dn/grandparent update

[Ryleigh S.]

I got a call yesterday morning from a woman who was talking very quietly and seemed a bit hesitant. I soon discovered it was dn's grandmother. 8o She said she knows she has been 'a bit' distant but they had been thinking about dn so much lately and just wondered how he was doing. We talked for a bit about him and I invited them to come out to the house on Sat., have dinner and visit with him a bit. She didn't think she could make it....a whole list of excuses. I asked if she would like me to drop by with him next week when I take dd to Phisio. dn and I have almost a hour to kill while she is there and they live close by. She refused at first but as we were about to hang up said. "Maybe it would be nice if the two of you came by on Tues." I think she would be more comfortable visiting with him by themselves, but it's been so long that they are practically stangers to him. I can't just drop him off with someone he doesn't know and leave. Maybe after a few visits when he seems comfortable with them I will let them visit privately.
It a first step anyway. Hope all goes well.

[Diane]

I got a call yesterday morning from a woman who was talking very quietly and seemed a bit hesitant. I soon discovered it was dn's grandmother. 8o She said she knows she has been 'a bit' distant but they had been thinking about dn so much lately and just wondered how he was doing. We talked for a bit about him and I invited them to come out to the house on Sat., have dinner and visit with him a bit. She didn't think she could make it....a whole list of excuses. I asked if she would like me to drop by with him next week when I take dd to Phisio. dn and I have almost a hour to kill while she is there and they live close by. She refused at first but as we were about to hang up said. "Maybe it would be nice if the two of you came by on Tues." I think she would be more comfortable visiting with him by themselves, but it's been so long that they are practically stangers to him. I can't just drop him off with someone he doesn't know and leave. Maybe after a few visits when he seems comfortable with them I will let them visit privately.
It a first step anyway. Hope all goes well.


Great news, Ryleigh. I'm so glad she called. I couldn't imagine not being able to see my granddaughter. I can only imagine how much they must have missed him and not having him in their lives. (which is their own faults) Hopefully things will work out and they'll be able to spend more one on one time with him some time in the near future.

[Melody]

Glad she called. Hope it all works out!

[BevJ]

What a nice opportunity for your dn and his grandparents. I hope all goes well with the visit.

[Diane]

Ryleigh... please keep us updated as to how the visit goes with them on Tuesday. :)

[Ryleigh S.]

The visit with dn and grandparents went ok. He was very shy and clung to my leg for about the first 20 minutes (very unlike him), but gradually warmed up and interacted with them a bit. His gf was very friendly and seemed overjoyed to see dn. His gm was a bit more hesitant. You could tell she was a bit uncomfortable with the situation. considering how long it has been since she last saw him, the whole situation surrounding it and the fact that he looks so much like their son that they lost it was a lot to take in at once. After dn warmed up to them I left them alone with him for about 10 minutes while I stepped out to the front porch to "make a quick phone call to check on dd and ds". I thought it might help her relax a bit if I wasn't there, but still seemed quite tense. It will just take some time.
When we left I told them they were welcome to come and see dn anytime they wanted and to feel free to call also. gf seemed eager to get together again soon, gm said "we'll see". It's a start anyway..... hope it continues to grow from here.
dn took the meeting well too.. I asked if he would like to go back again someday and he said "yes.... papa making chocolata.." his word for Hot Chocolate.

[Diane]

The visit with dn and grandparents went ok. He was very shy and clung to my leg for about the first 20 minutes (very unlike him), but gradually warmed up and interacted with them a bit. His gf was very friendly and seemed overjoyed to see dn. His gm was a bit more hesitant. You could tell she was a bit uncomfortable with the situation. considering how long it has been since she last saw him, the whole situation surrounding it and the fact that he looks so much like their son that they lost it was a lot to take in at once. After dn warmed up to them I left them alone with him for about 10 minutes while I stepped out to the front porch to "make a quick phone call to check on dd and ds". I thought it might help her relax a bit if I wasn't there, but still seemed quite tense. It will just take some time.
When we left I told them they were welcome to come and see dn anytime they wanted and to feel free to call also. gf seemed eager to get together again soon, gm said "we'll see". It's a start anyway..... hope it continues to grow from here.
dn took the meeting well too.. I asked if he would like to go back again someday and he said "yes.... papa making chocolata.." his word for Hot Chocolate.


I'm so glad the visit went well. I'm sure it will take a while before everyone begins to feel comfortable with the situation. Hopefully there will be more visits, and they'll be able to get to know each other a lot more.

Thanks so much for the update!!!

[Melody]

I was wondering how it went. Glad that it went well and I agree, it'll get better over time. So glad that the gf was enthusiastic, hopefully it will rub off on his wife. Thanks for the update.

[RCT]

Good News about the visit. Its so good for your dn.

Hope things with the grandparents continutes to be smoother and more frequent.