Monday 7/24/06 [Archive] - Kids Crafts Forum

Leigh

07-24-2006, 07:02 AM

Good morning everyone!!! I am sitting here debating what to do first this morning. I am going to fix breakfast in a minute and eat, and then probably throw the bed clothes in the wash. Dh has been sweating terrible and they smell. I need to clean toilets and tidy up the rest of the house. Our table right by the door seems to be a catch all for everything, so it needs to be cleaned off, and I need to find my prescription for my diabetes test strips and stuff, so I can take it in and get it filled today. Other than that, I hope to get the babies room taped up some, so they can start painting as soon as the bed is moved out.

Have a great day everyone!

littlesista06

07-24-2006, 07:41 AM

Good morning! ;)
Going to finish laundry and get it put away if it kills me. Lots to do around here; we've got dh's family coming over Wed. night to celebrate summer b'days (dh's, his brother and a niece). Of course, I won't hear if bil's kids are coming until they walk in the door or not. Grrrr.

I'm irritated at dh b/c I started asking him 3 weeks ago what he'd like to do for his b'day and he never answered. Soooo mil calls yesterday and wants to talk about his b'day plans. I put her off until later last night and told dh I hated him for putting me in the position of dealing/negotiating with her. He then decided he'd be fine with everyone over here for cake/ice cream. So, I call her back and she was planning on dinner at her house. He's shaking his head "no", so I'm stuck! I was making the worst faces at him. :lol: We're having everyone here but I'm telling him to call her back to confirm it!

I guess the downstairs bathroom is at the top of my list - I imagine someone will want to use it and it still has stripped wallpaper on the floor. :blush:

BevJ

07-24-2006, 08:01 AM

Jen, have fun with your http://www.freewebdesign.be/smileys/images/other/smilie_waschmaschine1.gif
and Leigh changing your bedsheets http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/3/3_13_7.gif

I'm working, of course. Dh and ds left at 4:00 this a.m. to go north fishing with two of dh's buddies. I won't see them until later tomorrow night or maybe Wednesday. I have a girlfriend coming for dinner tonight.

My nephew and his fiance had their baby late on Saturday night (8 days overdue). A girl, 8 pounds 14.5 ounces. Victoria Grace. I can't wait to see her!

vea29

07-24-2006, 08:12 AM

I'm doing basic cleaning today....this house is disgusting. There is so much junk mail, and junk around. And my kitchen is just filthy. Anyway....not going to over do it on my first day off.

Have a great day!

angie r

07-24-2006, 08:37 AM

sista - make your dh call her when making those sort of plans! I hope it all goes smoothly.
vea - enjoy your day off!
Bev - congrats on being an a great aunt!
Leigh - Did you find a way to afford the testing supplies?

I just woke up when a friend called and then MIL called right after that. MIL is having some tests run and was inbetween having things done so she wanted someone to chat with. Brichard is in Charlotte again until tomorrow night. This is his 3rd trip there in the last week!

I must clean house, I must clean house, I must clean house... lol

Have a great day!

Melody

07-24-2006, 08:41 AM

Laundry this am and general house work. Not sure what's up this afternoon. I'm sure the backyard/pool. Kids are still sleeping, ds3 is watching a movie.
Going shopping at a flea market in uebec (I hate missing that letter!) tomorrow with our Priest. He was wanting to go and my ears perked up at 600 vendors. I love flea markets. Dh is keeping the kids, I want to do some serious flea market shopping without being nagged. lol Leaving early, I think it's a fair drive from here.
Going over the list I made of things I don't want to forget taking on the train in our carry on's when we go. I have travel games for the kids, puzzles, books. Going with one suitcase more than half empty so mom and I can shop. Trying to find us all a beaded pillow to bring, I'm sure the pillows they have won't be all that comfy. Walmart only had girl patterns, so hopefully a different store like Zellers will have some.
Hope you all have a good day :)

RCT

07-24-2006, 08:47 AM

Morning, HOT here already...we are being asked to conserve electricity so we don't have rolling brown outs (where they purposely shut off your power for a certain time, I believe)

Kids are going to the Y. I have to get that car re inspected at lunch today.
Cross your fingers that it passes.....:)

Have a nice Monday all.

Leigh

07-24-2006, 09:08 AM

Leigh - Did you find a way to afford the testing supplies?

I called the dietician on Friday in tears, and I am not sure what she did, but she called me back at about 5 on Friday and my medical insurance is going to cover it. They are also enrolling me in a healthy mothers expecting program. I guess it just takes an important person calling to let them know they have to do it...lol!

PamE

07-24-2006, 09:18 AM

I called the dietician on Friday in tears, and I am not sure what she did, but she called me back at about 5 on Friday and my medical insurance is going to cover it. They are also enrolling me in a healthy mothers expecting program. I guess it just takes an important person calling to let them know they have to do it...lol!

My ins. did the same thing, Leigh, until my doc pitched a fit. She was royally pissed! 8o

angie r

07-24-2006, 09:38 AM

SpeechMom

07-24-2006, 09:52 AM

Going to get my drivers license changed today - get to put my marvy new name on it! Also getting a new picture no matter what it takes.

Dh and I have decided not to continue fighting with my ex over ds3's school. I will drive him over to the old school. At some point somebody's got to be sane about this. I'm still really pissed about it, though.

Leigh

07-24-2006, 10:24 AM

Donna- It sounds like you are being the bigger person. I know it has to be hard, but good for you!

JAK

07-24-2006, 10:46 AM

Just got done eating dinner and found a channel that is playing ER at 6. I can watch it then instead of at 8 and then get to bed early. I'm so tired today. I went to be at 9ish and didn't get to sleep until after 11 because it was so hot. Hopefully tonight is better.

Bev- :tinysmile congrats on the new niece.
Leigh- glad you were able to get your supplies covered
Mel- when do you leave?

littlesista06

07-24-2006, 11:58 AM

Leigh, yay!! Glad the supplies are covered.
JAK - I miss you posting on here. :( I know you're super busy. Hope things are going well and the weather cools off for ya.

I am filthy. Finished getting the pieces of wallpaper off the wall then sanded the walls down. I'm covered in, what I guess is, drywall sawdust. I washed the bathroom down, mopped and guess I'll see about getting primer tonight.

I came out of the bathroom to see that the soap dispenser had spilled on the carpet... grrrr! I can't add water to it to clean it so I'm just sopping up as much as I can with clean, white towels.

Had my pity party for one earlier. I'm just so tired of being the only one who cares about things around here. I can't get dh off his duff some of the time and I always get like this when we're having people over. Clean the house, clean up the yard, clean up the deck, get new flowers out, why hasn't he trimmed the yard since he mowed it? ARGH! I think he gets off really easy just having the outside of the house to take care of. Esp. since that doesn't cover pulling weeds, planting flowers, washing windows or powerwashing the house. I so wish I had the money to just pick up the phone and get done what I want done.

Ok, I'm done. Back to the bathroom.

kat

07-24-2006, 12:53 PM

((((Jenn)))) we've all been there with our dh's.
Donna hope you get a great pic if that is possible. Mine never turns out good. Don't you wish you could just take one to them that you know is good and say, "use this one".
JAK hope you get some rest and aren't so tired.
Leigh, good news about your supplies. They probably re-coded it and the insurance accepted it. Glad it worked out.
Renee, hope you don't have to experience any black-outs. We've finally gotten a break from the heat. Went out to water this morning and it was a little chilly. Dgb got to play in the yard about an hour this morning before lunch and naps.
Angie, hope you get your house clean. Prayers said for mil's test results.
Mel, enjoy your shopping.
Bev, congrats on being an aunt.

Keeping the babies again this week. Trying to stay a step ahead of them at all times. They are napping right now. Ds has gone to school to check on registration and senior pictures. I can't believe my baby will be a senior this year.

JAK

07-24-2006, 01:01 PM

JAK - I miss you posting on here. :( I know you're super busy. Hope things are going well and the weather cools off for ya.

Thanks! I'm still here. :goofy: I'm having issues right now. I love my job (training) but it's frustrating not getting paid. I get up at 4:45 to go to work and don't get home until 5:00 some nights. I just want some $$$$. :bawling: I work more than 40 hours a week. I am getting great experience. I am just worried about not being able to find a job when this is all said and done. I only have about 9 weeks left!!! :yippee: Then I'm having mixed emotions because I am REALLY missing working with kids. I miss being around babies all day. It sounds corny, but my heart hurts when I see babies and little kids. I won't do home daycare as I purposely picked a house that would not be safe for little kids. That was my way of insuring that I really wouldn't do it again. I'm just torn I guess. I really wanted a change from working with kids and I have it and I LOVE IT. There is still that part of me that aches to be around them. I just love watching children grow up before your eyes. From being babies who need you to do everything for them, to sitting, then crawling, to walking and talking. It amazes me. I guess I'm just a little crazy. :crazyroll Who knows what will happen when I start looking for a job.

Beth/TX

07-24-2006, 07:28 PM

I called the dietician on Friday in tears, and I am not sure what she did, but she called me back at about 5 on Friday and my medical insurance is going to cover it. They are also enrolling me in a healthy mothers expecting program. I guess it just takes an important person calling to let them know they have to do it...lol!

That's so great they are covering your supplies! I know all too well how expensive those things are.

RCT

07-24-2006, 07:31 PM

My Car passed....:)

Beth/TX

07-24-2006, 07:32 PM

My Car passed....:)

Great news!

Beth/TX

07-24-2006, 07:36 PM

Bev-Congrats on Victoria Grace!
JAK-Wishing a great job for you when you're finished with school!
Donna-How frustrating! It sucks to be the bigger person sometimes.
Sista-Hang in there!

Hope everyone has a great nite!

Cathy

07-24-2006, 07:47 PM

Dh and I have decided not to continue fighting with my ex over ds3's school. I will drive him over to the old school. At some point somebody's got to be sane about this. I'm still really pissed about it, though.

(((Donna))) BTDT Being the grown-up isn't as easy as it looks. And it hurts too. I'm glad you have your dh to talk things over with.

I'd say your dks will see how you act and thank you someday, but it'd probably be a lie. Be right with yourself and God, know that you REALLY want what's best for them, and hang in there.

SpeechMom

07-24-2006, 09:22 PM

I'd say your dks will see how you act and thank you someday, but it'd probably be a lie.

LOL!

Be right with yourself and God, know that you REALLY want what's best for them, and hang in there.

That's really the only comfort in all this. I'm trying. Its so easy to go over to the dark side, though :) .

Diane

07-24-2006, 09:51 PM

http://www.freewebdesign.be/smileys/images/other/smilie_waschmaschine1.gif
http://smileys.smileycentral.com/cat/3/3_13_7.gif

Cute... I just love your images. LOL

Diane

07-24-2006, 10:09 PM

My Car passed....:)

Good... I'll bet you were relieved/happy. :)

Diane

07-24-2006, 10:13 PM

(((Donna))) BTDT Being the grown-up isn't as easy as it looks. And it hurts too. I'm glad you have your dh to talk things over with.

I'd say your dks will see how you act and thank you someday, but it'd probably be a lie. Be right with yourself and God, know that you REALLY want what's best for them, and hang in there.

That and she's not making a big deal about it and/or letting (showing) that it bothers here... which is probably the one reason why he did this in the first place. Hang in there Donna... :) I'm sure it's not an easy thing to have to deal with. (((HUGS)))

AnnW

07-25-2006, 04:16 AM

Donna, does your ds like his old school?

SpeechMom

07-25-2006, 08:09 AM

Donna, does your ds like his old school?

yes. Its the only school he's ever gone to.

AnnW

07-25-2006, 05:37 PM

yes. Its the only school he's ever gone to.

so, that is an upside

SpeechMom

07-25-2006, 06:23 PM

so, that is an upside
yep.......

AnnW

07-25-2006, 07:01 PM

yep.......

i can kind of see why your ex might not want him changed. was your ds upset? why had you wanted to change him?

SpeechMom

07-25-2006, 08:20 PM

i can kind of see why your ex might not want him changed. was your ds upset? why had you wanted to change him?

I can see how it might seem that I'm being unreasonable. After all, I'm the one who moved, why should the kids have to change schools and why should my ex now have to drive the kids to a different city? What most people don't know is that when we divorced I fought him over one thing - the right to be named the primary guardian of the kids - the right to determine their primary place of residence. He kept the house, I agreed to a lower amount of child support than I was entitled to, I took less than half of my share of the retirement, I took a huge chunk of mutual debt, and I agreed to joint custody of the boys. Until now I have never lived in a better school zone than he did, so I always drove the boys to their old schools no matter where I lived or worked. I would not even consider changing my oldest son's school because he's a senior this year. My middle will be a freshman this year, and he wants to start fresh in a new high school. He deserves that chance, and I am working another angle to try and get that for him. My youngest ds has learning disabilities, dyslexia and ADHD which his teachers and I feel are exasperated by the fact that his Dad babies him. I also have expertise in dealing with school issues that his Dad doesn't. He doesn't attend ARD meetings, nor does he read the IEPs or progress reports that are sent home. I would be willing to bet any amount of money that the man can't even tell you what services the child is receiving. While the school he goes to now is very good, I feel the one he would attend near me is a little better, and the distance from his Dad would allow him to learn to do more on his own. Ds and I visited the school last year to make sure it was up to my expectations. If he attended school here, he would have a chance to make friends, and he would have friends in both places. Now there is little opportunity for him to make friendships here and it will feel less like a home to him. I truly believe my ex is only fighting this because it will cause more work for him. If all 3 boys attended school in his town, the oldest could drive the middle son to school, and the youngest could walk. I asked my middle son what his Dad says to him when ds tells him he wants to change schools, and he says "He doesn't have an answer for that - he just looks at me." Sorry if this is rambling - I really can't tell. I truly believe I have the right to do this, and that it is in the best interest of the boys. The only reason I can't is because he snuck into court without notifying me. The judge had to make a decision based on something, and all she had was his side of the story.

Linda/NE

07-25-2006, 09:53 PM

I The only reason I can't is because he snuck into court without notifying me. The judge had to make a decision based on something, and all she had was his side of the story.

That is so unfair and frustrating!! Dh's "son's" mom did that to him one time. She moved out of state and went to court to get permission to take the kid. All dh got in the mail was a letter saying (dont' know the exact words but the gist of it was this) it was granted that the kid could move out of state with her since dh didn't bother to appear in court and voice his objection. (not that he would have objected anyway.) It's kind of hard to object when you don't know about it in the first place! The wording too really sounded de-grading towards dh.

Diane

07-25-2006, 10:22 PM

I can see how it might seem that I'm being unreasonable. After all, I'm the one who moved, why should the kids have to change schools and why should my ex now have to drive the kids to a different city? What most people don't know is that when we divorced I fought him over one thing - the right to be named the primary guardian of the kids - the right to determine their primary place of residence. He kept the house, I agreed to a lower amount of child support than I was entitled to, I took less than half of my share of the retirement, I took a huge chunk of mutual debt, and I agreed to joint custody of the boys. Until now I have never lived in a better school zone than he did, so I always drove the boys to their old schools no matter where I lived or worked. I would not even consider changing my oldest son's school because he's a senior this year. My middle will be a freshman this year, and he wants to start fresh in a new high school. He deserves that chance, and I am working another angle to try and get that for him. My youngest ds has learning disabilities, dyslexia and ADHD which his teachers and I feel are exasperated by the fact that his Dad babies him. I also have expertise in dealing with school issues that his Dad doesn't. He doesn't attend ARD meetings, nor does he read the IEPs or progress reports that are sent home. I would be willing to bet any amount of money that the man can't even tell you what services the child is receiving. While the school he goes to now is very good, I feel the one he would attend near me is a little better, and the distance from his Dad would allow him to learn to do more on his own. Ds and I visited the school last year to make sure it was up to my expectations. If he attended school here, he would have a chance to make friends, and he would have friends in both places. Now there is little opportunity for him to make friendships here and it will feel less like a home to him. I truly believe my ex is only fighting this because it will cause more work for him. If all 3 boys attended school in his town, the oldest could drive the middle son to school, and the youngest could walk. I asked my middle son what his Dad says to him when ds tells him he wants to change schools, and he says "He doesn't have an answer for that - he just looks at me." Sorry if this is rambling - I really can't tell. I truly believe I have the right to do this, and that it is in the best interest of the boys. The only reason I can't is because he snuck into court without notifying me. The judge had to make a decision based on something, and all she had was his side of the story.

(((DONNA))) So sorry you're having to go through so much with your ex. It definitely sounds like he wasn't playing a fair game. :(

AnnW

07-26-2006, 09:02 AM

BevJ

07-26-2006, 09:05 AM

SpeechMom

07-26-2006, 09:16 AM

Donna, it sounds like you have bent over backwards. I know it's expensive, but imho, I think you should go back and challenge this. Don't process servers have to show proof of service? If so, can't you prove that you weren't served? Good luck.

I went to the courthouse and researced my file, and yes there is a citation in there. When I saw it, it was like seeing it for the first time. It says I was served at 1:30pm on March 24th, which was right after I would have gotten home from being in court for something else, so I was hysterical. I guess its possible that I was served, and don't remember it, but dh would have remembered it because he came over that afternoon because I was so upset about the other court case (which also involves one of my kids, so I can't discuss that one). I would have mentioned it to him and he would have remembered. I received a copy of the suit in the mail, so I took that to an attorney. She said I did not have to respond in writing because I hadn't been served. The alloted time passed, I was then in default, and my ex and his attorney ran into court without any obligation to notify me. I did not receive paperwork about the judgement until after the time to appeal had passed, so now we would have to show that there has been enough of a change in circumstances to warrant the judge hearing this case again. Or we have to wait a year.

Melody

07-26-2006, 09:22 AM

I went to the courthouse and researced my file, and yes there is a citation in there. When I saw it, it was like seeing it for the first time. It says I was served at 1:30pm on March 24th, which was right after I would have gotten home from being in court for something else, so I was hysterical. I guess its possible that I was served, and don't remember it, but dh would have remembered it because he came over that afternoon because I was so upset about the other court case (which also involves one of my kids, so I can't discuss that one). I would have mentioned it to him and he would have remembered. I received a copy of the suit in the mail, so I took that to an attorney. She said I did not have to respond in writing because I hadn't been served. The alloted time passed, I was then in default, and my ex and his attorney ran into court without any obligation to notify me. I did not receive paperwork about the judgement until after the time to appeal had passed, so now we would have to show that there has been enough of a change in circumstances to warrant the judge hearing this case again. Or we have to wait a year.

(((Donna))) I'm so sorry you are going through all of this.

PamE

07-26-2006, 10:36 AM

I went to the courthouse and researced my file, and yes there is a citation in there. When I saw it, it was like seeing it for the first time. It says I was served at 1:30pm on March 24th, which was right after I would have gotten home from being in court for something else, so I was hysterical. I guess its possible that I was served, and don't remember it, but dh would have remembered it because he came over that afternoon because I was so upset about the other court case (which also involves one of my kids, so I can't discuss that one). I would have mentioned it to him and he would have remembered. I received a copy of the suit in the mail, so I took that to an attorney. She said I did not have to respond in writing because I hadn't been served. The alloted time passed, I was then in default, and my ex and his attorney ran into court without any obligation to notify me. I did not receive paperwork about the judgement until after the time to appeal had passed, so now we would have to show that there has been enough of a change in circumstances to warrant the judge hearing this case again. Or we have to wait a year.

I know I'm preaching to the choir, but man, that is so not fair. :\ It's sad that your xh doesn't seem to care that what's convenient for him isn't what's best for your ds. I think kat's sos acronym applies very well here!

AnnW

07-26-2006, 10:55 AM

Don't you have automatic appeal if you didn't receive notice of the judgement until after the time of appeal? that is a violation of your due process.
sorry it's all such a mess!

SpeechMom

07-26-2006, 11:11 AM

Don't you have automatic appeal if you didn't receive notice of the judgement until after the time of appeal? that is a violation of your due process.
sorry it's all such a mess!

I'll ask again, but the attorney said we didn't.

Beth/TX

07-26-2006, 01:04 PM

kat

07-26-2006, 01:45 PM

(((((Donna))))) I cannot imagine going through this as a principle player. It's killing me watching ds go through all this.

SpeechMom

07-26-2006, 03:10 PM

I'll ask again, but the attorney said we didn't.

Talked with the attorney again. He says that when I did not respond to being served, I was in default and basically waive my right to any appeal, etc.

Beth/TX

07-26-2006, 06:33 PM

Talk with the attorney again. He says that when I did not respond to being served, I was in default and basically waive my right to any appeal, etc.

Ugh...sorry to hear that.

littlesista06

07-26-2006, 09:04 PM

((((((((((Donna))))))))))