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Ok, so I worked until 5:00 PM got tons accomplished there...I love what I do and it makes the day just fly by...I am on a roll, get into my car, and the phone rings, its the kids...can you stop and get some Sunny Delight for the Halloween party tomorrow at school...SUREring ring, can you get my a spiral notepad for school I need a three subject...SURE so while I am there, I get a few other things we needed....phone rings again....I want to spend some alone time with you, and then I hear the other one say I want time with her too.....SURE I get home, and the house is a mess, no one picked up after themselves....dd is still working on home work...dh didn't clean up anything before he left...I feel so strectch...I was fine...then I come home and have to carry the entire load for the rest of the night too....argh....why does it all have to fall on me....I want some ALONE TIME...and they each want me...so I made a plan, I have frozen pizza in the oven....once we have eaten each child can pick out a book to read together, or something they want to talk about....let's see its 6:42 here....they go to bed at 9:00 should be a fun evening.....
Oh and I hate DH working late...I hate it....its only until Christmas, but I hate it nonetheless....I feel single.
littlesista06
10-30-2006, 09:13 PM
((((((((((Renee))))))))))))
We just couldn't wait to grow up, get married and be mommies could we? lol
All I can say is muddle through the evening - 9:00 will be there before you know it and then they will be your sweet sleeping little angels.
And you are the best, to have a plan to spend time with your sweet kids instead of hollering and locking yourself in the bathroom with a bubble bath. :)
Dh works late most of this week but I don't have the pressures of a full time job wearing me out. Hang in there and next time you're at the store, buy your favorite ice cream treat. :)
Diane
10-30-2006, 09:19 PM
I'm sure it's not quite what you were looking forward to coming home from a hard day at work... but it must make you feel so good knowing that your kids are looking forward to you coming home and being able to spend some one on one time with their mom... and you're great for doing it, even though you really probably don't feel much like it. LOL Just keep thinking ahead to 9:00 and know that you WILL eventually have/get your time to yourself. Leave the house work (it will be there tomorrow) and run yourself a nice hot bath... light a few candles and relax!! Hope the rest of your evening is a good one.
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instead of hollering and locking yourself in the bathroom with a bubble bath. :)
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Ack! This is what I do! LOL
I hear ya Renee. It seems the more I need some alone time, it is almost like the kids can sense it and they all of a sudden become restless and needy.
littlesista06
10-31-2006, 06:12 AM
Well I do too (minus the bath, can't stand sitting in my own filth)! That's why I was impressed at how nice she was being to her kids. LOL
Ack! This is what I do! LOL
I hear ya Renee. It seems the more I need some alone time, it is almost like the kids can sense it and they all of a sudden become restless and needy.
Right down to the dog...I'm not a bath gal either, unless I get a hot tub bath...which I don't have...LOL....need another weekend away with dh and the jacuzzi room....;)
I did it, each one got 1/2 an hour...read, talked...started to fall asleep...but I did it....
Funny dh got home after 9 MEN!
vea29
10-31-2006, 08:50 AM
Ack! This is what I do! LOL
I hear ya Renee. It seems the more I need some alone time, it is almost like the kids can sense it and they all of a sudden become restless and needy.
Right down to the dog...I'm not a bath gal either, unless I get a hot tub bath...which I don't have...LOL....need another weekend away with dh and the jacuzzi room....;)
I did it, each one got 1/2 an hour...read, talked...started to fall asleep...but I did it....
Funny dh got home after 9 MEN!
I think men have a sixth sense about that...dbf comes home right as dinners done cooking etc.
Mickey
10-31-2006, 10:11 AM
Ack! This is what I do! LOL
I hear ya Renee. It seems the more I need some alone time, it is almost like the kids can sense it and they all of a sudden become restless and needy.
Right down to the dog...I'm not a bath gal either, unless I get a hot tub bath...which I don't have...LOL....need another weekend away with dh and the jacuzzi room....;)
I did it, each one got 1/2 an hour...read, talked...started to fall asleep...but I did it....
Funny dh got home after 9 MEN!
I just have to say that I've felt that way, too, and you are wonderful for making time for your kids despite that!
I hope your dh doesn't have to work any nights after December!
What about making sure the kids know that it's their job to make sure certain things are done before you get home? Otherwise they'll have to miss out on "Mom" time doing chores, etc before they do fun stuff? I'm such a grouch if the house is a mess that I don't know if I'd be able to just let it go. (also, if I let it go at all it seems like things explode and we end up needing a week to get things back together.) I struggle to find the balance between my roles of Mom and Maid. :rolleyes: :lol:
Diane
10-31-2006, 11:41 AM
What about making sure the kids know that it's their job to make sure certain things are done before you get home? Otherwise they'll have to miss out on "Mom" time doing chores, etc before they do fun stuff? I'm such a grouch if the house is a mess that I don't know if I'd be able to just let it go. (also, if I let it go at all it seems like things explode and we end up needing a week to get things back together.) I struggle to find the balance between my roles of Mom and Maid. :rolleyes: :lol:
ITA with Pam... Spread some of the chores around to the kids, they're certainly old enough to help with some of the things that need to be done around the house. That way... they'll benefit by having more alone time with a less stressed mom. It's a lot easier to spread the work around to many instead of expecting just one to do it all. Hang in there, Renee... (((HUGS)))
It's a lot easier to spread the work around to many instead of expecting just one to do it all. Hang in there, Renee... (((HUGS)))
That's so true!!! Sometimes I feel guilty with what I ask my kids to do, but it is so unrealistic to rely on one person to "do" for a family of six! That's especially true for you, Renee, since you work a full time job out of the home!
Melody
10-31-2006, 12:56 PM
That's so true!!! Sometimes I feel guilty with what I ask my kids to do, but it is so unrealistic to rely on one person to "do" for a family of six! That's especially true for you, Renee, since you work a full time job out of the home!
I find the same thing and it does take me exploding and saying not one fun thing gets done until chores are finished. I get me doing the brunt, but for the love of pete, pick up your crap off the floor or table or where ever you left it! Take your own plate to the sink and collect your own laundry. ugh! By the time you chase down everything around the house, time has run out and you don't get to what you should be because of picking up after everyone. I think they forget that we are not just here to look after them and all things take time, time away from them, away from us having a moments peace, doing the little extra's that they like and they need reminding. I finally made the decision to have someone come in and help me. A girlfriend of mine is so much more organized than me and she cleans for seniors so I'm going to have her come in and help me get rid of a lot and go through things that are too time consuming for just one person. Then continue with her coming even every 2 weeks to get other things done like the bathrooms and baseboards, windows. Don't think I will feel so overloaded and being so tired, it'll help.
Hang in there Renee, and remind them how you having to do it all takes time away from them.
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