a teacher came and found me after an older girl told her. She drove me home, my mom said I could stay if I wanted but chose to go back after I was cleaned up. We didn't have a car and the teacher waited for me to drive me back and kept telling me how brave I was and it was going to be fine. :)

[angie r]

I remember being in 2nd grade and couldn't get the drawstring cord on my pants to untangle. It happened in the girls washroom during recess and a teacher came and found me after an older girl told her. She drove me home, my mom said I could stay if I wanted but chose to go back after I was cleaned up. We didn't have a car and the teacher waited for me to drive me back and kept telling me how brave I was and it was going to be fine. :)

Wow! How nice of her. I sure hope the kids give your ds a break!

[Ryleigh S.]

hugs to your ds.. hope the kids are not too hard on him.

My ds was in a situation similar to this last year. He put his hand up to ask and the teacher, like your sons, asked him to wait a minute. He knew he couldn't wait, but didn't want to get in trouble for just running out so just replied "ok, I'll wait, but you'll be the one cleaning up the puddle on the floor!"
The teacher got him out of there right quick.

My kids are all pretty quiet and shy for the most part but the oldest two can speak up when they have too. Not always in the most appropriate way, but they get their message across.

[Kate]

hugs to your ds.. hope the kids are not too hard on him.

My ds was in a situation similar to this last year. He put his hand up to ask and the teacher, like your sons, asked him to wait a minute. He knew he couldn't wait, but didn't want to get in trouble for just running out so just replied "ok, I'll wait, but you'll be the one cleaning up the puddle on the floor!"
The teacher got him out of there right quick.

My kids are all pretty quiet and shy for the most part but the oldest two can speak up when they have too. Not always in the most appropriate way, but they get their message across.

Hey that's a pretty clever way of handling the problem! At my ds2 school, the kids can only go to the bathroom in school time with a buddy, and they have to ask permission. There should be some kind of protocol for the kids to follow in an emergency when the teacher is too busy to attend to a raised hand right away.

[Melody]

Well the boys now know that no matter what, if they have to go, permission or not, they leave to go to the washroom.
It wasn't as brutal as I thought it would be, ds2 didn't seem to be upset after school on Fri. I asked him what happened and of course the bully said something about it. Ds said his reply was gross but effective. Said to him "oh ya, by the way, thanks for licking that puddle up". Kids around said 'ewww' but the bully didn't have much to say after it. I guess if he didn't give a major reaction to the teasing they felt it wasn't worth it. One down, how many hard lessons left?

[AnnW]

Well the boys now know that no matter what, if they have to go, permission or not, they leave to go to the washroom.
It wasn't as brutal as I thought it would be, ds2 didn't seem to be upset after school on Fri. I asked him what happened and of course the bully said something about it. Ds said his reply was gross but effective. Said to him "oh ya, by the way, thanks for licking that puddle up". Kids around said 'ewww' but the bully didn't have much to say after it. I guess if he didn't give a major reaction to the teasing they felt it wasn't worth it. One down, how many hard lessons left?



Your son is my new hero!!! What a way to think on your feet!

[angie r]

Well the boys now know that no matter what, if they have to go, permission or not, they leave to go to the washroom.
It wasn't as brutal as I thought it would be, ds2 didn't seem to be upset after school on Fri. I asked him what happened and of course the bully said something about it. Ds said his reply was gross but effective. Said to him "oh ya, by the way, thanks for licking that puddle up". Kids around said 'ewww' but the bully didn't have much to say after it. I guess if he didn't give a major reaction to the teasing they felt it wasn't worth it. One down, how many hard lessons left?

That was priceless! Good for your ds!

[Melody]

Thanks. LOL I thought it was good. Ds1 had a situation a couple years ago where he was being teased by a boy in his class. Ds took this kids last name and made it into a name and right then everyone laughed at this other kid and for some reason, he never bothered ds again. lol I am not good thinking on my feet like that at all. I always wish I had said this or that hours after the fact.