OK, I am a size 14 NOT A 4

[RCT]

and I am ok with this.....I was doing laundry just now, and read all the labels on my Jeans....and they all say 14....not 4, NOT 8....but 14......ok, that's normal right? I will be a 10 again....but not right away...I have been exercising and eating better....I am a woman, with curves and such....LOL....dh laughed at me, thought I knew what size I wore.....undies are 8 but jeans are 14....any way...I thought I would confess that I am not a supermodel....I am 5 foot 7 inches....and a size 14......I am Average.....Normal....and womanly......

[Amy]

Since we are doing confessionals..... I AM a Supermodel!!!!!!!!!!!! ROFLMBO!!!

Good for you for feeling great about yourself and your size! That is awesome!!!! I would like to diet again and lose 7 lbs, but everytime my dd sees a shake in my hand instead of food, she always questions why I don't eat like them for dinner. I realized I am shaping her mind about food and I don't EVER want her to get a negative association between her body and the amount of food she eats. She is extremely thin as is and I might have to keep on these seven pounds, or find a way to reduce servings without her questioning it in order to have a healthy outlook about her body. If Im ok with my body and she sees it, than hopefully she will grow up healthy too!

[Brichard]

You are doing great Renee! Just keep eating healthy and your weight and size will settle where it is meant to be. I am focusing on a size 36, but that is far from being a Super Model! I think we should just all strive to be the best person we can possibly be... and I know you are doing that!

[RCT]

Originally posted by Amy/CO
I would like to diet again and lose 7 lbs, but everytime my dd sees a shake in my hand instead of food, she always questions why I don't eat like them for dinner. I realized I am shaping her mind about food and I don't EVER want her to get a negative association between her body and the amount of food she eats. She is extremely thin as is If Im ok with my body and she sees it, than hopefully she will grow up healthy too!



I agree with that statement so much....we don't use the word diet in our house, ... I too want my dd and ds to have a healthy outlook about thier bodies...

[Diane]

Originally posted by RCT
and I am ok with this.....I was doing laundry just now, and read all the labels on my Jeans....and they all say 14....not 4, NOT 8....but 14......ok, that's normal right? I will be a 10 again....but not right away...I have been exercising and eating better....I am a woman, with curves and such....LOL....dh laughed at me, thought I knew what size I wore.....undies are 8 but jeans are 14....any way...I thought I would confess that I am not a supermodel....I am 5 foot 7 inches....and a size 14......I am Average.....Normal....and womanly......

Good for you Renee... I'm glad you're happy where you are at. I think it's important to be satisfied/happy with your body. LOL When I was younger I probably cared a lot more about being THIN... stilll care about my HEALTH but not going nuts because I'm not into a size 7/8. If it ever happens... well then, :yippee: I'll be excited as all get up but in the meantime... I'm very happy wearing my 9's and 10's. :) By the way... my sister is SO tiney... size 3, my mom is a size 6 and sometimes I still feel SO big when I'm with them. For my size though I think I'm A-okay. :)

Diane... :wave:

[Sasha Rowan]

I wish I could fit back into a 14. LOL. I wore 14 until my 2nd pregnancy. My dd was born 2 years ago and I'm still at size 18. Of course, my ds2 is only 5 mo. I need to start exercising. LOL
:rolleyes:

[darlene]

I'm with you Renee! I've got curves....an dh likes it that way! :*

I'm built for comfort.....not for style! :lol:


:)

[RCT]

LOL Darlene.....exactly.....comfort....and hugging.....

Funny how we think of ourselves as a certain way...it really struck me funny when I saw the tag in all my jeans....14....average...lol...who me? then I started checking the panties.....8....now that doesn't make much sense does it....oh well....I just want to feel good about me...and 14 is ok...I will get down to a 10 and I will be the same me....no happier, and no better....just a 10.....

glad to see I am not alone in having curves....I am after all a girl....

[AnnW]

Originally posted by Amy/CO
Since we are doing confessionals..... I AM a Supermodel!!!!!!!!!!!! ROFLMBO!!!



I knew we had SO much in common!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :newwink:

It's a hard line...I worry with both mine. I am not happy right now with the way I feel since I quit smoking, but it's mainly just getting back on the exercise track more than anything else. I want my kids to see me EXERCISING....NOT dieting. (which actually fits in my life style better cause I love to eat! LOL) I had to really catch myself one day when I was saying I was "fat", ds said "mom, why are you saying that, most people would kill to look like you!!!!!" ahhhhh sweetie, thanks! :biggrin:

[Cathy]

Because of the way I am built, (read no curves, not possessing wind resistance) people assume that I diet or don't eat. I hate that!! I have almost a phobia about eating disorders appearing in my dds and their friends. I'm for a basically healthy eating plan, with enough treats thrown in to make it enjoyable. Food is not an issue for me, and I've tried to pass that on. Eating is a social occasion, and has less to do with food than sharing time and space with others--especially with those closest to me.

I think a lot of people are too obsessed with weight numbers (How much, what size, how big, etc.), instead of feeling comfortable and able to live their lives the way they want. If someone wants to lose some weight or get stronger and more fit or flexible--go for it. But it doesn't change the person you are, or how valuable you are. I have a very close friend who says, "once I lose all this weight, I'll feel good about myself again." I say, "Why wait???"

[Cathy]

PS to AnnW--Hug that kid. He's a keeper.

[Amy2]

I'm a small size, but underneath it all I am wickedly out of shape. Flabby, flabby, flabby, and my poor heart hadn't worked out for so long! Joining the gym has been great for so many reasons. For me it's about feeling strong and healthy.

There's a woman I sing with who is quite large, but her self confidence, her inner beauty make her so attractive you don't even notice her being heavy. She's just this amazing woman.

I hear ya all about the daughter thing. My ds was tall and very, very thin, still is. I NEVER gave a thought to his eating, other than was he eating enough. I found myself questioning giving my girl treats...and I realized I was projecting for her as a teenager! I couldn't believe I was doing that at such a tender age. It opened my eyes, so hopefully I will be more aware in future of what I say and do regarding this.

Amy

[AnnW]

Originally posted by Cathy
PS to AnnW--Hug that kid. He's a keeper.


yep..he is!!!!!!! :biggrin:

[Ryleigh]

I'm origianlly 9/10, but these days circus tent is more my style.
I can't see ever getting down to that again, I've got my work cut out for me.

Keep with your diet and exercise, you'll do great!!!!

Don't worry to much about size 14, now if the numbers ever reverse, panic. lol

[kat]

Hey, I'm a 14 and not as tall as you. What kills me are all these teens who are 2's and 0's. A couple of teacher's kids who got married recently were 0's. I don't think I could get my thigh into a 0. The ladies I teach with are all about a size 6. Ryleigh, talk about feeling like a tent. But I am OK with it. I was never meant to be a 6. In my early 20's I remember wearing a 5. Looking at pictures, I was way too skinny then. I'm pretty satisfied where I am right now and I know I don't have the discipline to get much, if any, smaller.

Be happy with who you are, not what size you are.

[Amy2]

I just saw an article in this weeks People Magazine that has this model who was in LAST YEAR'S Sports Illustrated swimsuit edition, who has put on 30 pounds and is still getting $25,000 a day modeling! Yay for her. She's a Buddhist and went to Kathmandu and had this epiphany or something, and just decided to "get off this 17 year diet." I love that! I wish more models/actresses would jump on the bandwagon.

Amy

[netmechwife]

I think you sound like you are doing fine RTC. Your size is not bad.

When I was a teenager I weighed 180 lb.

I know this is weird to hear... BUT I wish I was bigger. being thin is not necessarily great either... I can't keep weight on. It hurts me when people tell me how much they hate me for how I look. My dh's boss said that to me just this last weekend. She was joking but I don't think she thought about how I might feel about it. I am 5' 7" and currently weigh 117 lb. I have been so nauseous from my endo that I am just not hungry. I am embarrassed when people ask me how I lost so much weight. I really do eat!!! I eat more than my dh most of the time. I actually miss fitting into normal clothes. I don't look starved. I actually look perfectly normal (well thin normal). Most people have no clue that I am sick. I realize I may seem silly or even petty for saying all of this but I don't think most people think of thin people wishing they had more "meat" on their bones. Often I get people joking about it or telling me how I need to start eating. They are kind of stunned when I tell them I am trying to gain weight.

Just be happy with how you are. Change what you can and celebrate your womanly curves! :)

I know I will feel better about my body when I don't hurt all the time...

[Diane]

Originally posted by AnnW


I knew we had SO much in common!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :newwink:

It's a hard line...I worry with both mine. I am not happy right now with the way I feel since I quit smoking, but it's mainly just getting back on the exercise track more than anything else. I want my kids to see me EXERCISING....NOT dieting. (which actually fits in my life style better cause I love to eat! LOL) I had to really catch myself one day when I was saying I was "fat", ds said "mom, why are you saying that, most people would kill to look like you!!!!!" ahhhhh sweetie, thanks! :biggrin:

I think most/some of us see ourselves looking a lot worse than we are. I know there have been times when I've felt like a beached whale and I'll still get compliments about how nice I look... ?(

You have a very sweet ds... very special! I too LOVE to eat... but I always exercise to help try keep the weight off. I had stopped exercising for a while and I couldn't BELIEVE what a difference that made... Ugh! 8o I'm glad to be back on track now and already I feel SO much better. I guess I've always exercised a lot more than "dieted"... I HATE diets... every time I've ever tried one I've almost felt obscessed about food... and would end up eating even more. LOL

Diane... :wave:

[AnnW]

Originally posted by Diane P.


I guess I've always exercised a lot more than "dieted"... I HATE diets... every time I've ever tried one I've almost felt obscessed about food... and would end up eating even more. LOL

Diane... :wave:

Isn't that the truth!!! Whenever I say I am going to "diet", you better watch out cause I will start eating the food off your plate!!! LOL That's why I exercise, just so I can eat! I can really tell that I have fallen off the exercise wagon...need to get back on track.

[Diane]

Originally posted by netmechwife
I think you sound like you are doing fine RTC. Your size is not bad.

When I was a teenager I weighed 180 lb.

I know this is weird to hear... BUT I wish I was bigger. being thin is not necessarily great either... I can't keep weight on. It hurts me when people tell me how much they hate me for how I look. My dh's boss said that to me just this last weekend. She was joking but I don't think she thought about how I might feel about it. I am 5' 7" and currently weigh 117 lb. I have been so nauseous from my endo that I am just not hungry. I am embarrassed when people ask me how I lost so much weight. I really do eat!!! I eat more than my dh most of the time. I actually miss fitting into normal clothes. I don't look starved. I actually look perfectly normal (well thin normal). Most people have no clue that I am sick. I realize I may seem silly or even petty for saying all of this but I don't think most people think of thin people wishing they had more "meat" on their bones. Often I get people joking about it or telling me how I need to start eating. They are kind of stunned when I tell them I am trying to gain weight.

Just be happy with how you are. Change what you can and celebrate your womanly curves! :)

I know I will feel better about my body when I don't hurt all the time...

My oldest dd is extremely thin and she also constantly complains about how hard it is to find clothes that actually "fit" her well... and how people L@@K at her critically for being so thin (one of my sisters in particular) and some people have even asked me if she's got an eating disorder. LOL Every time there is a family gathering well meaning friends/relatives practically SHOVE the food at her, telling her that she needs to gain weight. ((she's really sick of hearing that) She eats like a horse and still can't gain weight. She's ALWAYS been thin though... even as a baby she was always long but thin. :) I told her to just wait until she starts having kids... she probably won't have any problem at all gaining and keeping at least some of it on. :)

At one time I weighed 200 pounds and lost well over 75 pounds... it CAN be done but I think it's an individual choice. I took it off because of health problems and I needed/had to... but I'm still the same person inside that I was when I weighed 200 pounds. You have to be happy and feel good about yourself... and that's all that really matters. :)

Diane... :wave:

[RCT]

Diane....I am smiling as I read your last post....:D I too was quite thin for my height before children.....5 ft. 7 in. and 120 pounds....that really is thin.....after 1st ds...I gained alot with pregnancy....but remained at 140 which looks great on me....then after dd..I was in the 150- 160's and that was ok...I was loosing and maintaing...then I quit smoking...had that thyroid operation and .....well lets just say I need to loose about 25-30 pounds to get to 140 again..which is sad because dd is 4 now....LOL.....no excuses for me either....I am exercising, which is a good influence I think for our children....140 is my ideal weight....I feel great there.......but even 155 is good for me....I think its a feeling thing, not a scale thing....the really wierd thing is the size 14 jeans will be on me until I weigh about 145....don't you find that strange too? I go right down to a 10 from a 14....never touch the 12's.....:biglaugh:


I agree also with the words diet...the minute we start one around here, we eat the kitchen....LOL....dh is better about eating well, so he has been helping me cook lately....I have a snacking after kids are in bed issue....so I have been staying out of my kitchen after bedtime.....

I love me....I just wish I was more comfortable in my clothes....size and numbers aren't my issue....health and feeling good are....


glad to see everyone posting to this....thanks

[Melody]

Netmechwife, I hear ya!

There is nothing worse than hearing comments about making people "sick" because of weight on someone else. You're right, it hurts. I used to get comments like that all the time before I had kids. "put some meat on your bones, your too skinny" "you're so skinny it makes me sick". Gee! Thanks! That should make me feel better, tell me the way I look makes you sick! Grrr. I used to want to put on weight, I knew I was too skinny and I felt uncomfortable about it but my metabolism is so fast that I could eat anything I wanted and never gain an ounce. The most I weighed was 152 pnds at the end of both pregnancies. And I lost most of it and am getting closer to what I was before I had the boys but without trying. I am starting to get so called compiments again and try to tell myself that it isn't me but the person making the comments uncomfortable with herself. But it is hard and I won't hear them anymore without saying something back. People need to realize that they are insults and not compiments and no one should comment on another persons weight.
I agree, be happy with what you have and who you are!

[netmechwife]

Thanks melody! I feel encouraged knowing I am not the only person who has gone through that. When I was a teenager I was on bc and I think that is why I gained so much weight. Before that I was always skinny. I think I must have a high metabolism. I get a lot of comments from people who are concerned that my baby is starving me!!! lol usually people worry nursing moms are starving their babies. :) I have had numerous people tell me I need to stop nursing so I can gain back some weight. I eat like crazy. I wouldn't miss nursing my Drewy for the world! He only nurses 2x a day now so its not bad. I am still losing weight. I am hoping to wean hime before my surgery in Jan.

[arianna]

MM! I dislike the word "Diet" as well. Modifying your eating habits for life is a much better way to lose and maintain a healthy life. I gained because I just stopped moving. I have no plans to cut back on my food intake, just get myself going again. I still fit barely, into my 9/10 clothes. That means absolutly squat though as far as being healthy is concerned. I think I was a size 7 in middle school and I haven't seen it since. I have only weighted more than 150 being pregnant. Both times I was able to carry to full term, I gained more than 40 lbs and subsequently lost the weight within the following 6 months.
We don't own a scale. I think that can lead to OCD in my case. I know how much I weigh by the way my clothes fit. But it's really important for me to be fit physically at any weight. I'm happy this gym has yoga. That's really my passion, but it's hard to stay motivated while doing it alone. I've also been having a hard time adjusting back to this intense heat. It's hard to walk on the pista in this heat. The gym is airconditioned. :-).
I think the media has so much to do with how we women perceive our bodies. We'll never look like supermodels while trying to keep up with our children. We don't have personal trainers who work with us daily and moderate our food and exercise , but most of all, we don't have the benifits of being airbrushed to slim down our problem areas. We're women, curves and all! ßß!

[KarlaB]

When the word diet is even mentioned it also sends me into a total eating frenzy. Dh and I did a "soup" diet a few years ago and I begged him to let us quit....we ended up going to a buffet!! :lol:

Right now I am pretty content with my weight, although ideally I would like to lose 5 or so pounds. Then, as I eat another treat I try to convince myself that any extra weight is good in case I ever get sick. :rolleyes:


netmechwife - In high school I had people who thought I was anoerxic and it was very frustrating because I ate whenever and whatever I wanted to and just never gained weight. However, these days.... :lol: Like others mentioned, be happy with who you are and let others down comments roll right off your back. :)