what to do about baby business?

[Dena]

Thanks for writing me back! My husband and I have visitation of his little boy age 8. We are not able to live together because of his work. Long story! I have always wanted to have kids, but last night I found myself only being the 2nd one not to have a child in a group of 12 women! I felt like I had the plague or something. I keep busy, but sometimes I just can't help having these feelings of lonliness and frustration. We tried to have a baby for a year, without any sucess. I know it takes a while and I am trying to convince myself and my husband that I don't really want a baby, but...I do. I live in a small area where family is your main way of life. I don't have any single friends or married friends that don't have children. I am trying not to be jealous and I love all my friends kids, but I wish I had friends that didn't have children. Any suggestions on how to get over this rut?

[AnnW]

It's hard to get pregnant if you and your dh don't live in the same place. Does he want to have more children? Have you been to a doctor to pursue infertility treatments? Do you want to be a parent, or do you want to have a child cause you think it will make you less lonely and fit in more?

btw..welcome aboard! :)

[Dena]

I hope I am doing this right! Yes, I want a baby, I want to be a mother, but dh and I are temporarily living in different towns. He wants to have more children of course when we are living together, me too. I just wondered how other people deal without having children when it means so much to them.

[AnnW]

You might try doing a search for boards like "childless by choice" or something like that and would probably find alot of people out there that don't have kids.
Good luck with everything, hope it all works out and you and your dh start living in the same city really soon!