what is wrong with some parents?

[littlesista06]

Has your child ever gone to a house that when you get there you say - "never again!!"?
Dd went to a b'day party yesterday and when I got there, I was so sickened - the house was so gross!
I picked her up and they had been outside the whole time (no games, just free play - and it rained some of the time she was there - the kids were damp and dirty.) and her feet were so nasty dirty, black that I had to scrub them three times to get them clean last night.
I look at a house in that sort of shape as neglect - the yard looked like Sanford and Son almost. Ugh - makes me ill that I let her go.

[Amy]

Did you know about this place before you let her go? Is she friend's with this child? If my dd was really good friends and not just a classmate trying to fill open slots, then I would let her go. It's just one day out of her life and she probably woudl have a blast. Now remind me of these open mindness when I don't want my kids to hang around my in-laws. LOL

[KarlaB]

Oldest ds went to a party a month or so ago and I was shocked when I walked in the house and SO relieved that I said he couldn't stay over. Nice people, but grungy grungy house. 8o Oldest ds really likes the boy though, so I overlook it and try to have him here instead. :tinysmile

[Diane]

Having 3 dd's I've had way too many experiences like the one you describe... UGH!!! It got to the point where I'd drive past the house first just to get a good look at what the outside looked like... If the outside was a mess and unkept, I could only assume that the inside was probably just as bad, and I'd base my decision on that. The only part is that it wasn't always fair to the child... or to my dd. :(

It's hard to believe but some people don't realize that their house IS a mess, or what we would consider disgusting, because this is the way they were raised... and to them that's just the way it's suppose to be. My dh just went on an appointment on Friday and came home in shock as to what the condition of the house was. He had to follow a narrow path through the house just to get to the kitchen table. He said their was junk/clothes and God knows what thrown all over the floor. You couldn't even see the couch in the livingroom to say nothing about the floor/carpet. When he finally made it to the kitchen table... there were dishes with old food still sitting on the table along with piles of magazines piled high on all of the chairs. He said it even stunk... Ugh!!! The lady wasn't even embarrassed and made no excuses for the dirty mess. I'm sorry, I try not to judge people but when I see people (especially with children) living in conditions like this it totally sickens me.

If it were me... I'd make sure never to let my child go over to that house again. If your dd wants to have this child as a friend, invite her over to your house instead.

Diane... :wave:

[littlesista06]

Amy/CO - No,I didn't know about the conditions of the house before she went, and yes, they are friends at school. They sit together at the same table, but it's not like our families are friends (and doesn't look like we will be, either!). lol
I know it's just one day, and she did have a good time - it's just so foreign to me to have a home in such shape.


Karla - you're bigger than I am about overlooking that kind of stuff. :) The little girl is nice, and yes, if dd wants to play w/her, she'll be coming here!

Diane - That is SO nasty!! I would have had to have walked out!! No way would I have been able to sit down at a table like that!! yuck!

[KarlaB]

Originally posted by littlesista06
Karla - you're bigger than I am about overlooking that kind of stuff. :) The little girl is nice, and yes, if dd wants to play w/her, she'll be coming here!

Well, so far it's been easy because he hasn't been invited there a lot and I try to beat them to the play dates and get their ds here...so I am kind of "cheating" LOL!