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Linda/NE
08-19-2001, 11:27 PM
TOO GOOD TO BE TRUE!!! :(

It figures--everything had fallen into place too easily so I guess it was bound to happen.

I was really getting psyched about my job. Only one week until the preschoolers start. I have so much to do!!! I called my neighbor, who agreed to watch the kids, to let her know my schedule for this coming week. She said she could watch them this week
BUT.. the school her kids go to is in need of another aide and asked her if she'd fill in until they find someone. She felt that because it's for their education she should. I guess there was a child that tested for dsylexia and needs his own aide. One of the aides already there is getting trained for that.

I can understand her reasoning, but what really bugs me is that she didn't mention it to me before she accepted the job, even though she had already committed to me.
The thought of finding daycare is so unappealing. I was talking with my director and from what she knows of the licensed car homes and the centers I wouldn't want to send my kids there. One center has had 3 out breaks of lice this summer and hasn't closed a day for cleaning yet! One in home provider holds you to the days you're scheduled unless you give her a week's notice that you will be gone--that includes if your child is sick!! She also charges parents for the time their children are at our preschool! If my director would have to switch days with me because one of us was sick, I'd get charged for my regular days and the scheduled days even though the kids weren't there. I'm sure someone abused the rules in the past but I'm barely making enough to pay her when my kids are there, let alone when they're gone!!

I just feel so defeated. Something like this seems to happen when ever I find a job I really like. I can just imagine what's going to happen---I'll be so stressed either from trying to find a decent babysitter or putting up a poor one I won't be able to teach effectively. Kind of makes me mad at dh for putting me in the position of having to get a job again. I've felt so depressed today I physically hurt all over. It's such an overwhelming feeling of helplessness. I was just starting to feel confident about things and now I'm knocked back down a few rungs on the ladder. Anyone else understand where I'm coming from??

Sorry to make this so long! (Also, I mean NO offense to Day care providers by this post, I'm just disgusted with some in my area.:tinysmile )

KathyT
08-20-2001, 07:54 AM
Oh Linda, your post made me sad :( I'm so sorry you are feeling down.

That was unfortunate of your neighbour, does she know how long she will be unavailable to you?

What about a student in the area? Just to help out until your neighbour is able to do dc for you? Any part time teachers who would want to supplement their income? There are a lot of people who work shifts, maybe if you advertised someone would come through?

I hope it all works out for you, I can only imagine how you feel. It's one thing to say when life gives your lemons make lemonade but it's another thing to actually do it isn't it??

Hopefully today will be a better day and you will find a solution to your dilemma. Please let us know.

AnnW
08-20-2001, 08:36 AM
I am so sorry!!! Could they come to your school temporarily till your neighbor is finished helping at her school?

Linda/NE
08-20-2001, 09:03 AM
Kathy & Ann,
Thanks! I'm feeling a little better this morning.

We don't have a college near by so there aren't any students around. The preschool classes are full so I can't take them with me.

I'm going to call a couple ladies I know in town to see if they know of anyone. I have seriously considered approaching my SIL about it too. I'm sure my Mom would fill in until I can find something permanent, but she's so busy between looking in on my grandmother and visiting my great uncle I hate to ask more of her. I would almost guess that the school will try to talk the neighbor into staying out the year so I'm not counting on her being able to watch them.

Thanks!

AnnW
08-20-2001, 09:12 AM
Glad to hear you are feeling better? What about a high school student? How about a retiree from your church?

Melody
08-20-2001, 09:21 AM
It's a shame about the neighbour not being able to watch them longer.
Maybe there are a couple of students who have enough spares in the day to do it? Or does your neighbour know anyone else she can recommend?
Good luck. I am glad your feeling better and and I hope something good comes up soon.

KarlaB
08-20-2001, 11:03 AM
What a disappointment!! Hope you find someone soon and that you can get back those excited feelings you were having about this new opportunity.

TXmom
08-20-2001, 12:01 PM
Linda -

Bless your heart - it'll all work out. I really dislike having to find childcare too, and I always put it off until the last minute. My schedule changes every semester, so that's a challenge, too.

Was the neighbor going to watch your children at no charge, or are you concerned about finding someone you can trust?

darlene
08-20-2001, 01:43 PM
That's terrible news Linda....I sure hope you can get something worked out. It's hard being pulled in so many directions at once.

Here's to childcare working out for you!

:)

kacee
08-20-2001, 02:35 PM
I am glad that you are feeling better. I hope that something will work out for you. Good luck with the child care

Leigh
08-20-2001, 07:45 PM
I'm sorry that ou are having to go through this. I hope that something works out for you soon. I'll be thinking about you. Keep us updated.

Diane
08-21-2001, 07:48 AM
I can't believe that she bailed on you like that... that's AWFUL!!! If you lived near me I would definitely help you out. LOL Are you going to look at something temporary, until she is available or are you going to find something more permanent? I really hate to sound like this but, she doesn't really sound like somebody you can depend upon... if she did it this once she may do it to you again. I hope you can find something that works for you. Good luck with whatever you decide to do. :)

Diane... :wave:

Linda/NE
08-21-2001, 08:35 AM
You all are just the best!! :)

I've pieced together babysitters through the end of August, barring any extra days. One of our other neighbors who is expecting a baby in late Sept. even offered to help. (She's such a sweet heart!!)

Dh and I decided that we need to confront the neighbor and find out exactly what her intentions are (if this is temporary or permanent). Then possibly put an ad in the paper next week.

I don't think the high school kids here get free periods where they are allowed to leave the building--except for school to work type things with businesses. Since I'll be working from 8- 3:30 it'd be hard to fit it all together.

Yes, we were paying the neighbor for watching the kids. My youngest, Andruw, has never been at daycare before and is a
mommy's boy. He knows the neighbor, so I felt comfortable knowing he would handle it well. I just hate the thought of sending them to someone they don't know.

This neighbor has always been SO dependable before. I suppose that's why this has thrown me for such a loop!

Thanks so much!! Maybe one day I can actually post a 'happy go lucky' post instead of complaining!

Ryleigh
08-21-2001, 05:15 PM
How frustrating. If I were closer I'd offer to take them for you, but Ontario, Canada to Nebraska is a little too far to commute.
I hope you get it all worked out. good Luck

Linda/NE
08-21-2001, 05:41 PM
Originally posted by Ryleigh
How frustrating. If I were closer I'd offer to take them for you, but Ontario, Canada to Nebraska is a little too far to commute.
I hope you get it all worked out. good Luck

LOL Thanks for the offer!! :)