Decision Maker

[Amy]

Who is the final decision maker in your house? If dh and I disagree on a subject, we usually banter until I win out. I only banter if its something I firmly believe though. Thankfully, he never questions me on raising the kids or any purchases I make for the family.

I had one friend who allowed her dh to decide on everything from what time the dd had to eat breakfast by to what type car she had to own. She would voice her opinion, but would let the dh make the final decision. I found this really odd.

How are the decisions made in your house?

[AnnW]

Hmmm..I guess I make all the day to day decisions. I could just see..."honey, sorry to bother you at work, but should I make the kids pb&J for lunch or turkey?" ROFL!
Big decisions are ususally made together.

[KarlaB]

Big decisions are made together and I do ask his opinion on "minor" things, but generally it's me who decides. Sometimes he'll ask me why I even bother asking his opinion if I end up sticking with mine anyway. :lol:

[littlesista06]

ME! IT'S ALL ME!!! (I wish!!) LOL

I make the majority of the decisions, but big stuff he takes the lead and we do discuss. (I don't want the responsibility!) :)

[RCT]

LOL, oh amy me too.....I make most day to day decisions, and most of the semi big ones too....but when it comes to big ones....we do it together....but I have to say I usually am the one who gets the final word.....

[JeannieOR]

It's almost always me. Even if I don't want it to be me. My husband hates making decisions. We are going to look at a 3-bedroom apartment this week. Now we BOTH have to decide if we take the apartment but in the end I know he's just going to turn to me and say "It's up to you, Hon."

[Diane]

I would absolutely drive my dh CRAZY :crazyroll if I called and asked for his opinion every time I needed to make a decision about something. I have to admit that when we were first married it was mostly him who made all of the decisions but somehow that all changed. ;) LOL When it comes to making big decisions... they are always made together but in the end the final decisions are usually left up to me. That way if it doesn't work out the way he thought it should, he's got somebody to blame. LOL Just kidding... not really! I think he just trusts my instincts. :)

Diane... :wave:

[Leigh]

I guess dh and I are like the rest of you then. I usually make the small minor day to day decisions and then we make major ones together.

[MaryL]

I make most of the day to day decisions...usually with regards to the kids, house, etc. My dh likes to be involved in deciding on things....like wallpaper, for instance. Now, while I think that is "nice" that he is interested....he is driving me crazy by trying to help me "select" something. Ugggghhhh! He has some strong opinions....but in the end, I either end up winning, or he makes good points which help lead us into his decision. He's a thinker....I'm a do-er. Kind of a good team!

[netmechwife]

Day to day decisions are pretty much mine. He trusts my judgement. Same with semi- big decisions. Big decisions we discuss and discuss and usually come to an agreement but if we don't he has the final say. Which is fine with me because he is then responsible for the decision. Ultimately he is responsible to God for all that happens in our home because he is the head of our home. I know that God will work all things for good and God is not surprised when we or he make a bad decision. He still protects us and shows us what is best. When I take the pressure off dh to do things my way and encourage him to pray about it and do it God's way, he ends up making the best decision whether it is what I thought was best or not. Often it is totally different than what I thought.

[Melody]

Normal day to day stuff I make the decisions for myself and the kids. What day to get them new jackets, what to have for dinner, etc. Once in a while I ask him for suggestions on what to have for dinner but in the end it's still up to me. lol (not sure why I ask some days).
The big stuff, we decide together. We agree on most everything.
Except having another child. :(
I want another one, he doesn't. I think he is being unreasonable. He thinks I'm nuts!
When we first got married, it was going to be 5. Then 4. Then 3, but now that we have 2, he want's to quit! I don't think so!!! That isn't fair, is it? There is no major reason why we shouldn't have another one. It's so easy for him to say, he has two boys. I would like to see if number 3 is a girl. But if it was a boy I would still be thrilled. I would love to spend some real one on one with a toddler since I never really had that with the boys being so close in age. So lately it has been really bothering me. Especially since the youngest will be in school all day next year. Sorry to go off, but this is the one decision we can't agree on and I feel like the little kid who's crying out "it's not fair". I'm the one who does all the late night stuff and diapering and potty training all that fun stuff so shouldn't it be mostly MY decision. Anyone else ever run into this?

[Diane]

Originally posted by MaryL
I make most of the day to day decisions...usually with regards to the kids, house, etc. My dh likes to be involved in deciding on things....like wallpaper, for instance. Now, while I think that is "nice" that he is interested....he is driving me crazy by trying to help me "select" something. Ugggghhhh! He has some strong opinions....but in the end, I either end up winning, or he makes good points which help lead us into his decision. He's a thinker....I'm a do-er. Kind of a good team!

Dh and my tastes are SO much alike when it comes to things like choosing/picking out wallpaper, paint colors, furniture... and things like that... so things like that have never an issue but when it comes to him trying to buy me clothes... FORGET IT! He's learned just to not do it or even try. LOL That's a decision I can definitely make on my own. :)

Diane... :wave:

[KarlaB]

Originally posted by Melody
The big stuff, we decide together. We agree on most everything. Except having another child. :(
I want another one, he doesn't. I think he is being unreasonable. He thinks I'm nuts! ....... Anyone else ever run into this?

I can somewhat relate, although I am not totally convinced that I want a third at this point. I don't want to rule it out completely, but when we have talked about it dh says he'd like to just stick to 2. Just knowing that in his head it may not be an option is enough to concern me sometimes even though I am not 100% sure where I stand on the issue. Crazy, huh? LOL! Anyway, I hope you guys can find a middle ground on this where you will both be happy with the decision.