friend in need

[JAK]

My next door neighbor from NC just found out that her mother has breast cancer for the second time. She had one breast removed several years ago and she found out last Friday and the other breast now has a cancerous tumor in it. It looks like it hasn't spread so that's a good sign. My friend's parents live in Canada and my friend will be moving to Alaska in a month. She will not be able to go see her mom before her move. Besides praying for her mom, how can I support my friend during this trying time. She's a wreck. Her dh is gone and she's home alone with their 3 dks on top of getting ready for the move. I know that I can not physically be there to help her until she actually gets here, but there has to be something I can do.

[netmechwife]

I had a friend who's wife had breast cancer and had it removed a couple times. She finally died of lung cancer. I felt so bad for him. I found that the most important thing to do for someone with a loved one going through this kind of thing is to be compassionate and listen whenever they need an ear. Letting them know it's ok to express their emotions. I think often family members of people who have cancer try to hide their emotions to protect the person. They don't want them to hurt anymore than they already do physically and emotionally. The family members need a chance to get out their emotions and fears, etc.

[kathleen]

Make sure to connect with her periodically -- telephone calls, e-mail, short notes, thinking of you cards, etc. Anything to let her know your prayers are with her and her mother, and that you are thinking of them. Maybe send gift certificates to a fast food rest. -- to give her a "night off"

[AnnW]

Kathleen gave you great ideas! Just be sure to keep in touch.

[KarlaB]

Great ideas! For her to know she has such a supportive friend will mean the world to her. Just let her know you're thinking of her with phone calls, notes and emails like Kathleen said. What a great friend! :)

[Leigh]

I agree with everyone else. Just let her know that you are there for her. I will keep her and her family in my thoughts and prayers too.