To Tysmommy!

[Mickey]

Debbi, I went to reply to one of your posts, but it's gone. Just wanted you to know that I was going to reply! :)

[tysmommy]

I had changed my mind about the post what were you going to say? I am still interested in hearing it.
Thanks
Debbi

[Mickey]

Want me to e-mail you about it? Or should I post it here?

I feel strongly that it's perfectly fine, but I'll elaborate if you'd like! :)

[tysmommy]

You can put it here if you want or you can email me which ever you want.
Debbi

[Mickey]

OK...here's my humble opinion about this:

I have no idea if this is "right" or "wrong" for your ds in this situation (you should probably ask his/your therapist), but, in general, I'm an advocate of allowing a child to sleep with or near you as long as they need to. I believe that it builds confidence and if you wait until they are truly ready, they will sleep in their own beds and will do so with little or no problems.

I really don't think your ds will want to sleep with you forever...and I don't see a problem with it now, at the age of 3. As long as you take his cue and let him move to his own room when he's ready.

You can wean him when you feel he's ready--move him onto a toddler bed or a mattress near your bed, but in the same room. And then go to having him start out in his own room in his own bed, with the option of going into your room and sleeping on the toddler bed if he needs to.

My ds turned 5 the first week in May and until 8 or 9 months ago, we had a "cozy spot" for him in our room--a crib mattress on the floor, made up w/ pad, sheet, pillow and quilt. He would start out in his room, but if he needed to come into our room, he could (but not in our bed, only in his cozy spot). Those times became fewer and fewer until we finally put the crib mattress away. He now sleeps in his own room all night--no problems going to bed or staying there.

Just be very careful not to confuse his needs with your needs.

[tysmommy]

Thanks for your input. I don't really think that I am confusing my needs with his. I let him decide when it comes to that. I don't mind him there though either. Either way is okay with me. As long as he is happy.
Thanks,
Debbi.8)