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AnnW and I have different views of what romanticism is after years of marriage. Im definitely NOT a Southerner (LOL)and wondered if it was truly a regional thing.
What is more romantic to you (spur of the moment)
1. A dozen red roses and a nice pair of fancy earrings
2. Dh cleaning up after dinner and giving the kids a bath so you can relax.
KarlaB
04-11-2001, 02:06 PM
I'd have to say that I think #1 is more "romantic", however at this point I would PREFER #2! :)
Definitely the roses (although any flower would do) and the earnings...dinner thrown in there too would be good.
Good point Karla. (1) is definitely more romantic, but lets restate it as which one would you PREFER?
Diane
04-11-2001, 02:50 PM
My dh knows that I think roses are a waste... (sorry but for the amount of money you spend on them, they just don't last long enough) so I would much prefer Dh cleaning up after dinner and giving the kids a bath (except that mine are much too old for that) LOL, so that I could relax. To me... him buying me ANYTHING is nice... but it's also too easy. LOL Him actually taking his TIME to help me... putting himself out just for ME, would mean a lot more to me than the flowers and a nice fancy pair of earrings. I wouldn't have anywhere to wear a fancy pair of earrings anyway... LOL Along with that... if he DID all of these nice things for me, we'd definitely have a very romantic evening. :o LOL
bye...... :wave:
LOL Amy!!!
Spur of the moment??? If dh walked in the door with roses and earrings for no reason, I would think that awfully romantic!
Dh helps me with dinner and the night time stuff so much that while I probably don't appreciate it enough, I don't think it's really "romantic".
I guess to me romance is the "unexpected". ..coming home with tickets so we can have a night out, sending me a card...things like that.
Mickey
04-11-2001, 06:07 PM
Number one is more romantic and I would much prefer that over help in the kitchen!
Lynda/WA
04-11-2001, 06:46 PM
To me romantic is knowing what I REALLY want not whats traditionally considered romantic. Since I'm with Amy/CO and Diane P that roses just die I wouldn't want dead flowers. It would be better if it was a live plant. I don't wear jewelry so that would be another dud with me.
One of my favorite spur of the moment *gifts* from DH was a can of coca cola. I was trying to stop drinking sodas (I'm an addict!) and even though I wanted to be able to have the occasional soda, buying a 12 pack wasn't an option since I don't have the will power to just drink one. Without my knowing DH bought me some and kept them at work. He would bring me one at night.
He keeps suggesting we go out to eat for every special occasion and I keep saying *But we can eat for DAYS on that money!*. I'd rather he ferreted out that one item I've been wanting and get me that without any hints.
My dad keeps buying my mom jewelry and she wishes he would stop! Like me, she doesn't wear jewelry. It all just sits in it's case.
lindaM
04-11-2001, 06:51 PM
If dh brought me home a dozen red roses I would think he was mad at me. I hate roses. They remind me of funerals. So I'd go for #2 even better if he cooked dinner. But I guess that comes with being married 13 years.
Come to think of it if he was actually awake during dinner to carry on a conversation that would be a HUGE bonus. (dh works nights so he wakes up at 6pm in time for dinner and is very groggy!!! :(
angie r
04-11-2001, 08:45 PM
uh, both!!
Marla
04-11-2001, 09:27 PM
number 1...the roses and the earrings are definately more romantic. I too don't love roses, actually what I would prefer would be if my DH came home one day and told me that he planned a weekend getaway to an island somewhere for just the two of us. All the arrangements would be made, and our plane would be leaving the next day (I would need a couple of hours to get my things together)...How's that for dreaming? LOL :lol:
Here's one....
many years ago, for no reason, my dad came home with a package for my mom, when she opened it up it was a framed Bronze letter "E" and a written letter from my dad.
It said
"My darling, you are much to young to remember the ravages and trials of World War II. But during the war, the government to honor companies that went above and beyond what was neccessary created the Award of Excelence. The actual award was a bronze letter "E". So my darling, for going above and beyond what is necessary, for being the most excelent wife, companion and mother, with deepest gratitude, I award you, this Bronze Letter E."
now..that's romantic!!!
Marla
04-11-2001, 09:52 PM
that's sooooo romantic. It actually brought a tear to my eye.
Originally posted by Marla
that's sooooo romantic. It actually brought a tear to my eye.
It still makes me cry!!!!! :)
Diane
04-11-2001, 10:38 PM
What a wonderful and romantic man... and of course it made me cry too. :bawling: LOL He must have made your mom feel very special... :* What a great memory for you to remember. :)
Bye... :wave:
Thanks Lynda/WA, DianeP and LindaM-at least now I don't think Im crazy!! LOL Like DianeP-it would mean much more for me to have dh give me his "time" rather than just shelling out some money on meaningless things.
My first boyfriend lived in the country and had a Father who was a bigshot Vetrinarian and male chauvanist pig. Every Christmas, he would give his wife expensive jewelry-emeralds, diamond and rubies. This woman lived in the middle of nowhere, raised pigs for slaughter with her family and was a totally useless gift idea. A good gift would have been a coupon that stated the dh and the boys would do laundry for a week, She did about 4 loads a day (pigs stink on your clothes LOL)
Annw-that is a sweet story!
Leigh
04-12-2001, 12:26 PM
I think 1 and 2 are both romantic, and I would be glad if dh gave me either one. Ann I think that is a wonderful story. I will share one with ya'll. Dh is learning hhow to play the guitar. He knows that I like this one song in particular, and I have been looking for it forever. The other night I came in, and he had learned how to play it on the guitar, and he started playing it for me. I was so surprised. I really didn't expect it.
Originally posted by Leigh
I think 1 and 2 are both romantic, and I would be glad if dh gave me either one. Ann I think that is a wonderful story. I will share one with ya'll. Dh is learning hhow to play the guitar. He knows that I like this one song in particular, and I have been looking for it forever. The other night I came in, and he had learned how to play it on the guitar, and he started playing it for me. I was so surprised. I really didn't expect it.
now THAT'S romantic!!!!!!
Diane
04-12-2001, 03:53 PM
[i]Dh is learning how to play the guitar. He knows that I like this one song in particular, and I have been looking for it forever. The other night I came in, and he had learned how to play it on the guitar, and he started playing it for me. I was so surprised. I really didn't expect it. [/B]
That was SO sweet... :) What a nice surprise for you...
:wave:
Ryleigh
04-13-2001, 03:20 PM
#1 or #2 sound good to me. It's been almost 10 years for us, and Brian still surprises me once in a while. It may be a sinle flower on the kitchen table when I get up in the morning or a note pinned up in the shower that says "Goodmorning, I love you, Have a great day!" :heart:
Leigh
04-14-2001, 06:44 AM
Ryleigh that is nice of Brian too. It is funny how the simplest things can mean so much.
Cheryl B
04-14-2001, 11:51 AM
After being married 27 years this month, I feel #2 cleaning up and doing the dishes to be very romantic. It doesn't happen often but when it does it is special.
Originally posted by AnnW
now THAT'S romantic!!!!!!
As I read about the song that was my exact thought and word emphasis. Jinx, Ann, you owe me a coke.
I'd say that #1 is more romantic. But maybe not roses...just one flower would be nice. :* Also I think that thoughtful things are romantic, so ANYTHING that he puts time in to plan out or think about is romantic to me!
hint hint :newwink:
angie r
04-15-2001, 09:46 AM
Originally posted by PamL
I'd say that #1 is more romantic. But maybe not roses...just one flower would be nice. :* Also I think that thoughtful things are romantic, so ANYTHING that he puts time in to plan out or think about is romantic to me!
hint hint :newwink:
Ok David, your anniversary is Friday. We can't wait to hear what wonderful plans you have!
Ooh, the pressure! :nervous:
Originally posted by PamL
I'd say that #1 is more romantic. But maybe not roses...just one flower would be nice. :* Also I think that thoughtful things are romantic, so ANYTHING that he puts time in to plan out or think about is romantic to me!
hint hint :newwink:
Hey, no fair...I want a message board so that I can post hints to my dh!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL
yep, Dave..we want to hear all the details!!!
stasee
04-16-2001, 02:09 PM
Bring me a rose bush.... go out side Plant it and while he is out there he could pick up sticks, mow the yard, wash the house off, paint the porch, yell at the kids for me, get a sitter (not tell me to find one!), Take me out to dinner, then let me come home and sleep without expecting anything!
Ok just a pipe dream!! :) LOL
angie r
04-16-2001, 02:30 PM
Definately, especially the last part!! 8o
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