View Full Version : BOYS with that TONE
Man, Lately every conversation I have with ds is ugly, his tone of voice is so aggitated...like I was asking him to carry bricks....in a minute, just a second....Geesh.... I just hate the tone....anyone else go through this..he is 10, 11 in August....is this normal?
and then he wants to cuddle at night? but no conversation.
Been there, done that, still doing it, lol. Even at 15, there's the tone of voice, attitude, quiet demeaner/no conversation, but hugs every now and again too. Last night we layed on his bed together watching the last episode of House, which was nice cause it's been a long time since he's let me lay on his bed with him, lol (sshhh, don't tell his friends ;).
KarlaB
05-24-2006, 09:08 AM
I get that from ds once in a while and he just turned 9. :tearhair: Think it's an age/testing thing, but I still don't like it!! At least he's not rolling his eyes at me....yet. :rolleyes:
Diane
05-24-2006, 09:09 AM
I don't think it's just a "boy" thing... my oldest dd started acting like that when she was already 8 years old! :rolleyes: Talk about FRUSTRATING!!! LOL If it helps, he will eventually get over it... but not soon enough. LOL Be happy he still wants to cuddle... :)
Diane
05-24-2006, 09:11 AM
I get that from ds once in a while and he just turned 9. :tearhair: Think it's an age/testing thing, but I still don't like it!! At least he's not rolling his eyes at me....yet. :rolleyes:
Just wait... :( Hope not... LOL
bizymum
05-24-2006, 10:56 AM
My 11 year old is exactly like that. he will be 12 in Dec..It is very frustratiing. What an attitude....
My dd is that way but my ds isn't. It's annoying and frustrating.
I was going to say it is much worse from the girls! Dd started early like Diane's LOL
It's the age. BTDT have the t-shirt with ds (still not finished wearing it) dd gives me that tone too. :rolleyes:
Ryleigh S.
05-24-2006, 04:48 PM
dd#1 is starting to get past that phase thankfully. ds will get like that occasionally, but he is a pretty good spirited kid. Very soft hearted and wanting to help out. Likes to think he is the "MAN" of the house when dh is away.
One of my four year olds is starting in on it waaaayyy too early. Hope she gets it out of her system very quick.
I found with dd it was just best to ignore it. Just pretend I didn't even notice.
Yeah and when they're 15, 16, 17 you are a total idiot who couldn't possibly know as much as they do.
Yeah and when they're 15, 16, 17 you are a total idiot who couldn't possibly know as much as they do.
the key is to keep them really sick and then they don't have the strength to fight! LOL
Linda/NE
05-24-2006, 07:58 PM
Yeah and when they're 15, 16, 17 you are a total idiot who couldn't possibly know as much as they do.
That's my 16 year old right now! You can't correct anything he says in the slightest way with out him turning it around and accusing us of calling him stupid. He IS smarter than us though, ya know, because he can do harder math problems than we can and he knows more about the guitar than we do. LOL!!
I have noticed this tone in daycare kids as young as 7!
Ok, this will sound bad, but I am so glad I am not alone.....Its so frustrating...
Its like he is torn about he feels about everything, everyone, and ARGH
Diane
05-24-2006, 11:18 PM
Ok, this will sound bad, but I am so glad I am not alone.....Its so frustrating...
Its like he is torn about he feels about everything, everyone, and ARGH
:biglaugh: Yep... he's "normal". LOL
angie r
05-25-2006, 06:21 AM
the key is to keep them really sick and then they don't have the strength to fight! LOL
Oh Ann, you are really bad! :lol:
angie r
05-25-2006, 06:24 AM
My ds just turned 10 and AMEN sisters!! I layed him out last weekend for it. I will be sitting and talking to my friends and he will contradict everything I'm saying. So rude and so unlike what he used to be like. Then he will discipline his sisters like he is a parent?! He has been a little better since we talked about it though.
Melody
05-25-2006, 09:07 AM
I get it from time to time from both boys but not very often. Once I hear it I snap back to not use it with me! lol Sometimes I let it slide if I know something is up or the other brothers are on his nerves, they don't realize it and everyone has their moments. I'm sure it'll hit harder when they are teens. yuck! lol
KarlaB
05-25-2006, 07:15 PM
Then he will discipline his sisters like he is a parent?! He has been a little better since we talked about it though.
OMG! Oldest ds does this a little, too!! He tells his brother what to stop doing, what to do, how to do it, blah, blah, blah. I can't tell you how many times I have told him he is not the parent. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: Sorry, but I am so glad to hear I am not alone. LOL
OMG! Oldest ds does this a little, too!! He tells his brother what to stop doing, what to do, how to do it, blah, blah, blah. I can't tell you how many times I have told him he is not the parent. :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes: Sorry, but I am so glad to hear I am not alone. LOL
You are sooo not alone! :rolleyes: Dd1 (the oldest) is the same way. Drives me nuts!
Linda/NE
05-25-2006, 11:10 PM
My ds just turned 10 and AMEN sisters!! I layed him out last weekend for it. I will be sitting and talking to my friends and he will contradict everything I'm saying. So rude and so unlike what he used to be like. Then he will discipline his sisters like he is a parent?! He has been a little better since we talked about it though.
My kids not only do this at home but at work too! Do you know how difficult it is to discipline a child when another child interrupts and tries to do it himself? Dss # 1 & 2 are constantly stepping in when I'm disciplining someone and then tell me I 'let them get away with everything" Um, what I'd like to know is how can they expect the child to listen to me when they won't stay out of it so I can handle it!??! GRRR!!!!!
I think part of my boys' actions stem from having them babysit the younger siblings so much. So, is it a bad thing to have older siblings babysit younger ones??
the key is to keep them really sick and then they don't have the strength to fight! LOL
I had to laugh, but that's so "wrong". But then hey, a parent's got to do what a parent's got to do right?
Leigh
05-26-2006, 08:02 AM
You know....ya'll scare me with what I have to look forward to, but I can't wait. LOL!!!!
Diane
05-26-2006, 09:57 AM
You know....ya'll scare me with what I have to look forward to, but I can't wait. LOL!!!!
Some day when your ds is doing this to you you'll think back to our conversation here and say... Oh, this must be what they were all talking about. LOL :biglaugh:
Leigh
05-26-2006, 11:29 AM
Yep, I am sure that I will, and I am sure that ya'll will be here to remind me.
Diane
05-26-2006, 07:48 PM
Yep, I am sure that I will, and I am sure that ya'll will be here to remind me.
LOL... do you realize just how many years that is? :) Hopefully we'll all still be here to remind you. LOL
Leigh
05-26-2006, 10:23 PM
Now, it won't be but about 5-8 years the way things are going, and ya'll better be around to help me out!
Diane
05-26-2006, 10:33 PM
Now, it won't be but about 5-8 years the way things are going, and ya'll better be around to help me out!
I'm planning on being here... but you never know. Hopefully David/Pam will still have this place for us to come to. :)
Robert Ware
05-27-2006, 02:00 AM
I can only speak on a personal level, really. I'm a 17 year old, and for the most part I like to think I'm the good kid- helping out, doing what I'm asked, ect
But the thing is, just don't think we guys relate well to our mothers. Whereas girls can, and get along with both parents in general, males have nothing in commen with their mother, and constantly find theat they're clashing ego's with their father to be the 'alpha male'
Children are always going to be torn about everything, especially the guys. As you know the physichal side of a boys body and mind develops first, where as girls develop both sides equally (left/right physichal/mental). This is why girls are generally smarter, and outperform boys until College stage.
As a teenager, I have never felt I could talk to my Mum, and though I know I can, I still don't feel as though I can, if that makes sense. Add the fact my dad is a racist, sexist, (insert bad words here) and you have it- typical teenager
Girls can be as bad, but it would be a lie to say boys aren't the main cause of societies problems, both at home and out.
Ok...I know I had a point somewhere. :rolleyes: Meh, I'm sure I'll remember it
Now, it won't be but about 5-8 years the way things are going, and ya'll better be around to help me out!
well, considering I have been here for over 10 years, I can't imagine that I wouldn't!
Diane
05-27-2006, 08:33 AM
If the board is still here... I will be too. LOL I can't remember exactly how any years I've been here, but I know it's been a loong looong time. :)
Leigh
05-27-2006, 09:11 AM
well, considering I have been here for over 10 years, I can't imagine that I wouldn't!
You better not go anywhere.... We would be lost here without you.
Leigh
05-27-2006, 09:12 AM
If the board is still here... I will be too. LOL I can't remember exactly how any years I've been here, but I know it's been a loong looong time. :)
Yeah, you better stay too....I can't imagine the board without any of you!
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