forgot anniversary

[Dena]

I have given my husband the benifit of the doubt more than once. He is working off and didn't call in 6 days!! Not to mention that our anniversary was in that time! He finally did call and said he was just depressed! How does he think I felt. Then he wanted me to drop everything and come see him!! He had the nerve to ask me where I had been and why I wasn't home to answer the phone! I said why haven't you called me? He said he forgot, how do you forget your wife? On top of all that... I found out that because of the reduction in federal funds I will not be teaching at my school next year. I feel depressed. I didn't even tell him what happened, I feel like he didn't deserve to know. I have taken care of him for years, he doesn't take care of me. He has let me down so many times! I have tried to give hime the benifit of the doubt, I am not trying to be mean, but I am realizing I deserve better than this, if I live the rest of my life alone, I won't have to bail him out all the time. I believe that depression is real, but don't I deserve a chance at real happiness? Don't get me wrong I do love him, but I am tired of being hurt.

[Leigh]

You have to do what is right for you. I don't know what to tell you because I don't fully understand your circumstances, but I think that everyone should be happy with their life. Maybe you could try going to counseling and see if that helps you feel better. I talked to a counselor once when I was down in the dumps and it really helped me. :) Hope you feel better soon.

[KarlaB]

I agree with what Leigh said. Would you consider counseling? How long have you guys lived apart? How long until you think you'd be able to live together again - is this long term? Do you get to see each other very often? (Sorry if you posted this already and I forgot.) I haven't been in your position, but I feel for you and know it must be tough! Hang in there and come here anytime you need to vent.