At what age

[Diane]

do you think you should no longer allow your children to see you not totally dressed... or naked? 8o My sister said something today that left me totally flabbergasted. One of her ds, who is 19, is still allowed to walk into the bathroom while she is sitting/soaking in the bathtub or is in the shower. :rolleyes: I'm sorry, but to me... that is just wrong!!! She see's nothing wrong with it. I'm like... there is no way I'd ever allow my 21 year old dd to walk into a room where her dad was naked. She say's... of course not! :rolleyes: (what's the difference???) That and I know that if her 19 year old is walking in on her like that, her 14 and 4 year old probably are too. :rolleyes: I'm sorry, it's probably totally none of my business, but I just don't get it. LOL

Sooooo... in your opinion, how old do you think you should stop undressing or being seen naked in front of your child?
Thanks!

[AnnW]

I don't walk around naked, but I also don't jump if either of my kids should walk into my room while I am dressing. It probably flips them out more seeing an old fat lady than it does me! LOL that'll teach them to knock!
are there bubbles in the tub? i am not sure i would be comfortable just hanging all out for my kids.

[Diane]

I don't walk around naked, but I also don't jump if either of my kids should walk into my room while I am dressing. It probably flips them out more seeing an old fat lady than it does me! LOL that'll teach them to knock!
are there bubbles in the tub? i am not sure i would be comfortable just hanging all out for my kids.

It didn't sound to me like there were any bubbles in the tub. It sounds like it's a pretty common occurance, and not just in the tub. I know I wouldn't feel very comfortable with that, but I guess maybe that would totally depend upon the people involved.

[AnnW]

I think it's really a matter of personal comfort.
I don't think twice when I am in a store with communal dressing rooms and i know that flips some people out.
I don't remember seeing my dad naked, but i saw my mom naked or at least in bra/panties many times. (we shopped together in those communal dressing rooms! LOL)

[PamE]

That senario would creep me out! 8o I don't know of a set age, but like Ann, I don't freak out if they walk in... just remind them that knocking is the proper course of action if a door is shut! :lol:

[Melody]

Well here we lock the door and that solves it all. LOL The kids always knock, I'm sure they would be so freaked and grossed out if they saw anything. I wouldn't jump though, just casually say they should knock and to give me a minute. If my door is shut and not locked they still knock. Ds3 is a different story. We have a bathtub beside the shower stall and sometimes the best way to keep an eye on him while I take a shower is for him to be in the bath. We have set rules when we are the only ones home if I am in the shower, like he cannot answer the door, but still. This just makes it easier. I'm usually behind a towel until I step in the shower and he never thinks of mommy being naked. lol I'm sure the time is coming where we won't be doing this anymore but so far, nothing noticed/said. I did the same thing with the others but especially for ds2 because him, I definately couldn't trust to stay in the house.

[BevJ]

Not so much age would play a part in my decision, but more a time in either of our lives where it felt uncomfortable. If your sister and her ds are still comfortable with it, then I don't see the harm, I guess.

If I'm in the shower, anyone can walk in and I wouldn't care...they can't see through the shower curtain. If I'm in the tub and ds needs to come in for some reason...I pull the shower curtain across. I don't flip if ds catches me getting dressed.

[MaryL]

Well here we lock the door and that solves it all. LOL The kids always knock, I'm sure they would be so freaked and grossed out if they saw anything. I wouldn't jump though, just casually say they should knock and to give me a minute.

Same kind of situation here, Mel. I don't lock the door, but if I'm changing, I do close it. Our bedroom has a master bath, so it's not like I'm in the hallway going being the bedroom and the bathroom. I only have boys...so it's not like we're hanging out in fitting rooms trying on clothes together. They respect my privacy...even though their bedroom/bath area is like being in a locker room! No modesty needed there, I guess. LOL

[Amy]

I won't run from them, nor do I show myself to them. I have kids who like to barge in anywhere, so if they see me, they can deal with the nightmares. LOL

[RCT]

I think its about comfort levels.
DH isn't comfortable being naked around the kids, so he always has boxers on or locks the doors, for me I don't care either way...I don't streak, but I don't cringe when they barge in, which they do...both kids have seen me in the all together, usually bra and panties...or towel, neither ds and dd are shy yet, so it works for us. They both keep their doors shut while dressing and I always knock.

[Diane]

I guess I was brought up to be very modest... shut/lock your doors, knock before entering. I hardly even remember seeing my mom/dad laying in bed together... NEVER saw my dad naked or even in boxer's, nor my mom for that matter.

I think our dd's were about 2-1/2 maybe 3 when we started to feel that they were getting too old to see dh in his birthday suit. For me... it didn't matter if they saw me because they were girls. Now it's a matter of me not wanting anyone to see my fat stomach. (even though I'm told I'm not fat, I feel I am. LOL) If I were a skinny minnie I probably wouldn't care who saw me naked... :) I still can't get over and thinking that a 19 year old boy has absolutely no business walking in and seeing his mom naked. I know that my dd's would be totally embarrassed if they were to walk into a room and see their dad in his nothings. :blush: I know #3 doesn't even want to see him in just a towel... LOL Dh has absolutly nothing to be embarrassed about, :brow: but would still be embarrassed if any of his dd's were to walk in on him like that.

I guess it all depends upon how you're raised and what you're comfortable with. :) :)

[RCT]

I guess it all depends upon how you're raised and what you're comfortable with. :) :)

I guess, dh was brought up in H*&^ so I think he is pretty open minded.
I was raised in a Nudest house practically, I dont' mean my dad, he always had on boxers or a robe, but my mother, all 4 feet 11 inches of her, and she was a round woman, always nude....never really gave it much tought I guess.

I never remember my brother being exposed he was always way more modest that the rest of us....I never did the naked thing at home, usually a towel or robe....

[AnnW]

in H*&^ ....


in what?????????????????

[Diane]

in what?????????????????

I wondered too... but didn't ask. :biglaugh:

[RCT]

in what?????????????????

The house of THE DEVIL

[Diane]

The house of THE DEVIL

:( That certainly doesn't sound very good. 8o

[RCT]

:( That certainly doesn't sound very good. 8o

The longer I live the more I learn of what went on in that house when he was a child. Scary doesn't even cover it all.

[Diane]

The longer I live the more I learn of what went on in that house when he was a child. Scary doesn't even cover it all.

It amazes me how some childen are brought up and how they still manage to turn out normal when they grow up. (Thank God) :)

[Mickey]

I cannot for the life of me imagine being comfortable being naked around my 19 yo son. I'm no prude, but when ds started to be aware of bodies, I stopped being naked around him (and that was pretty young). He occasionally will walk in on me dressing, (last time he ran into my room with the phone saying it was for me and said, "OOPS! Sorry!), but like others have said, I don't freak out or anything.

Like Bev said, if ds needed something from the bathroom while I was taking a bath, I'd close the shower curtain.

[Diane]

I cannot for the life of me imagine being comfortable being naked around my 19 yo son. I'm no prude, but when ds started to be aware of bodies, I stopped being naked around him (and that was pretty young). He occasionally will walk in on me dressing, (last time he ran into my room with the phone saying it was for me and said, "OOPS! Sorry!), but like others have said, I don't freak out or anything.

Like Bev said, if ds needed something from the bathroom while I was taking a bath, I'd close the shower curtain.


Exactly how I feel about it. :)

[Linda/NE]

Since we have 7 people using one shower/bath theres no such thing as absolute privacy. We have a system-- the shower curtain is always pulled shut so someone can come in to use the toilet. The kids usually lock the door and then we have to knock and have them unlock it.

I try to insist on modesty with the girls around their brothers.

I remember when dh and I had a discussion about this when our oldest boys were getting older.

[Diane]

In this case there are two bathrooms... so there is no reason why when one is occupied, the other can't be used. It's just something I couldn't do...... I guess I just like my privacy.