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Okay, with all this talk of school starting I guess I can't deny it any more. Ds is going back to school on Thursday. I can just see myself hanging on to his leg as he drags himself to the school bus! :bigcry: We got the teacher that we wanted (thank God!), but I don't know if she knows anything about ds yet, if the school has given her details.
My fears aren't much different from the first day I dropped him off for special ed when he was three. They're going to lose him. He's going to ask to go to the bathroom and they're never going to see him again, LOL!! This is the first year that there's not a bathroom right in the room. He actually has to go out the door and down a hall (outside) a little ways. :nervous:
Please pray that I deal with this okay and that ds is alright. I can't get past these selfish "he's *my* son, you can't have him" feelings and fight for what's best for him! I don't WAAANNA let him GO!!!! Waaaahhhhh!!!!! :bigcry:
vea29
08-07-2002, 01:09 AM
Pam~~~~ You'll both make it through this fine.... Remember you have to learn to crawl before you walk... It may be scary but once you do it...you'll enjoy it. Good luck!!!!
Vea
MaryL
08-07-2002, 08:31 AM
{{{Pam}}} .... Keep us updated on his progress! :)
what does your ds think about going to school?
I think I'm more worried about you, then him...;)
You can do this! Set up an appointment with the teacher this week and talk about your concerns for him. The school is open now for teachers working so go there and walk around with him and show him the bathroom, the library, the office...ect. Heck, I do that with my kids each year. DS was nervous about finding his way around the middle school last year so that's exactly what we did.
Leigh
08-07-2002, 10:31 AM
{{{Pam}}} I am sure that if I were sending my child off to school, I would have these same feelings. I am also sure that everything will be okay. Just relax and remember that going to school is a part of growing up. We all had to do it, and I am sure that our parents felt the same way, but we survived and they survived, and we will survive again. I hope that made sense. Come here to express your fears any time. That is what we are here for. :D
KarlaB
08-07-2002, 10:42 AM
{{{Pam}}} I know how you feel!!! My ds starts in a few weeks and it makes me nervous....of course I could never let him know that!! I dread the moment when I have to walk away.....take notes so you can help me thru it!!! :bawling: :)
It'll all be okay!! Do talk to his teacher about any of your concerns. Let us know how it all goes!!!
OH Pam...I got tears in my eyes reading :read: your post...I fear that the kids will get on the bus here and never make it to school....I fear about the bathroom not being in the class too. it will all be ok....I like Ann's suggestion to make an appointment to talk with the teacher soon....before conferences and stuff like that....it will easy your mind and give her some insight on your ds....hang in there honey...
Even more important than talking to his teacher. GO to the school and walk around and get familiar with it before the first day. That will make both of you feel so much better.
Cathy
08-07-2002, 12:05 PM
One additional bit of advice in addition to the great comments above--SUNGLASSES!! They let you be in 'stealth mode' while you encourage ds to spread his wings. You'll always be his roots, you know! Hang in there!
Originally posted by Cathy
One additional bit of advice in addition to the great comments above--SUNGLASSES!! They let you be in 'stealth mode' while you encourage ds to spread his wings. You'll always be his roots, you know! Hang in there!
8) I wore them yesterday too....:lol:
Diane
08-07-2002, 01:51 PM
Great advice from everyone here... I especially like the one about the sunglasses. LOL Too funny!!!
Diane... :wave:
Diane
08-07-2002, 01:53 PM
Originally posted by AnnW
Even more important than talking to his teacher. GO to the school and walk around and get familiar with it before the first day. That will make both of you feel so much better.
This is a great idea... that way it's he'll feel more at ease because he's already been there and seen it. Familiar ground. :)
Diane... :wave:
Originally posted by AnnW
Even more important than talking to his teacher. GO to the school and walk around and get familiar with it before the first day. That will make both of you feel so much better.
I agree...when we registered for school we took a tour of it...everything from the lunch room to the playground...some classrooms that they would be in and the bus area....good advice...:)
Sunglasses are good! 8) School starts tomorrow so hopefully I'll be able to go this afternoon with ds and talk to his teacher. It's the same school he's been in since he was 3 (so 4 1/2 years), so it's all old hat to him and he's soooooo excited!!! For which I am very grateful (sorta. Okay... mixed feelings abound!) He supposed to ride the special ed bus which is great!! It stops right outside our door and they honk. They don't let him off the bus until they see me at the door in the afternoon. Very good thing. (They couldn't keep him in his seat on the big bus and I cannot stand the driver! so the little bus is good)
We did his IEP back in May, so things should be all set to go, but I wonder. :\ He'll be in with a regular 1st grade class with special ed helps (in other words they'll tailor the work for his abilities.... counting and any kind of math is still way beyond his comprehension) and one hour of pull-out per day that will include some physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy.
Thanks for the pep talks! I just have to keep repeating to myself "I think I can, I think I can", lol! :tinysmile
Pam, I think you will be surprised at the loving and helping spirit of the kids..dd has had several children in her class with varying degrees of disabilities, ranging for downs with the need to communicate with sign language all the way down to dd with her delay. The children have all been very sweet..learning sign language. DD has NEVER been teased about being in a pull out program. This is a great step your ds is making. You can do this too...growing up is so fun!!!!
But, Ann!!!!!!!!!! I don't WANNA grow up!!! :sillyface
I remember being so impressed with the kids in dd's class when she was in ps, they were so kind and helpful with the SE kids.
I called and got the bus schedule and ds is definitely on the "little" bus, and leaves at 7:10, so that's a load off my mind.
darlene
08-07-2002, 06:30 PM
Letting to can be so hard! Watching them grow up is such a bittersweet experience.
Our oldest dd is headed to jr. high this fall...new school for her....meeting new kids....she is nervous....I would soooo like to take her on her first day, but that wouldn't be very "cool"! :lol:
Best wishes for your ds and you tomorrow!
:)
littlesista06
08-07-2002, 09:24 PM
Pam, I can almost feel your heart breaking!! I imagine by the time you read this, he'll have gone to school - I hope all goes well and he enjoys his time.
All Mommies have these pangs of wanting their babies to stay babies (at some point) but it gets less each day. But I can understand your added concerns.
I better tell myself that a few times, b/c I'm not wanting dd to go back to school either! This has been a great summer and she's at a wonderful age (6).
Anyway, hugs to you and let us know how it all went.
Pam- let us know how it goes in the morning. I think you ds will be fine- you on the other hand need to take several deep breaths! ;) Really kids will be more helpful than you know towards you ds and he'll be fine... (and so will you!) :)
Mickey
08-12-2002, 11:38 AM
Really feeling for you reading this thread, Pam! I hope it went really well for you and ds!
Pam...where are you? You haven't posted!!!
I wrote out a big long update and left it on the screen. Dh turned off the 'puter and lost it. Anyway. The special ed bus came and got ds at 7:10 Thursday morning, right on time. I did really good, didn't blub or anything. :) It ended up being a really loooooong day!! We sat near the door watching for his bus at 2:40 and waited. And waited. Finally the phone rang and it was ds's teacher! She said that ds ended up on bus 68, not the special ed bus!!!! She blamed it on transportation, yada, yada, whatever. So I asked if bus 68 was at least the bus that ran our route! She said it was (though I didn't recognize the number) and that ds would be riding the SE bus on Friday. He finally came home at 3:30 ON BUS 33 in tears!!!!! ?(
His teacher also said that ds had a really good day, after the confusion of the morning! Apparently ds insisted he was in second grade! 8o He spent some time in second grade before they figured him out. Come to find out the teacher didn't even have his name on her roster until Wednesday and wouldn't get his file until Thursday night!!!!! 8o What ever happened to the myriad promises I was given that ds's teacher would be well prepared for him and his needs??? That she would have full support??? We knew he was going into her class before she did!!! :\ And they wonder why I'm reluctant???!!! 8o
The special ed teacher called on Friday to talk to me and explain some things they're doing with him. The SE director also called and explained some of the transportation mix-ups and reassured us that all would be well from here on out. That was nice. Two days of school and three separate calls from the authorities, lol! I just hope they continue to communicate as well and that things continue to look up. Sooooo..... that's how things are going so far with ds and school!!! :rolleyes:
At least they are trying to clear things up, that really does say alot for the administration. Gotta love it that he said he was in the wrong grade AND stayed there! LOL How did he handle everything else besides the bus? Did it go better on Friday?
It was cracking me up once I was able to look at it all objectively and see that the world did not come to a screeching halt, etc. :D He was insisting that THEY had made a mistake! He was in second grade. He told me Thursday night, "Hey, Mom, you were right, I AM in Mrs. X's class!" :D Yeah, that's why I was trying to get him to repeat it back to me before he went to school, lol!
Friday did go better, transportation-wise. He came home in tears again, but that seems to be par for course for him. He needs time I think to switch gears from school to bus to home. It's hard for me not to pounce on him and try to extract everything from him at once on how his day went, but I think it's necessary for his sanity at this point. As far as the actual school day, I think all is going well. Dh and I plan to meet with his teachers in another two weeks to see what's happening and what we need to be doing at home.
I really like this boy!! He was able to convince adults that they had made a mistake!!! He is going to go far! LOL
My kids (and really my dh too) are the same way. I just usually give a hello, a hug and a snack and then wait for them to start chatting about their day.
KarlaB
08-12-2002, 02:40 PM
LOL about him being in the wrong class!! 8o Pretty good that he could pull that off! :D
Hope things continue to go smoother as the days go by!! :)
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