I'm so upset!!!! [Archive] - Kids Crafts Forum

vea29

08-13-2002, 11:48 PM

I just recieved an email from someone on another board that I visit once in a while.

Apearently I hurt someones feelings when I gave advice about a situation(I won't go into details). They apearently thought I was labeling them....which I hope you all know I would not say anything if I thought it would hurt your feelings!

I emailed the person back (who toldme that I offended) and apologised then I emails the person who I offended and apologised. I tried to clearify to both what I was trying to say.

My question is should I apologise on the board (post on the topic have stopped for a few days) or should I let it drop?

I'm so upset...I never would of responded if I thought I would hurt someone. I guess I can't go back there much huh?

Vea

Jeff

08-13-2002, 11:57 PM

If you apologized to the person that was offended, then it really shouldn't be the concern of anyone else at that board.

vea29

08-14-2002, 12:08 AM

Thanks...I think it will be ok...I hope...the person who sent me the email that said I offended someone else has now emailed me back and apologised...she said she just felt bad for the other one and she just took it out on me... There where others who staight out labeled this person.

Well we'll see.... I guess I've learned my lesson...No advice will be comming from me anymore:(

Vea

vea29

08-14-2002, 01:10 AM

Ok..you guys have no opinion? Or just don't want to say?

I apologised to both and I think I'm gonna just let it all drop.

Vea

KarlaB

08-14-2002, 01:22 AM

I agree with Jeff. If you have apologized then I would try to let it drop, especially if you didn't even think you were being rude. How have others handled it on the board? Has anyone else made a 'public' apology? I say just let it go. Things are often misinterpretted, especially in writing when there's no tone of voice to make sure our point is taken the right way. Do go back to the board and just be yourself. You have apologized and you know you did not mean to hurt anyone's feelings. :)

Mickey

08-14-2002, 01:28 AM

I agree with Jeff. Not sure why you're so upset about it--was the e-mail to you cruel? Did you actually write something that was justifiably misconstrued? Not really clear on it, but the details really don't matter if you feel it's resolved with the person who had an issue with it and was offended. If you really feel it's necessary to clarify your comments on the board, then do it if it will make you feel better about it.

AnnW

08-14-2002, 07:02 AM

Originally posted by vea29
Ok..you guys have no opinion? Or just don't want to say?

I apologised to both and I think I'm gonna just let it all drop.

Vea

Now don't get upset with us for not responding, I was asleep! LOL

Do you honestly feel like what you said was true? Do you feel that you were intentionally being cruel? Do you still stand by what you said? If so, then you are really only apologizing for the fact that she was hurt by it or acknowledging that perhaps you could have said it better. Doing that my email is fine. If you truly were out of line and shouldn't have said what you did, then perhaps a public apology is in order.

MaryL

08-14-2002, 09:51 AM

Were you expressing an opinion? or giving advice? Everyone is entitled to their own opinion....and maybe approaching it that way will give you some peace. I'd definately go back to the board again, post a simple reply if it puts some closure on the issue for you. Continue to post on other topics as you would normally do...you have good ideas to offer, and opinions to give!

vea29

08-14-2002, 11:26 AM

Thanks guys for the advice.... I think it's all resolved....sort of. I got an email from the person whos feelings got hurt. She said it was ok...that she was just feeling bad about the situation before she posted and because we did not just say..."oh you did the right thing" it kind of made her feel bad.

Anyway ...We all apologised...I offered to apologise on the board ..but she said she'd rather drop it.

Karla~ The others who said something simiar to mine...have not posted anything

Mikey~ I was upset because the first email I got basically said I was a mean person.:(

Ann~ LOL ...How could I be mad ...you were sleeping...like I should have been. I do still stand by what I said.

I just told her to be careful about how she handles a stituation cause it could get turned around on her ...Ironic huh...LOL.

Thanks again guys for listening to me vent.... I guess I have to be more careful about wording things.

JAK

08-14-2002, 11:44 AM

Glad it turned out ok!

I was going to just tell you to drop it and let it go.... sounds like that's what ended up happening.

Diane

08-14-2002, 12:04 PM

Originally posted by vea29
Ok..you guys have no opinion? Or just don't want to say?

I apologised to both and I think I'm gonna just let it all drop.

Vea

I thought your apologizing was enough... but IMHO not even necessary. You said absolutely nothing wrong... you gave your opinion, which was what they were asking for. When they ask for opinions on a board such as this and/or others... they're opening themselves up to ALL kinds of opinions and they "should" know or at least expect, that not everyone is going to agree with what she did. Like I said... I tihnk it was very nice that you apologized at all, but it really wasn't necessary. I can't believe that someone actually e-mailed you about this. :rolleyes: I've probably posted worse things (and as you can tell from being on this board that I'm NOT a trouble maker) and I have never been e-mailed about them... :biglaugh: Don't let it worry/bother you.

Diane... :wave:

Mickey

08-14-2002, 01:38 PM

Vea, I was checking out some sites and I think I just stumbled upon the thread to which you were referring and imo you should NOT post an apology. First of all, you were dead right and secondly, you did not say it in an offensive way.

RCT

08-14-2002, 02:31 PM

sorry, but I don't think you need to apologize to anyone for what you wrote....not to be rude...I read your post on that "other board" ;) you were responding truthfully and honestly from your heart....your point of view....I didn't find it offensive....Don't worry about it...sounds like the woman was really not sure about her decision on the action SHE TOOK....:)

I agree...let it go...:):D

vea29

08-14-2002, 02:49 PM

Thanks for checking out "the other Post" ...I'm so glad you felt I did not say anything wrong... I guess I knew I didn't....But I can't stand when people are mad at me.

Thanks for listening to me rant and rave

Vea

Cathy

08-14-2002, 06:23 PM

vea29, Diane, Mickey, and Renee:

I'M SHOCKED that the 4 of you cheat on us. You go out and post on other boards?? What else have you been keeping from us?? I feel so used..... ROFL

RCT

08-14-2002, 06:35 PM

cheat? ME? over 5000 post, no way could I have time to cheat...I surf...alot...;) was so curious to know what Vea could have said...LOL....:p

Cathy

08-14-2002, 06:40 PM

sure, sure, whatever!! Somebody else may fall for that line. LOL

RCT

08-14-2002, 08:05 PM

Originally posted by Cathy
sure, sure, whatever!! Somebody else may fall for that line. LOL

:lol: ;)

vea29

08-14-2002, 10:19 PM

Originally posted by Cathy
vea29, Diane, Mickey, and Renee:

I'M SHOCKED that the 4 of you cheat on us. You go out and post on other boards?? What else have you been keeping from us?? I feel so used..... ROFL

LOL... I joined that board at about the ssame time I joined this one... I only go there one in a while ...and as you can clearily see I'm not enjoying it there as much as this board...LOL.

I guess I should of just stayed with the original....hinesight is 20/20 rirght?

Vea

Mickey

08-14-2002, 10:27 PM

Originally posted by Cathy
vea29, Diane, Mickey, and Renee:

I'M SHOCKED that the 4 of you cheat on us. You go out and post on other boards?? What else have you been keeping from us?? I feel so used..... ROFL

LMAO! Well, I don't cheat THERE...I was a virgin to that board before today. Not registered or anything...I swear! Actually, I found the thread I read to be quite scary. I'm sure you'd all love to read it, but it may end up being like the old Mommy Times if we were to all go there! ;)

Cathy

08-14-2002, 10:46 PM

Lots of protesting too much and rationalizing going on around here tonight!! LOL

KarlaB

08-14-2002, 10:50 PM

Originally posted by Mickey

LMAO! Well, I don't cheat THERE...I was a virgin to that board before today. Not registered or anything...I swear! Actually, I found the thread I read to be quite scary. I'm sure you'd all love to read it, but it may end up being like the old Mommy Times if we were to all go there! ;)

Okay, I am lost!! What are the Mommy Times?? ?(

Jeff

08-14-2002, 10:55 PM

Mickey

08-14-2002, 11:08 PM

LOL! Karla, it was a message board at which ANYTHING went and you could post anonymously. Got pretty nasty at times, too. Gone now, I believe.

littlesista06

08-14-2002, 11:27 PM

How did ya'll even find out what site she was posting on???

angie r

08-14-2002, 11:34 PM

Don't fret about it vea, I don't see anything you said being wrong. I wouldn't even have sent them an apology!

Mickey

08-14-2002, 11:36 PM

Originally posted by littlesista06
How did ya'll even find out what site she was posting on???

Well...I was checking out a childcare site Vea and Diane both talked about on another thread here and there was the post in question! LOL!

vea29

08-14-2002, 11:41 PM

Originally posted by angie r
Don't fret about it vea, I don't see anything you said being wrong. I wouldn't even have sent them an apology!

Thanks....I'm obsessive like that.... I can't stand people not liking me :)

As you can see I've come back here like 10 times today to see what you guys have to say....LOL . But I think I'm gonna give in now and just stop worrying and go to sleep ...huge headache...probably stress:\

Night!