Girl troubles

[Ryleigh]

ds came home from JK this afternoon with a black eye but wouldn't tell me what happened. He just walked in said, "I know my eye is black, so don't ask about it" and kept going through to his room to change.
dd came in a few minutes later and after making sure ds wasn't within hearing distance she asked if I saw his eye. She handed me a note that ds' teacher sent along with her, since she didn't think it would get here via ds. Apperently during playtime the kissed one of the girls in his class and I guess she didn't appreciate it too much and belted him. His poor little eye is all red, black and swollen. I feel bad for him but yet I feel like laughing. He doesn't know that I know what happened so I just told him that he can come to me when he is ready to talk about it.

[Diane]

Oh my goodness... she BELTED him??? LOL... I'm so sorry because it probably isn't really funny but then again... it really is. LOL How old his your ds? I think that you did the right thing in not letting him know that you already knew what happened... telling him that he can come to you when he feels like he wanted to talk about it. He's probably a little bit humiliated and embarrassed by the whole situation :) Oh well... I guess all I can say is... live and learn and I guess he just learned the hard way that you can't just go up and kiss a girl just because you want to. LOL Poor little guy, I really feel sorry for him too... :) He will NEVER forget his first kiss experience... (if it is his first one... LOL) Let us know when/if he decides to let you in on what happened. :)

Diane... :wave:

[Melody]

Oh no! The poor kid. It must have been a complete shock to feel the power of the punch instead of the power of the kiss. How old is he? You're right though, it isn't funny but it kind of is. I too think you handled it well and just pretended that you didn't know what happened. I hope he isn't old enough to get too much grief from the other boys about it.

[KarlaB]

Poor little guy. I feel for him because he must be embarrassed, but it is a cute story and he will look back and laugh at it - someday. :) Hope his ego is hanging in there and that he tells you about it soon. It'll be interesting to hear his perspective about what happened. Maybe he thought she liked him?? Or maybe it was done on a bet or dare? :) I think you handled things well, too!! :D

[Ryleigh]

Ds finally came to my room about 10:00 last night and said "arn't you even going to ask me what happened?" I just said, " no, you told me not too. But I'd like to hear about it if you want to tell me." He climbed up on my bed and snuggled up to me for a few minutes and then said he would tell me as long as I didn't get mad. i told him that I would try my best.
His version of the story is that there was a group of four on them playing house in the dramatic corner. Victoria ( the slugger) was the Mommy, Ds was the Daddy and the other two were their children. He came home from work and gave her a kiss like he has seen dh do when he gets home. I guess she didn't enjoy it to much, because that's when she hit him. He says he'll never kiss another girl as long as he lives. He was more upset because he said the teacher gave him a time out for upsetting her, but didn't say anything to her about hitting him. He came home today, much happier and says that he is friends with Victoria again but NO KISSING!!! LOL

[Melody]

Oh that is just too cute. Thanks for sharing the story. LOL

[KarlaB]

So, they didn't say, "Let's kiss and make up." :lol:

So glad things are better for him. Makes my heart just about break for him, but what a cute story!!! :)

[kat]

Bless his heart. It is one of those bitter-sweet, rites of passage kind of stories. I laughed and had a few tears come up as well. You handled it beautifully.

[Diane]

What a sweetheart... here the poor kid was only mimicking what he see's mom and dad doing, not thinking that there was anything wrong with what he was doing. He must have been SO shocked when she slugged him one. LOL I'm SO glad that him and Victoria were able to work through this and become friends again...

Do you keep a journal? If so... it might be a cute story to write about, and if you can... a picture of him with his black eye. :) What a cute story!!! :)

Diane... :wave:

[Lynda/WA]

I think that's really cute and I like how you handled it. I like how the teacher handled it overall and hopefully she also spoke with the girl about not hitting. Since she didn't blow the kissing part into a big deal I'm guessing she did talk to the girl behind the scenes as well.

BTW, we have had kindergarten boys get it for sexual harrassment for kissing a girl here in the states. I think at least one was suspended from school. I started a topic on zero tolerance on the debate board awhile back that I think included that. Zero tolerance meaning they don't take any of the factors into consideration and base the punishment on the crime. In other words they wouldn't care how old he was or that they were playing house and he immitated dad.

[BigDaddy]

Originally posted by Lynda/WA
I think that's really cute and I like how you handled it. I like how the teacher handled it overall and hopefully she also spoke with the girl about not hitting. Since she didn't blow the kissing part into a big deal I'm guessing she did talk to the girl behind the scenes as well.

BTW, we have had kindergarten boys get it for sexual harrassment for kissing a girl here in the states. I think at least one was suspended from school. I started a topic on zero tolerance on the debate board awhile back that I think included that. Zero tolerance meaning they don't take any of the factors into consideration and base the punishment on the crime. In other words they wouldn't care how old he was or that they were playing house and he immitated dad.

That would be something for his school record wouldn't it. Kicked out of Junior Kindergaten for kissing a girl. (on the cheek) all because I give my wife a kiss when I get home. I agree there have to be some limits, but maybe they should spend some time and investigate a situation before they comprimise a childs whole education/ future over something so innocent. Grade 3 and 4, we played kissing tag all the time at recess. Our class would have been suspended permanently by the end of first term.
I must say I was shocked when dw told me about it over the phone. His eye doesn't look too bad now, but I guess I missed the worst of it.

[kat]

Ryleigh and Bigdaddy I just saw a commercial on TV tonight with a boy a couple years older that your ds on the computer looking up information on "girls", how to introduce yourself ... next scene he comes back to the computer with a black eye, and ends up throwing the computer out the window. I immediately thought of you guys. The commercial was for a phone company (I think) selling faster downloads.

[RCT]

Oh your poor son....he may never kiss another girl...or ask first before kissing....LOL...I too loved the way you handled it..and you should feel proud that he emulates you and your dh.....cute story and thanks for sharing it with us....don't forget to write that in his baby book.....:lol:

[Ryleigh]

I guess Victoria can't be too upset. ds came home today with an invitation to her b'day party in two weeks.
(it has xoxoxoxoxoxo printed all over it, front and back.):lol:

[KarlaB]

Originally posted by Ryleigh
I guess Victoria can't be too upset. ds came home today with an invitation to her b'day party in two weeks.
(it has xoxoxoxoxoxo printed all over it, front and back.):lol:

:lol: ROFLMBO! :lol: She's a little young to be playing these mind games with him already, isn't she? :newwink:

[angie r]

What a little tease!!! That is so cute!!! What a wonderful story.

[Diane]

How cute... I'll bet that your ds was just grinning ear to ear... :) Keep us updated!!!

Diane... :wave: