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[strawberryfire]

Is there anyone else considering making their first the last? My husband and i have been talking about it lately ( i've been thinking about it for awhile the past year). I love my ds more than anything,and its not that he is a difficult child, he is polite, wellbehaved, well most of the time, and quiet but I dont think I want anymore, my mother is all for this, so is my husband, even though he himself is an only child. the only one opposing us is mil.

[Cathy]

Do what's right for you and your dh. Tell mil to have her own children!! LOL

[Diane]

It's really nobody elses business but your own... it really doesn't matter what anyone else wants or thinks about it. You're the ones who have to have/raise them... not them. When I was having kids it never occured to me to ask or even care what anybody else thought. :) If having one is what you and dh want that's the way it should be... and to heck with anybody else. :)

Diane... :wave:

[RCT]

I agree....follow your heart...you and dh are making this family....large or small its your family...

[angie r]

I have a good friend who is an only child and we talk about this quite often. (I have three brothers.) I asked her if she thought she would have preferred having siblings. She tells me she doesn't know what it is like so how could she know?? lol I think it is a tough choice. At times I really enjoyed having brothers and at others I wish they would have moved out! Now, I wouldn't trade my bothers and their families for anything. I love having cousins for my children to play with. I love big family gatherings.

As a selfish side note...When I am old I want lots of family around me and your kids are the ones that will be there.

Having children is a very personal choice and I would not let your MIL call any shots. If one child is what you want then tell her to stick her nose out. When my dh and I were talking about having a third child my MIL said, "you have 2 healthy kids, why would you risk having another." I about fell over. It is interesting that your MIL is the one with the issue and she is the one that only had one child?

[JAK]

You need to do what feels right for you and your dh. Don't let your mil guilt you into something that doesn't feel right. A lot of people only have one child- heck a lot of couples don't have any children. Then there are some who have a lot. You just have to do what feels right to you and not care about what others think!

[KarlaB]

Ditto what everyone else has said...it's not anyone elses decision to make, so go with your heart.

[KarlaB]

Originally posted by angie r
...I love having cousins for my children to play with. I love big family gatherings.

As a selfish side note...When I am old I want lots of family around me and your kids are the ones that will be there.

Ditto for me!! :D

[kat]

I agree with everyone else. That decision is up to you and your dh and no one else.

[Karen]

We also only have one and are in a real quandry about whether to try for another. I feel we are running out of time (age-wise) and am afraid I will really regret it if we don't. Our dd is so precious to us, but she is a handful. We feel a little "blown out of the water" with just her. We also worry about having a healthy second child. On the other hand, as some have mentioned here, we would like to have more family, for her and for us.

We are lucky that neither side is pressuring us - I think they're amazed we even had one! But you definitely shouldn't worry about your mil. She wouldn't be the one raising the child! If you and your dh are comfortable with the decision, that should be it.

[Angie L]

We only have one. Ours wasn't exactly by choice I had some medical problems and know I can't have anymore. But me and my husband had discussed it many times and we feel it is your choice and no one elses. Follow your heart and do as you wish. Good luck with your decision. Just follow your guys hearts and not worry about anyone else.

[strawberryfire]

Thank you everyone. the comments really made me feel at ease. !!

[Jeff]

Originally posted by Karen
We also only have one and are in a real quandry about whether to try for another. I feel we are running out of time (age-wise) and am afraid I will really regret it if we don't. Our dd is so precious to us, but she is a handful. We feel a little "blown out of the water" with just her. We also worry about having a healthy second child. On the other hand, as some have mentioned here, we would like to have more family, for her and for us.

We are lucky that neither side is pressuring us - I think they're amazed we even had one! But you definitely shouldn't worry about your mil. She wouldn't be the one raising the child! If you and your dh are comfortable with the decision, that should be it.

One is a handful, more than one keep each other occupied.

[Ryleigh]

Like the rest said, follow your heart and do what is right for you and your family. MIL raised her and it up to you to choose the family for you.
I myself, am an only child and although there are times I think it would be great to have a brother or sister, I am content with it being just myself. I always had lots of friends and cousins around to play with and a very close relationship with my parents.

dh on the other hand comes from a family of 12 children and loves them all dearly. They are all great friends as well as siblings. He says he couldn't imagine living any other way, it would be too boring. I think having that many people arond all the time would drive me insane.

We were planning on just the two we have, but can't say we are dissappointed with the surprise three on the way. lol.

Just remember, one is only a lonly number if you let it be. One can be wonderful.

[Sasha Rowan]

Originally posted by Ryleigh
dh on the other hand comes from a family of 12 children

My dh comes from a family of 12 also. We also planned to stop at 2 but got surprised by NUMBER 3 , not 3 more. LOL Now we are discussing maybe #4 in a few years, ds2 is only 5 mo.

Small world.