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[bizymum]

Hello just a quick question and wondering if anyone has had this problem....

With this one dck that I have, she is supossed to be here at 8:20 every morning. The last few days they have showed up either late or not all. Today again I have not heard anything. No phone call or nothing. I haev tried to call both home phones and cell phone. no answer. I know that they are home too cause they live behind me and they were there all weekend, I was alos told that she would be here for sure today.
I hate this being in limbo, if I knew what they were doing then I could make plans. If they dont come a call would be nice then DS and I could go out do something or get some running around done. She is actually done here at the end of the month, since her family is moving, should I really worry about it or just let it slide. i get paid whether she is here or not. I just hate this not knowing am I right to feel this way?

[Mickey]

I would tell her that if you don't hear from her by 9 (or whatever time you want to say), you'll assume she won't be there and will make other plans.

[Diane]

I hate it when they do that to me. I'm a very scheduled person and I like to know when someone isn't going to be here AND if they're going to be late... what time I might expect them. My parents are usually pretty good about calling but every once in a whle they'll forget :rolleyes: and leave me hanging. I've called them, only to get no answer so of course I'm thinking that they're on their way... NOT!!! Either they don't come at all OR... they'll show up at the most inconvenient time, like when the kids are just sitting down for lunch and I've got no food made for their child/ren OR just as were about to leave for the park. 8o I've got one family who has an infant and I'll usually plan a trip to the park when they aren't here because it's SO much easier to go there without an infant than with. One day we were halfway down the street when they tracked us down and they were literally going to drop the kids off right there in the street. Me without a stroller... 8o which would mean that I'd have to CARRY the baby the rest of the way to the park and also while we were AT the park. Well... I ended up having to ask them to meet me back at my house and they could drop the kids off there. Needless to say, that was the end of our trip to the park. I had more than a few very disappointed kids. :( I think it's rude not to call... it's the least they can do. It only takes a few minutes of their time and it can save you a lot of stress/worry. Sometimes I don't think parents realize just how disruptive they can be when they don't call. I'd definitely talk with them about it. :) Good luck!!!!!!!!!

Diane... :wave:

[kathleen]

As a parent, I cannot imagine NOT calling your childcare to let them know you wouldn't be there. First, if my child wasn't at daycare, on a scheduled day, then I would want to know that someone was concerned about his absence. Second, in a daycare center, the number of workers there depends on the number/ages of children -- the center knowing my son wouldnt' be there on a particular day could make a difference in someone's work schedule.

Since my son started attending school, on those days I have called in that he was ill, I am told by the secretary "OK," but I am not sure she writes it down.

I usually write the childcare center a note.

[Diane]

Originally posted by kathleen
As a parent, I cannot imagine NOT calling your childcare to let them know you wouldn't be there. First, if my child wasn't at daycare, on a scheduled day, then I would want to know that someone was concerned about his absence. Second, in a daycare center, the number of workers there depends on the number/ages of children -- the center knowing my son wouldnt' be there on a particular day could make a difference in someone's work schedule.


I'm more likely to call a parent to find out where the child is or if there has been a change in plans ever since last summer when a dad... who wasn't normally the parent to drop the child off at daycare, drove straight to work, forgotting all about his child. The child was left in the back seat of the car all day long... until the end of the day when the dad went back out to his car to go home. 8o 8o Needless to say... the child was no longer alive. :(

I couldln't help but think that if his provider had called to find out where the child was... they might have gotten to him in time. I know it isn't really the provider's responsibility to have to do this... but ever since that happened, if a child isn't here on time... I'm on the phone trying to call them. :) When/if they don't answer their phones (both home and work) though.. there isn't a whole lot we can do. I LOVE having parents with car phones... they can always be gotten. LOL I wish more parents would be considerate enough to call us. Sometimes the entire day goes by without a word... and that really makes me mad.
:( Sometimes I don't think parents realize just how much we worry about their children when they don't show up... or even stop to think that we have certain schedules and activities that might center around their children being here. :) I can understand that parents sometimes have a lot on their minds and forget... so I do try to understand, but after it happens more than a few times I'm no longer that nice about it anymore. :( Oh well...

Diane... :wave:

[JAK]

A friend of mine has this problem with one of her parents. She just leaves the house and puts a note on the door as to where she is. All of her parents have her cell phone number and can reach her if they need her. She got tired of waiting around for parents who never showed up!

I personally haven't had this problem (knock on wood). The closest I have is a parent who works a different work schedule every week so trying to keep up with his changing schedule can be a pain, especially when the parents don't communicate very well! One more than one occassion I have called the dad and said "hey, where are you?". His wife had just told me the wrong time or his schedule had changed and he hadn't told me.
:rolleyes:

If I were you Rhonda, I'd just tell them- if you aren't here by such and such time, I might not be here. I wouldn't sit around waiting for a parent, even if I was getting paid. Sounds like it might be a good thing that they are moving! :)

[bizymum]

Well They have moved...It has turned out to be a good thing. The last two weeks they were coming I wasnt sure if the ywere coming or not. So I did leave notes and called....Then if I needed to go out I did.

Now that we are on a better schedule things are going alot easier and I dont have to worry about clients waiting at my door either. FOr now till after the baby is born I am just sticking with one family(they are freinds too) It is alot easier adn I am getting some well deserved rest and am now able to spend more time with my boys...

Thanks for all your advice..I will keep it in mind when I do take in more children.

[Diane]

I'm glad to hear that things are going much better for you now that they have moved. I know how hard it is trying to juggle your activities around someone elses schedules. Take it easy... :)

Diane... :wave: