I need advice

[PamE]

A dear, dear friend of the family passed away last Thursday and his funeral was today. I've mentioned that we were getting their groceries and doing some other errands for them while he was sick. He was 85 and his wife is also in her 80's. Anyway, she and two of her dd's (older than me) are flying out in the morning to go back to their home state where he will be buried. She'll be gone for a couple of weeks and asked dd1 to water her plants once while she was gone. I'd like to do some yardwork while she's gone (it was something she mentioned that she doesn't know how she was going to take care of) and at the very least leave a bouquet of flowers and a card on her table the day before she returns home. I'd also like to do something else for her... but I'm not sure what would be appropriate and what wouldn't. We're close, but I don't want to overstep my bounds and do something that would make her uncomfortable. Do you think it would be okay to vacuum and dust her house for her? Esp. here in AZ where there's not much but dirt your house can get dusty overnight (she'll be gone for a couple of weeks).

Anyway... I'd appreciate your opinions on that and any suggestions you have of other things I could do.

[angie r]

I would certainly do the yardwork, dusting, etc. I would also put some fresh grocery items in right before she gets back. I can't see that she would be anything but thankful for what you did.

[AnnW]

I agree with Angie. Do the lawn, light cleaning and put milk and bread in the fridge.

[littlesista06]

I agree with Angie. I know my mom (80 as well) appreciates any gesture like that, and especially after your friend's loss, it'll be one less thing to for her to think about.

[Diane]

I agree with the rest. I'm sure she'd appreciate everything you're willing to do for her. You're a good friend... :)

I'm so sorry for your loss. (((HUGS)))

[Melody]

Sorry for your loss Pam. You are a wonderful friend and I'm sure she will appreciate everything.

[vea29]

Pam sorry for your loss. Your a great friend for thinking to do these things...I agree with the others. I also was thinking maybe make an entree or two for her for dinners and put them in the freezer...that way she doesn't have to think about it the first few days back.

[PamE]

Thank you all. :) I like the idea of the groceries, too!

[Beth/TX]

Ditto what everyone else said. Very nice of you to do this for her!

[JAK]

I'm so sorry for your loss. The other ladies had some great ideas.

[Leigh]

(((Hugs))) I am sorry for your loss.... I think all of those are good ideas.