Would you tell?

[Amy]

If you found your friend's spouse cheating, would you tell your friend? I was talking to a friend of mine and it reminded me of my other friend's dh and there was some talk of him out for drinks with an aquaintance of everyones. I didn't see it, so I never said anything. If I actually saw it, I don't know what I would have done. I think this one friend would probably prefer not to know because she lives in a glass world.

On the other hand, would you want to know?

[RCT]

As for the friend thing....I don't know....I would opt to stay out of it...:chicken:

what an awful thought....Yes, I guess I would want to know....seeing that their are deadly sexual diseases out there.....yes...I would want to know...althought part of me is saying NO I wouldn't want to know.....

[KarlaB]

I think for me it depends on how close I was to the friend and how I think she'd take the news like if they were already having trroubles or if it would come as a total shock to her. :(

I would want to know...

[Diane]

Half of me tells me that I should shut my mouth and mind my own business... but I think I'd eventually tell. She's got a right to know. Like Renee said, there are too many deadly diseases out there.

I would most definitely want to know... It's nothing I'd exactly want to hear, but as far as I'm concerned... I deserve much better and I wouldn't want to waste any more time than I already have on someone who doesn't love/care and respect me enough to not cheat on me. I also wouldn't want to the the last to know... IMHO him and the person he's cheating with deserve each other...

My dd's boyfriend tattled on his own mom... now hard to you think THAT was?

Diane...

[Mickey]

If I saw a friend's spouse kissing or having a romantic meal with another woman, I would go up and say hi to him and ask to be introduced to his friend and I'd probably ask how his wife is doing. Then, I'd call him (if I couldn't get him alone for a minute) and tell him that he needs to stop whatever the hell he's doing and tell his wife or I will-- for the health/safety reason mentioned.

I would want to know. Same reason.

[KarlaB]

Originally posted by Mickey
If I saw a friend's spouse kissing or having a romantic meal with another woman, I would go up and say hi to him and ask to be introduced to his friend and I'd probably ask how his wife is doing. Then, I'd call him (if I couldn't get him alone for a minute) and tell him that he needs to stop whatever the hell he's doing and tell his wife or I will-- for the health/safety reason mentioned.


great answer!! :thumb:

[Lynda-WA]

I've had this happen to me. My best friend's boyfriend hit on me. I went round and round in my mind over if I should tell her. Part of me said I had to because this guy would only hurt her. I turned him down but would the next woman? The other part of me didn't want to loose my friend. Kill the messenger and all that.

I guess my dislike of him showed. She asked what I thought of him. I asked her if she wanted me to tell her exactly what I thought of him regardless of what it was. She seemed taken aback a bit. I then said that I didn't want to loose her as a friend and told her. I tried to tone it down abit. She didn't say a whole lot and left. She broke up with him.

I would do it over again even knowing I risked losing my friendship. On the other hand - I wouldn't tell anyone that wasn't a very good friend. I'd stay out of it then.

[Diane]

I'd like to add that if I saw one of my friends' husbands with another woman and all they were doing was sitting/eating in a restaurant together having coffee or a meal... I wouldn't assume that they were having an affair. My dh has had to go out to lunch/dinner with other people, both men and women, for business purposes. I'd hate to think that anyone would think or assume that he's having an affair. Of course, if I saw any kissing, handholding or looking/gazing into each other's eyes... I'd definitely assume that it was something more than business and probably do what Mickey suggested. I guess him knowing that you saw him would scare him enough to do something about it.

Diane... :wave: