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angie r
01-26-2002, 09:50 AM
I was going to have my tubes tied after this baby. I am swaying on doing something so permanant. My OB suggested an IUD. Do any of you use this method? Tell me the positives and the negatives and what method you use if not an IUD.
I'd always been on the pill until I had kids and then it made me terribly sick. After kids we haven't used anything, occasionally a condom. No wonder why we got our surprise, huh?? LOL Anyway, I hope this isn't a thread that is "too much information" for anyone!! I'd really like to try something better this time!
littlesista06
01-26-2002, 10:39 AM
I'm no help here but wanted to wish you luck with your decision.
I was on the pill until we tried for dd and then we used condoms for a while after that - and well, the last 2.5 years you're read what we've been going through....
Good luck Angie!
Have Brichard have a vasectomy. It is less invasive, fewer side effects, and easier to reverse with a high success ratio.
I never used an IUD, but I do know that there are high rates of uterine scarring with one.
Funny how that works. We weren't shooting for more children, but we weren't using protection either.
We are struggling with the same issues. Don't want any more children, but the finality of a tubal or vasectomy is more than we can stomach. From what I understand reversals aren't that successful in either category. DW was talking about an IUD for awhile but now is leaning towards the pill.
If you do the tubal, would it be with the c-sect?
Mickey
01-26-2002, 01:01 PM
I happen to love the pill--I felt so agitated and emotional prior to my period before going on it and when I was on it, I felt great. Since my surgery, though, medication isn't absorbed like it should be, so I'm on the Lunelle (http://www.lunelle.com/) injection monthly. So far so good.
TXmom
01-26-2002, 03:43 PM
We planned for dh to have a vasectomy after Trey was born, but my OB talked me into a tubal since I was having a c section anyway. That doctor is now dh's best friend.
Lynda/WA
01-26-2002, 04:06 PM
Not any help here. Don't know anyone that uses an IUD. We went with a tubal. I delivered naturally but was told that since everything is moved into place immediately after the pregnancy. We had decided that if I couldn't have the tubal the same day then DH would get a vasectomy at a later date.
angie r
01-26-2002, 04:25 PM
AnnW - I'd never ask Brichard to have a vasectomy. He is younger than I am and if anything ever happened to me I'd want him to be able to have more children when he remarried if he desired. Even if something happened to Brichard I doubt highly I'd have any more children.
Jeff - If I had a tubal I would do it at the same time as my c-sect. Why is your dw leaning toward the pill instead of IUD? I wish the pill didn't make me so sick!! It is like taking a morning sickness pill for me.
My OB told me that the IUD is the number 1 method of BC in every country except the US.
Loved the pill, took it for 10 years..... but after we had the children, and I was still smoking...I didn't like the risks....so Condoms for us....so far so good....we have talked about tubal and Vascetomy's.......Good luck with your choice...:D
TXmom
01-26-2002, 05:08 PM
angie
Hmmm....the IUD being the #1 method of contraception in every country except the US sound odd to me, so I checked a little and came up with this:
http://www.birthcontrolresources.com/results.htm
Now, this survey was done for a pharmaceutical company and their sample population seems very small to me, but it's interesting anyway.
angie r
01-26-2002, 06:03 PM
Hmmm... I wonder where my OB gets his stats??
Originally posted by angie r
AnnW - I'd never ask Brichard to have a vasectomy. He is younger than I am and if anything ever happened to me I'd want him to be able to have more children when he remarried if he desired. Even if something happened to Brichard I doubt highly I'd have any more children.
Jeff - If I had a tubal I would do it at the same time as my c-sect. Why is your dw leaning toward the pill instead of IUD? I wish the pill didn't make me so sick!! It is like taking a morning sickness pill for me.
My OB told me that the IUD is the number 1 method of BC in every country except the US.
Apparently in many cases the iud increases cramping and flow. The pill for her always decreased flow and made her regular.
angie r
01-26-2002, 06:21 PM
Thanks for the link Donna.... this link sounds like what my OB told me http://www.mjbovo.com/Contracept/IUD-Truth.htm
Jeff - Yes, I was told that it does increase the flow by a tablespoon and if I didn't have cramps before, which I didn't, I would have them now.
What should I do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 8o lol
Angie, you also need to know that in SOME women, PMS and cramping increase after a tubal too. I never had PMS or bloating till I had my tubal. You can also have an increase in ovarian cysts, cause SOMETIMES (not always) the egg doesn't absorb back into the lining of the tubes as easy as it would the uterus. (I don't know the whole total scientific reason something to do with follicles, eggs ect)
Just wanted you to know. May not happen at all with you. I don't regret having my tubal at all but the PMS is a side effect I didn't plan on.
Dh had a vasectomy and it was no big deal. He was nervous the day of the operation, but he did just fine afterwards. There is obvious tenderness for awhile and bruising, but he went about his business. Just know it can take up to twelve weeks after the operation to be fully sterile. I had no guilty feeling for dh having this because this is quite minor compared to your vagina being distorted to ungodly porportions! LOL
For those of you who are afraid of the "finality" of it--why?? If you definitely do not want anymore kids, then why should you care? It is a relief to me to know Im going to get my period every month.
I've use the pill, IUD, and finally dh had a vasectomy. I did not like the IUD, it did increase cramping and dh could feel the little retreaval (sp) wire. I really liked the pill: clearer complextion and clockwork periods.
MaryL
01-26-2002, 07:42 PM
I'm with Amy/CO on this one! Dh had a Vasectomy when youngest ds was about 2. We knew we were only going to have 2 kids....and he had no problem with doing the "v". It was no problem for dh...(our story is similar to Amy's!) I was on the pill before we had dk's.....and for a couple of years after! Even when dh had the Vasec. I still used the pill because it helped my complexion. I only went off of it this past year to see if it was causing me to gain weight. My complexion hasn't suffered, so I've stayed off of it. Kind of a relief, actually! My BIL had a "reversal" when he re-married, and his wife got pregnant twice. He had another "v" after the 2nd child. No problems at all. (Our insurance covered the vasectomy, and it was out-patient...only took a couple of hours TOTAL (including recovery). Of course, he "milked" it for a couple of days at home!:rolleyes: )
Diane
01-26-2002, 08:10 PM
I used an IUD for years... and I loved it but yes, the flow was a lot greater although I only experienced minor cramping. I liked it because I never had to remember to take a pill and dh never really liked wearing a condom, so at the time it worked well for us. I actually kept mine in a lot longer than I should have and went through "H" until I finally got in and had it removed. I went on the pill for a while and had nothing but trouble trying to regulate my period. I'd get it on and off 2 to 3 times a month... lots of cramping and nausea. I couldn't take it. Now were VERY careful... count my day's, take my temperature and use condom's. At my age the last thing I want is to become a mother again..... Ugh!!! That and I was never one to get pregnant quickly/easily so... I really don't worry about it.
After my youngest sister got remarried... her dh, who had never been married or had a child before decided that he would like to have at least one child. She agreed and had the tubal reversed and they are now expecting in the middle of June. They are very excited... :) I think doing something permanent is a hard thing to do though... it's a hard decision to make even when/if you think you don't want any more. I had a friend who had her "last" child only to loose it to SIDS two months later. Her dh had already had a vacetomy but... fortunately for them, it evidently hadn't "taken" yet and two months later they found out that they were expecting again. She was lucky that she could get pregnant so easily otherwise I'm not too sure what they would have done. I just think it's a hard decision to make. :)
Diane... :wave:
angie r
01-26-2002, 09:20 PM
Originally posted by Diane P.
After my youngest sister got remarried... her dh, who had never been married or had a child before decided that he would like to have at least one child. She agreed and had the tubal reversed and they are now expecting in the middle of June. They are very excited... :) I think doing something permanent is a hard thing to do though... it's a hard decision to make even when/if you think you don't want any more. I had a friend who had her "last" child only to loose it to SIDS two months later. Her dh had already had a vacetomy but... fortunately for them, it evidently hadn't "taken" yet and two months later they found out that they were expecting again. She was lucky that she could get pregnant so easily otherwise I'm not too sure what they would have done. I just think it's a hard decision to make. :)
Diane... :wave:
I think that is the big reason I don't want to do anything permanant. If you lost all your kids today....would you want to have another?
To your question Angie-
definitely not. I could never have another child just to replace or lessen the loss of my other child.
My problem is the reverse. I used to be a big risk taker and have scaled back completely for the sake of my kids. I can't stand the thought of putting myself into a potential situation where I may get hurt and leave my kids motherless.
Mickey
01-27-2002, 09:40 AM
Originally posted by Amy/CO
For those of you who are afraid of the "finality" of it--why?? If you definitely do not want anymore kids, then why should you care?...
You can change your mind and regret it. I know someone who is in that situation now.
If anything happened to my kids..that would be it. :(
Angie..what if you are 40 and something happened..you going to try to replace them then?
Cathy
01-27-2002, 10:38 AM
No more children for me.....and I'm sure!! I can't imagine starting over. If something happened to my dds, I'd be devastated. But that's because I'd lose them--with all their uniqueness, not because I'd lose a child. Nothing could fill or replace that loss.
To the topic at hand, my current method of birth control is 100% effective, no side effects, but not much fun......
angie r
01-27-2002, 12:39 PM
Originally posted by AnnW
If anything happened to my kids..that would be it. :(
Angie..what if you are 40 and something happened..you going to try to replace them then?
I don't see where I said I'd "replace" my kids? I believe Amy used those words. I love being a mother and would have more children if I had more money to raise them with. I remember after the OK city bombing watching a mother who lost both her kids in the day care center there. She said that although she hadn't planned on more children she hoped she'd have children again now. I don't think she meant she could replace what she'd lost?
My mother lost my sister to sids and then had me. I wouldn't say I replaced my sister, as my mother still grieves for her baby. I did bring alot of joy to my parents though!! Just ask her, I'm sure she'll tell you how great I am? ROFLMBO
If I was 40 I'd definately have another child. 40 ain't that old!! :newwink:
I really appreciate all the great advice I'm getting here!! Keep it coming!
littlesista06
01-27-2002, 02:02 PM
Originally posted by angie r
Jeff - If I had a tubal I would do it at the same time as my c-sect. Why is your dw leaning toward the pill instead of IUD? I wish the pill didn't make me so sick!! It is like taking a morning sickness pill for me.
Did your OB already tell you he'd so the tubal at the time of c-section? Reason I ask, is my OB said he wouldn't do any other surgeries in that area at the time of c-section due to the increased blood flow to the area because of pregnancy.....
(I had asked about having this troublesome ovary taken out if I had another c-section.)
littlesista06
01-27-2002, 02:08 PM
Originally posted by Amy/CO
....Just know it can take up to twelve weeks after the operation to be fully sterile.
Funny story - a friend of mine's hubby had the vasectomy and instead of the dr. asking for the normal 2 or 3 sperm samples after the operation (to make sure he was sterile) he only asked for one.....it showed he was sterile. Welp, a few months later....
SURPRISE - she showed up pregnant WITH TWINS!!!!! 8o
angie r
01-27-2002, 02:24 PM
Originally posted by littlesista06
Did your OB already tell you he'd so the tubal at the time of c-section? Reason I ask, is my OB said he wouldn't do any other surgeries in that area at the time of c-section due to the increased blood flow to the area because of pregnancy.....
(I had asked about having this troublesome ovary taken out if I had another c-section.)
Yes, he said he'd do it at the same time. Saves $$$
Originally posted by Amy/CO
For those of you who are afraid of the "finality" of it--why?? If you definitely do not want anymore kids, then why should you care? It is a relief to me to know Im going to get my period every month.
Don't trust my feelings.
I had my tubes tied 6 years ago and have had not any regrets. I knew I wanted 2 and was lucky enough to be able to have 2 and I'm done. My son ended up sick and we were told he might die when he was 9 days old. I had not had my tubed tied yet (had to wait until after my 6 week check up). I knew then that I was making the right decision, because had he died, I would not have wanted to have another baby.
I knew a lady that had an IUD for years and she loved it. I was always on the pills before and in between pregnancies.
Mickey
01-31-2002, 08:44 AM
Angie, I didn't read your reply as wanting to replace your children.
If you're uncertain, don't do it...who knows, maybe you'll win the lottery and want to have five more! ;)
Originally posted by Cathy
To the topic at hand, my current method of birth control is 100% effective, no side effects, but not much fun......
ROFLMAO.....but its fool proof and inexpensive...LOL....dh said no thanks...LOL.....
angie r
01-31-2002, 10:01 AM
Originally posted by RCT
ROFLMAO.....but its fool proof and inexpensive...LOL....dh said no thanks...LOL.....
rofl!! I don't think Brichard will go for that one either!! He is thinking about a vasectomy now?!
I talked to a friend of mine who is an only child because her mom used the IUD that caused all those infections. I've never had major cramps so now I'm rethinking the IUD especially after what my friend said. Right now I am in the frame of mind that I don't want any more children after Emilee. I wish I wasn't so wishy washy on this subject!!
netmechwife
02-01-2002, 03:00 PM
I personally can't use birth control pills because of the side effects. I can't use condoms or the diaphram either (they make me break out really bad because of the latex). I have also heard of problems with other methods, especially the internal ones irritating endometriosis.
My husband and I use natural family planning based on the consistency/color of discharge. I know it sounds gross but you can tell if you are fertile or not by paying attention to whether you are dry or not. We were using this method but one time my husband didn't listen when I warned him I was fertile ;). So we are expecting again. It is not the same as the temperature method and other nfp methods. It is more effective.
I heard about it on Focus on the Family. It is 99% effective when used properly. It is easy to use once you learn it and extremely inexpensive (like free after you buy the book :).) I bought the book on it and it came with a chart to keep track. The site to check out is:
http://familyplanning.net/index-home.html
I'm sure there are many other sites but this is the one the speaker on FOF is from. You can do a search on the internet to find out more if you like. Check it out and see if it is an option for you. We plan on using it again after we have our baby. We are both only 23 so even though we may stop at 3 we don't want to make it a permanent decision yet.
imamama
02-01-2002, 06:48 PM
Have you heard of the Depo Provera injection? You only have to get it every 3 months. The first time I was on it for 2 years and had no side effects, also didn't have a period!! woo hoo!
Then, doc put me on it 1 1/2 years after dd was born b/c of a hormone imbalance. This time, I gained weight. But... I'm not completely certain it was the shot, since stopped taking it last May and never started my period again. We in Dec. and he found an ovarian cyst.
Anyway, it's worth a look. I loved it!!
Kathy, glad to know someone else is using the same method as me!!!! :biglaugh: No chance of getting preggers here... seeing as how it's been FOUR YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol:
Cathy
02-02-2002, 11:04 AM
Originally posted by imamama
Kathy, glad to know someone else is using the same method as me!!!! :biglaugh: No chance of getting preggers here... seeing as how it's been FOUR YEARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :lol:
Without revealing too much of my life.......may I just say "You're a ROOKIE!!" ROFL
imamama
02-02-2002, 11:27 AM
Originally posted by Cathy
Without revealing too much of my life.......may I just say "You're a ROOKIE!!" ROFL
ROFL!! Yikes, you poor dear!!! Actually, though, it's been sooooo long, I don't even miss it anymore! I know, too much info!
whitneyway
02-28-2002, 06:06 PM
Since it looks like you're still looking for suggestions....mine would be to get your tubes tied and to NOT get an IUD. My sister-in-law (who happens to be married to a doctor) had one and get this - it passed through her uterus and was just lying there on top of it! 8o
After it had been placed, she got really sick and went to her GYN to see what was up. They actually had to perform surgery to get it out. Not to mention that all that time when she thought she was protected - she wasn't.
I guess I have heard all along, even before my sister-in-laws bad experience with them, that IUD's were trouble. The pill has always worked for me w/o any side effects but when I'm done having kids (we may be there since we have four!) I'll be getting "fixed". ;)
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