Who is the"BAG GUY" at your house?

[RCT]

now you know what I mean...who is the one who is hardest on the children...and who is the buffer, not physcially getting betweent them and in no way interring in front of the children...but softening the situation.... between your kids and that parent.....just wondering....


mostly dh is the "fun one" he is more fun than I am...I don't do playdoh, I'll watch....but all the artsy stuff...NO...dh does it with the them and they love it...


I would have to say that I am the Bag Guy.....the diceplinarian....since I am home more....I MAKE THE RULES....that dh agrees too also...he disciplines when he is here....LOL..and also that I am the buffer....dh seems harder on them about the small stuff....like putting too much food in ones mouth....I let it go, for the most part...or will give the kids a look...but dh just goes on and on....BLAH BLAH BLAH...I don't think the kids even hear him....:lol: don't tell him that.....


just being nosey....

[littlesista06]

Oh, for sure, I'm the hardass around here!!! :lol:

[imamama]

I get to be both!! :lol: I can "hurt her feelings" by making her clean up her toys, etc, but then I get to instantly redeem myself because also comes to me for immediate comfort after she's stopped crying about being asked to help out!!! :lol:

I've got it made!!!!

[Cathy]

Daddy is the funny, wonderful, give-us-whatever-we-want adult.They don't want to spend any time with him, but I've noticed lately that the "I'll ask Daddy for it" attitude has increased.
I am the actual parent (limits, accountability, homework, responsibility). But I'm also the one that they trust and talk to. I used to get tired of being the mean one all the time, but it's just the way things are. :rolleyes:

[Mickey]

Actually, it's pretty equal. I'm with ds more, so I make more rules and enforce them more often, but dh and I are on the same page with it all and he jumps right in there with the "bad guy" stuff.

[KarlaB]

Originally posted by Mickey
Actually, it's pretty equal. I'm with ds more, so I make more rules and enforce them more often, but dh and I are on the same page with it all and he jumps right in there with the "bad guy" stuff.

That sums it up well for me, too! :)

[AnnW]

I don't think it's fair to have one parent be the good cop and one be the bad cop. It sets up to many triangle. We each have things that we are more strict about. Some things send me over the edge and dh just looks at me like "chill out" and vice versa. We are very clear on our rules, and both make sure the kids follow them.

[Sasha Rowan]

I agree, there are some things, like listening to me, that are important to me and some things like keeping the floor clean of toys, that is important to dh. We both enforce, me more often because I am here most.

[Marla]

I don't think either of us are the "bad guy". I think we both enfore things equally, however I am defiantely stricter with the kids ie I want their homework done before the kids go play, and dh may let them play without doing their homework (if I'm not home). I think our kids look up to us both the same .

[Diane]

I've probably been the one who has had to dicipline the most but that's only because I'm the one who has always been home the most with the kids. When my dh is home... he does it just as equally as I do. We help and back each other up... but the kids know that neither one of us will give in once a rule has been set.

I have a friend who's children were constantly going between mom and dad trying to set one against the other. 8o They never backed up or suppoorted each other in any of the decisions that were made. Those kids have turned out so screwed up... 8o and the parents just recently got a divorce, :( which wasn't too big of a surprise to anyone who knew them. They were such opposits... which was the reason why they could never agree upon anything regarding their kids. It's never a good thing to have one parent or the other being considered the "bad guy". (Bag???)

Diane... :wave: