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MK
03-02-2001, 01:28 AM
Okay, well dh and I went to the seminar on the 7Habits of Highly Effective Families, sponsored by the PTA and our County School District. There was an openhouse reception before the actual seminar, and I picked up a whole huge stack of pamphlets, brochures, books, etc. on childrearing and parenting, etc. As requested, I will post a few tidbits that I picked up tonight, and give you more as I wade through all the material. I also have the book, which I have read, and I need to read it again. Anyway, here goes:

The 7 Habits, to start are:

1)Be proactive (be responseABLE, you have choices)
2)Begin with the end in mind (figure out what your goals are, what's important to you)
3)Put first things first (so you can achieve those goals and get to the end in mind)

Habit 3 is also where mission statements come in, both personal and family mission statements. More on that later.

4)Think win-win
5)Seek first to understand,then to be understood
6)Synergize (1+1= more than 2)
7)Sharpen the Saw (you have to keep practicing the habits, especially your personal self to "keep your plane on course")

A profound thought by George Elliott: "It's never too late to be what you want to be."

Just a few of the 101 Ways to prevent violence: Treat others the way you want to be treated, Solve all arguments peacefully, Count to 10, if counting to 10 doesn't help count to 20, if counting to 20 doesn't help count to 50, if counting to 50 doesn't help count to 100, try deep breaths to calm down, say "I'm sorry" when you're wrong, No put downs, learn to compromise, practice what to do in urgent situations,if you can't solve a problem with someone, let a peacemaker help you work things out, don't pick fights, think about what got you mad so you can avoid it next time, get counselling if you need help controlling anger, learn to accept yourself.

This last little tidbit ought to make you all feel lots better, especially those of you who worry that your kids watch too much telly and you are feeling guilty about it:

If you are concerned that television may be occupying too much of your child's time, consider these questions: Is the television set constantly on when your child is at home? Is your youngster unable to generate any entertainment or play activity on his or her own? Even if friends are available for play, does your child choose TV? Does conversation center exculsively on television programs and characters? If the answer to several of these questions is yes, then you might considrr setting some limitts on your child's viewing. I figured most of you answered no to most of these questions, I did. If I'm right, and you did answer no, don't you feel better already?

Well, good night, I'm going to bed. I may not be on in the morning, dh has to do a major reload, then we have some errands to run (no school for the dks due to teacher prep). I'll miss you all.

Oh, BTW, you would all be proud of me, especially you, Ann W-- dh and I actually hired a sitter (my little sister finally came of age)to watch the kids so we could go out to this thing tonight! We haven't left the kids with a sitter and gone out without them in four years! It was really refreshing! :)

Well, have a wonderful Friday, if I don't talk to you. :)

beth c
03-02-2001, 08:16 AM
Thanks for all the valuable info here. I will look forward to more of the info as you get time. I have looked at that book before and I think it would be a good one to add to my collection. Thanks again!!! Have a great day!!
Our dks are off today too-this was parent teacher conf. week so they get the day off!!

KarlaB
03-02-2001, 09:55 AM
Good info! Thanks for passing ti on and I look forward to hearing more about it. I am going to look for the book, too - sounds like a good one! Way to go getting a sitter and getting out! Dh and I definitely need to do that! Thanks again! :)

Leigh
03-02-2001, 12:27 PM
Thanks for the info, and I'm glad that you got a chance to go out and have fun. Are you going to do it again soon? Maybe you should try do it once a week or month or something. Have a good day!:)

angie r
03-02-2001, 02:14 PM
Originally posted by MK
Oh, BTW, you would all be proud of me, especially you, Ann W-- dh and I actually hired a sitter (my little sister finally came of age)to watch the kids so we could go out to this thing tonight! We haven't left the kids with a sitter and gone out without them in four years! It was really refreshing! :)

Four years is way too long!! And what did you do? Talk about the kids the whole time. LOL Next time try a night out on the town!! Thank you for the info, it is so good!

:)

Diane
03-02-2001, 02:35 PM
In all the year's we've been married (26) we only left the kids with anybody once... and the entire time we were gone all we did was worry and talk/think about the kids. LOL Of course they were just fine... having a blast with grandma and grandpa and we had nothing to worry about. LOL I don't know why it is but as many times as you might wish for time to yourselves... you miss them like crazy when their not with you. LOL

AnnW
03-02-2001, 02:36 PM
Good for you MK!