Who are your "Main" friends? [Archive]

Amy

01-13-2003, 11:19 AM

The friends that you consider the closest-are they neighbors, highschool friends, work friends or college friends?

My Mom ran into my old best friend in highschool and she told my Mom that she just went out to dinner with a couple of other old friends from highschool. They keep in constant contact. I found that strange for some reason. I keep in Christmas card contact with some of my old highschool friends, but would never consider being in constant contact. I just feel like I outgrew them and they grew in a different direction than me.

My main circle of friends (including y'all-lol) are from college. There are two in specific that I'm in constant contact with. Eventhough I have ben out of college for 13 years, we still have a lot of similarities and and common ground.

How about the rest of you?

RCT

01-13-2003, 11:31 AM

I have two main friends.....one from 5th grade...she move in across the street from us....we have been friends for over 25 years....8o we have been through so much together....death, divorce, marriage, children.....I can not talk with her for months and then pick up the phone and just feel as comfortable as when we were kids.....I have seen her once since we have been home, but talk with her every week....

my other girlfriend and I have known each other since after college for me, high school for her....we worked together in a clothing shop.....we have been best friends ever since....

I still talk with a few people from the neighborhood....but not my High school "best" friend....not even sure where she is now....sad huh

I heard once that people come in and out of your live for reasons....some just pass through....some linger for a lifetime :)

I have all of you too....I talk with you all more than anyone really....daily...

KarlaB

01-13-2003, 11:31 AM

My best friend is from kindergarten. 8o She lives in WI and we rarely see each other, but we talk often. She is also a sahm and we share many of the same parenting values, etc. Her dh is the one who was in the bad accident.

Other friends who I get together with and chat with are people I met in classes that I took dks to or that I worked with. All of my college friends moved away, but I am still close to 2. :) Other people who I consider close close 'friends' are my mom, sis and a cousin who is my age.

KarlaB

01-13-2003, 11:34 AM

Originally posted by RCT
I can not talk with her for months and then pick up the phone and just feel as comfortable as when we were kids.....

That's how I am with my "kindergarten friend"! :)

KathyT

01-13-2003, 01:13 PM

Well, I know this is going to sound corny, but dh is really my best friend. I enjoy his company so much, we just have a lot of fun together.

My other close friends are: one that lives just around the corner, met her when we moved here 11 years ago, we talk every couple of days, see each other weekly. Love her to bits. Another one lives in Halifax, we met in a riding class 14 years ago and have had a tumultuous relationship but are close. I also have a few other girlfriends here that I consider to be very close, and a lot of others that are friends. I feel very lucky to have such a large circle of friends :)

angie r

01-13-2003, 03:33 PM

My closest friends are my, next door neighbor, across the street neighbor, someone I met at MOPS 2 years ago and a friend who I met through her dh 7 years ago. I talk to them all every day and know what any of them are doing at any given moment. I am also in constant contact with my MIL and my mom.

With all of them and you all, I'm worn out!! LOL

I don't keep in contact with anyone from high school.

BevJ

01-13-2003, 03:45 PM

My main closest friends are:

one girl I met through work 14 years ago. We keep in touch through email and get together for coffee every couple of weeks and exchange b-day and C-mas gifts but other than keeping up on each others lives there's not a real closeness there.

One girl I met through our ds's playing ball together. We get along famously and can tell each other anything. We aren't in daily contact, but talk and/or get together a couple of times/month. Our ds's are not friends outside of baseball or us getting together as families.

Like Kathy, my dh is pretty much my best friend. We are always doing something together...he even likes to go to the mall and shop :)

littlesista06

01-13-2003, 03:50 PM

My closest friends are ones I've made since dd has been born - church friends, preschool friends, etc.
Exchange Christmas cards w/friends from college, but don't ever really see each other.

I've recently started emailing back and forth with a group of girls I've met online, but they are getting a little freaky here lately..... may have to cut them off. LOL ;)

Oh, and of course, ya'll!! :D

Diane

01-13-2003, 04:14 PM

One of my best friends I met when I was about 3 years old. She was a neighbor girl who, when we moved in... was being nosey and got her head stuck in our fence. LOL We stayed best friends until I got married... and then for some reason we just kind of lost contact. A few months ago I saw her mom's obituary in the paper and sent a card. She wrote me asking for my phone #... wrote down her e-mail just in case I had a computer, and we've been calling and writing e-mails back and forth to each other ever since. It's like we never lost touch with each other.

Another one of my best friends I met doing day care... She had just gotten into day care and was looking for someone to talk to... and the Social Worker gave her 3 names, mine bieng one of them. We talked every day on the phone for about 2-1/2 to 3 months. One night we were both scheduled to go to a meeting and I thought I was going to be late... and told her so. I actually got there early and started talking with this lady. She went on to tell me that "Diane" would be late... LOL I started laughing... and said... you must be Kathy. We've been best friends ever since. Come to find out... our dd's were in the same school/grade and were best friends too. :)

I've also got two friends who I use to do day care for... We don't see each other every day nor do we talk to each other each/every day but when we do talk... have a great time. Since my dad died I don't have a lot of time for friends but mainly hang out with my mom and/or my family. I'm probably closer to some of you here than I am some of my friends... LOL

Diane... :wave:

Marla

01-13-2003, 04:52 PM

My closest friends are 2 girls that I met about 8 years ago. I speak to them a couple of times a week, and usually go out once a week or every other week. They both have kids the same ages as mine.

I really have to say that I am closest to my mom, sister and dh though. I speak to my mom at least once a day, and my sister every day or every other day.

AnnW

01-13-2003, 05:01 PM

My best friend was my mom. My truly dear friends are all childhood friends..two that I grew up with and have never not known (our parents were single together) and two that I met first day of 9th grade.

Diane

01-13-2003, 05:18 PM

Originally posted by Marla
My closest friends are 2 girls that I met about 8 years ago. I speak to them a couple of times a week, and usually go out once a week or every other week. They both have kids the same ages as mine.

I really have to say that I am closest to my mom, sister and dh though. I speak to my mom at least once a day, and my sister every day or every other day.

I never really knew my mom until my dad died... and I've become very close to her. She and my dh are truely my VERY best friends. LOL

Diane... :wave:

MaryL

01-13-2003, 05:34 PM

My closest friends are friends from my first teaching job...and also dh's best friend's wife. We all started having dks at the same time...and my dks feel as thought these friends are aunts/uncles to them. I'm also close to many families at school. Mostly dks' friends parents...who we coordinate carpools/play dates/etc. with.

KarlaB

01-13-2003, 05:47 PM

Originally posted by littlesista06
I've recently started emailing back and forth with a group of girls I've met online, but they are getting a little freaky here lately..... may have to cut them off. LOL ;)

Yikes! You really need to be careful - there's a lot of :crazyroll out there!! :lol: :D

AnnW

01-13-2003, 05:55 PM

Did I ever tell ya'll that my dad was so worried that Amy was a lesbian stalker????? LOL told him, that's right dad..she started posting on a parenting site, in hopes that one of us would fall prey to her wiles and then plan a family vacation several years later only her ultimate plan was to get me alone 4 years later!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

but I know what you mean..you gotta be careful who you email with..there are some sick people out there! ;)

Marla

01-13-2003, 06:35 PM

Originally posted by AnnW
Did I ever tell ya'll that my dad was so worried that Amy was a lesbian stalker????? LOL told him, that's right dad..she started posting on a parenting site, in hopes that one of us would fall prey to her wiles and then plan a family vacation several years later only her ultimate plan was to get me alone 4 years later!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL

but I know what you mean..you gotta be careful who you email with..there are some sick people out there! ;)

ROFL about Amy :biglaugh:

Amy

01-13-2003, 07:35 PM

OMG! Ann! That is SO wrong!! ROFL!! I knew your parents didn't trust me at first, but a LESBIAN stalker???? LMAO!!!!!! My dh says-go meet your friend from Texas and have a fun time and Ann's family says-be careful, she might stalk you AND be a lesbian.....What's with lesbian's and me today??????LOL

Jen-you know you can't trust online people!! LOL

vea29

01-13-2003, 08:07 PM

OMG ...you guys are too funny!

My closest friends...I'd have to say I have 4....One is a friend from when I went away to school in Oneonta...we talk just about every day....been through ALOT together.

2 others are women I used to work with at daycare...Their dks call me Aunt. I go and stay with them for a week at a time when I go visit.

And my newest closest friend is someone I meet at school over the summer...we just hit it off...talk and hang out a couple times a week. It's nice having a local friend again!

BevJ

01-13-2003, 08:08 PM

The more I read all your replies I realize two very important people I have forgotton (Yikes!).

I have a sister who I am very close with. We talk and/or email each other every day and we live like 10 minutes away from each other, lol.

I also forgot a friend I met via the internet/email. She lives in Edmonton and our families got together during a vacation in Ottawa last August. I felt an almost instant connection with JoAnne and I wish we lived closer so we could see/talk to each other all of the time. I guess I'll just have to live with emails. We are hoping to vacation in Edmonton in the not too distant future. She and her husband have two truly delightful boys ages 7 and 4.

AnnW

01-13-2003, 08:28 PM

Originally posted by Amy/CO
OMG! Ann! That is SO wrong!! ROFL!! I knew your parents didn't trust me at first, but a LESBIAN stalker???? LMAO!!!!!! My dh says-go meet your friend from Texas and have a fun time and Ann's family says-be careful, she might stalk you AND be a lesbian.....What's with lesbian's and me today??????LOL

my family is more perceptive?????/ ;) LOL

darlene

01-13-2003, 08:59 PM

My dh is my best friend....with my friend since grade 9 coming in a close second. My mom and my one sil are great too.

:)

littlesista06

01-13-2003, 10:05 PM

Originally posted by KarlaB

Yikes! You really need to be careful - there's a lot of :crazyroll out there!! :lol: :D

No joke!! 8o

littlesista06

01-13-2003, 10:06 PM

MaryL

01-13-2003, 10:23 PM

Originally posted by BevJ
The more I read all your replies I realize two very important people I have forgotton (Yikes!).

I have a sister who I am very close with. We talk and/or email each other every day and we live like 10 minutes away from each other, lol.

I should have listed my sister, too! She probably is my best friend. The only sister I have...and the best sister in the world! We live a little farther apart, though...2 hours. See each other every couple of months.

Dh is more than just a friend to me. He's in a "class" all his own!
:* :*

kat

01-13-2003, 11:25 PM

My closest friends are my sisters, then it would be friends from church (who we socialize with more) and then ladies I teach with. I stay in e-mail contact with a couple of friends from HS. I met one over the summer and had a nice visit, but things were not the same.

Linda/NE

01-14-2003, 12:32 AM

One of my best friends I met when our kids went to the same country school. We both moved away from that area within 2 weeks of each other. She moved a good 8 hours farther away though! :( She doesn't have email so we try to write letters. It's hard to do phone calls because of the different time zones and our busy schedules.

My closest friends around here are moms of my kids' friends, although I don't really have any friends that I get together with to shop or eat out or stuff like that.

My sisters (3 of them) and 2 SILs are great friends too.

Cathy

01-14-2003, 05:05 PM

I really do value the people I've "met" here and the support I've gotten. But sometimes you all just say what I want to hear!!

My sister and my guy are a little tougher. I went for an awful long time where I didn't have anyone that I would trust enough to really talk with. I am really cautious but I have lots of acquaintances who know different parts of my life and have a connection of some type.

I never thought you were a lesbian stalker Amy/CO. How could I have been so naive?? Just think of the drama that would have added to my boring life!!! LOL

AnnW

01-14-2003, 05:19 PM

Originally posted by Cathy
I really do value the people I've "met" here and the support I've gotten. But sometimes you all just say what I want to hear!!

but when we are honest, we get reprimanded! :)

Cathy

01-14-2003, 05:24 PM

Heck! I haven't yelled at anyone here in a long time!!

I need someone to challenge me sometimes. I guess I can be a little easy on myself. :rolleyes: :o

imamama

01-14-2003, 07:35 PM

I keep up with 2 friends from high school. My friend I met online and another girl who used to live next door and her dd is a month older than dd. They go to preschool together now. I guess that's mainly it! Pretty patheticly short list!!!! LOL

Ann - too funny! Are you sure your dad wasn't right? She may just be waiting to make her move on you!!!! I was friends with this girl for a while who was married, had kids, etc... then all of the sudden it comes out that she's bi and LIKES me... aaaaccckkkkk!!! Pretty creepy! Gave me the willies! LOL

Jenn - be careful... there are lots of crazies out there.... have to ask, though - why would you want to email with a bunch of people who do nothing but complain? yikes! I couldn't stand that!

AnnW

01-14-2003, 08:40 PM

Originally posted by imamama

Ann - too funny! Are you sure your dad wasn't right?

I think she has set her sights on someone else! :\ :brow:

imamama

01-14-2003, 09:25 PM

Originally posted by AnnW

I think she has set her sights on someone else! :\ :brow:

uh oh.. her poor dh... thinking she's going off for innocent girl fun... well... platonic fun I guess I should say! ROFL

Amy

01-15-2003, 09:16 AM

:p :p :p A healthy sense of self will always repell the evil that is spewed at them. :p :p :p

AnnW

01-15-2003, 09:23 AM

Originally posted by Amy/CO
:p :p :p A healthy sense of self will always repell the evil that is spewed at them. :p :p :p

Delusions..er, I mean, self esteem is always a good thing!

JAK

01-15-2003, 11:17 AM

My friends... I keep in touch with my best friend from high school, but we aren't close. Just got in contact with 2 others from high school and we e-mail each other, but not that often.

Since we move all the time, it's hard to keep good friends who remain good friends. I have several friends here and all of them are dc providers and that's how I met them. Not sure if I'll keep in touch with any of them when we move. My friend with the "issues" (remember her?) is not really much of a friend any more. I really distanced myself from her and it worked! :lol: I do watch her son, so I see her on a daily basis, but only make small talk with her like I do with the rest of my parents. It's actually really nice! I don't know all the craziness of her life and I like it that way! :D

My best friend (and more) would have to be my dh. He's the one constant in my life (besides my dks) and he moves with me! :lol:

Mickey

01-15-2003, 01:24 PM

Don't have friends like AngieR...I have no idea what my friends are doing at any given moment of the day.

I'm not as into the day-to-day interactions as I am the "be there when you need them" (and vice versa) thing. I have several friends I don't talk to on a daily basis (or even weekly at times), but I know that I could call them any time, day or night, and they would do anything for me--one is my sister, one's my cousin, one lives near me and one is in Pittsburgh (friend of 30+ years). I have people in my life with whom I do things on a regular basis...home school moms, mostly...but the word "friend" means something a lot deeper to me than it seems to for others. I think a friend is someone with whom you bond on a deeper level...not just someone you have something in common with at this time of your life. Just my take/view on it.

p.s. My dh, mom and dad go without saying.

Suz

01-15-2003, 04:40 PM

My very best friend is my oldest sister. We are 12 years a part and since the day I was born she has always taken me under her wing and been there for me - now I do the same for her.
My other best friend was my neighbor while growing up. We've been friends since we were 3 and now our kids play together.

imamama

01-15-2003, 06:43 PM

Originally posted by Amy/CO
:p :p :p A healthy sense of self will always repell the evil that is spewed at them. :p :p :p

um, okay... looks like she's going Mother Teresa on us now!!!! ROFL

Sunrisedaycare

01-15-2003, 10:52 PM

Other then DH, I would say my main friend would be my Mother.

I keep in contact with about 6 friends from high school, but we don't hang out or anything like that.

Jeff

01-16-2003, 08:42 AM