Ex-girlfriends

[Amy]

Well dh's ex-girlfriend has tracked us down AGAIN. I swear that women is in the CIA or something! LOL She calls dh every year to see how things are going. This used to really unsettle dh in the beginning, but I always thought it was really funny. I actually respect her balls for calling in the beginning despite that he was married and didn't know the reception she was going to get.

Do any of you keep in touch with ex's? How does the spouse feel?

[AnnW]

WOW..is she married? That's too funny and kind of wierd.

One of my old boyfriends lives a few blocks away and has kids the same age as mine, but we don't really keep up with any of ours.

[KarlaB]

None of dh's ex's have contacted him since we've been dating - actually sort of surprises me. I actually keep in touch with three of my ex's - dh knows and also talks to them. I lived with one (platonically) my last year of college while dating dh, so they got to know each other quite well. When ex bf was having girlfriend problems I helped him get her back - they are now married, have dks the same ages as us, and when they lived closer we used to get together, have dinner, etc.

I called another ex after being out of touch for a few years when mutual friends were in a fatal car accident. I only talk to him once or twice a year - it really feels like we never even dated. Dh and I went to his wedding.

Although I am in contact with them, it's not on a regular basis - usually one of us will just check in and say hi. I don't lean on them in times of need or harbor any illicit thoughts or fanatsies. :)

[Amy]

Ann-no she isn't married. She is quite older too. DH originally liked her maturity and 44DD bra size. ROFL!!!!! I think it took her a long time after we got married to get over him. We actually get along quite well.

Karla-you are so cool! LOL There is one ex I would love to call to see what he is up too, but don't have the guts because we haven't talked in over 6 years and don't want to freak out his wife whom I have never met.

[littlesista06]

I don't keep in touch with any of mine and dh will just not talk about his past relationships AT ALL, so who knows - I could be going to church with some past hot and heavy thing!!! LOL
I think after 9 years (this Wednesday) if that were true, it would have gotten back to me by now. :)
I used to tease dh that I was his first girlfriend - at age 32!!! :biglaugh: He's just grin and shake his head......

[AnnW]

Amy/Co...I am SURE it was her GREAT personality!!!!!!!! :newwink:

Karla..I don't care enough about any of them to keep up with!!! LOL

Littlesista..Happy Early Anniversary!!!!!!!

[Diane]

I've never kept up with any of my ex's. I happened to bump into one once a few years ago and we talked for quite a while... It was fun seeing and talking with him again and before we parted we exchanged phone numbers with a promise that we (with our spouces) would get together for a movie/dinner. Evidently his dw (who I also knew in High School) didn't like the idea of him seeing/talking with me OR getting together... Not long after our meeting I got a pretty nasty phone call from her telling me to leave him alone and if I didn't... I'd be sorry. LOL I guess I got the hint... LOL I'm not the type to cause problems in anyone's marriage... so I left it alone, although it made me LOL to think that she was still jealous of me.

We also bumped into one of my dh's ex's about a year ago when we needed to take one of our pets into the clinic for an emergency. It was so funny because when I first called in the lady told me that they had absolutely NO openings but if one happenened to came up she'd give me a call. As soon as I gave her my name... an opening suddenly appeared. (I wondered about that) LOL Lo and behold... dh was pretty surprised (and so was I) when he walked in to see his ex. They had a polite conversation... but I think that dh felt a little funny/self conscience talking with her in front of me. L0L (???)

I've talked with old friends who know and still see some of my ex's and I hear about what/how they are doing but I've never felt the need to call them. It wouldn't bother dh if I did... nor would it bother me if dh called any of his but I guess we've never felt it was something we needed to do. I do wonder what some of them look like now though... :)

I will admit that if dh had an ex who was constantly calling and (making a pain in the A$$ of herself) wanting to get together alone with him all of the time... I would more than likely have a problem with that. :) I guess it would mainly depend upon how dh felt about it but I don't think he'd like it any more than I would.

Diane... :wave:

[RCT]

I don't see or hear from anyone I used to date....since I am so far from where I grew up it's not really a problem running into them.....dh doesn't even hear from his first wife...LOL..he was married for about a year in college...didn't really work after they graduated they kinda grew out of each other....but when we first moved back to Central New York where he is from we used run into one of the girls he dated before his first marriage....she would just show up at his family events....un invited and claim she was there to see my MIL....finally after we had ds...she left us alone...she did tell dh that someday he would be sorry he married me...and want her back...dh laughed at her....kinda sad huh...oh well..

[kat]

Neither one of us "keeps up with" ex's. I think we both know most of them and see them occasionally. I remember once about 6 years ago we had just got back from vacation and had gone to eat at a new restaraunt. Turns out the hostess is the wife of the man who was the love of my life when I was 19. My first. His mother was at the cashier's desk. Well my heart started pounding in my chest. I felt like I was a cartoon character and was just praying that dh could not actually see my heart beating out of my clothes. I calmly (I hope it sounded calm) told dh who I thought the lady was and if she was, I had to say hello to my old flame. Long story short, it was. He and his parents had bought this restaraunt and as it turns out he was in the kitchen cooking. I went back to see him. Thankfully he remembered me and I gave him a huge hug. He has since bought another restaraunt and I see him every now and then. Thankfully my heart doesn't leap out of my body any more. It certainly was an interesting experience.

[arianna]

MM! I'm crazy to see HH's ex. In this little town we live in, I can't believe after 10 years, we have yet to "run" into her at least once. This leads me to believe she's avoiding us. lol
I want to thank her for dumping him , thus giving me the opportunity to met, fall in love with and marry him. One womans trash.... lol ßß!

[KarlaB]

Okay, I can't really be the only one who has contact with ex's, can I?? LOL! The ones I am in contact with were all from my hometown and we dated during high school/early college yrs, so most of us remained good friends after our break-ups. If dh (or their spouses) was uncomfortable with it I wouldn't talk to any of them. :)

[Amy2]

No Karla, you're not alone. I am good friends with ALL my ex beaus (and yes, there were several.) One of them even sang at my wedding!

Dh is friendly with his old girlfriends, but the main squeeze, the one all his friends and family thought he would surely marry is the one we have remained closest with. When we suffered a family tragedy he really wanted to talk with her, and I was so glad he did. I told her "He loves you very much, you know" and she said she did, and she loves him back. When her father had a terrible stroke, she called Doug. We have had dinner with her and her husband and kids. She's a great woman (my dh has great taste :) ) and I am happy that he has a friend like her.

I think if you have spent a great deal of time knowing and loving someone, just because the relationship changes and you are no longer intimate, it doesn't mean you should toss the whole friendship. Unless of course one has been hurt by the other, in which case, who would want to remain friends with that person anyway?

Amy

[KarlaB]

Originally posted by Amy
I think if you have spent a great deal of time knowing and loving someone, just because the relationship changes and you are no longer intimate, it doesn't mean you should toss the whole friendship. Unless of course one has been hurt by the other, in which case, who would want to remain friends with that person anyway?

Amy

I totally agree! :)


:yippee: I knew I wasn't alone! :yippee:

Your dh and his ex are lucky that you are so understanding and accepting of ther closeness - many wouldn't be.

[RCT]

Originally posted by Amy
Unless of course one has been hurt by the other, in which case, who would want to remain friends with that person anyway?

Amy


My thoughts exatly.....


I think its great that you ladies and your husbands have such good relationships with your ex's.....that means no one was really broken hearted....all of my old beau and all of his ex girlfriends.....well....no love loss there....