other couples and yourselves

[RCT]

I posted some of this on Saturdays thread...but was curious....about the rest of you....

we had a great time at dinner....met our friends for drinks...they spoiled the kids with welcome BACK to CALIFORNIA toys....then took us to a great resturant and we all just had so much fun...the toast at dinner teared me up....finally a couple to go out with, seems so rare to find a couple that both of us like and vise versa........they asked us out again, we are now planning a bowling night with all the kids....should be fun.......it was really great....got home late...but it was just too fun...dh seemed so happy to have FRIENDS again.....and I just can't stop smiling...:)

Do you have lots of COUPLE friends...or are they as rare as I think they are........I feel like we have finally become part of a foursome....and its a great feeling.....

just being nosey....

[Mickey]

That's so nice, Renee! Sounds like a great night and a great couple!

I think it has more to do with where we live right now (because we've had friends like that when we lived in different places), but we don't have a couple like that here and now...we occasionally go out with one couple we enjoy (they're a little older and their kids are through college), but not couples with kids ds' age. Seems like when I click with a friend, her dh and mine have nothing in common and vise versa for dh. While we can go out and have fun, it's not a "best friends" thing for both of us.

I've also experienced that with ds...I have one friend whose son and MB don't get along, so we've drifted apart.

Hard to find a good mix! Glad you have with this other couple!

[RCT]

Originally posted by Mickey
I've also experienced that with ds...I have one friend whose son and MB don't get along, so we've drifted apart.

Hard to find a good mix! Glad you have with this other couple!

I have experienced that too....:\ its hard....

this couple is great, ....thier children are older than ours....thier youngest is 14....oldest is 17...so we are trying to find things we can do togethers as families as well as just us adults....

I guess its just so new to us...since we have lived outta state for so long, ....we just never took to anyone.....I feel so lucky....we found our Lucy and Ricky....LOL

[Leigh]

We had friends like that in Germany, but they moved to Indiana, and we moved to Florida. I think that we just found another couple, but they live in Jacksonville, and we live almost 2 hours away. I guess it is hard to find friends like that.

[JAK]

I don't think we have any friends that are a couple. Mostly single people. We have several of those! We have a friend who is divorced with 2 dks who come to visit him during the summer. We do a lot of things with him with and without his dks. He loves our dks and I'm sure it reminds him of his kids. Most of the people we know (in AK) who are married have a pretty screwed up marriage so we pretty much steer clear of them.

[RCT]

Originally posted by JAK
Most of the people we know (in AK) who are married have a pretty screwed up marriage so we pretty much steer clear of them.

LOL....I know lots of married people like that too.....dh and I are constantly amazed at how many people don't like thier spouses......this other couple made the same comment...nice when a couple actually enjoys each other....

[Jeff]

our neighborhood is like that. Its fun though my wife is less social than I am and after 4 kids I tend to enjoy alone time quite a bit.

[Diane]

Years ago we use to have friends that we did EVERYTHING with... dinners, movies, picnics... but their interests started to change and we moved in different directions. We suddenly found ourselves not doing anything together anymore. Dh and I don't drink... and it seems that if you don't drink, nobody wants anything to do with you. :rolleyes: In order to be social... you almost HAVE to drink... at least a little, and seeing we don't... aren't. You're considered boring... at least that's what I've been told. :biglaugh: Anyway... that's what happened with these friends... they didn't drink, but suddenly started (to fit in) and pretty soon it just became a part of their lives. I don't hold anything against anyone who drinks... or do I expect anyone not to drink just because were with them, but evidently that feeling isn't always mutual. LOL

Once in a while we'll go out with one of my best friends and her dh. Were the same ages and she and I have a lot in common, but like Mickey... my dh and her dh doesn't have a lot in common with each other. Dh doesn't get too overly excited when I tell him were going out... so I make it a point not to do it too often, which I'm sure he appreciates. :) He's not a very outgoing person anyway, and I think if given the choice would much rather stay home anyway. (no matter who it was we were going out with) I'd LIKE to go out a "little" more... but I guess it's just not in the cards.

I'm glad you and your dh found someone you can go out with and enjoy each others company with, Renee... It's nice when you can have a good friend like that... Enjoy!!

[bizymum]

Well We haev a couple of friends kinda like that. One lives here adn I actually look after their kids(my DCK's) We usually get together to watch movies adn for coffee. Hope to get together this summer and go picnicing adn what not, but htey dont really like to do stuff like that with their kids. Which is sad, so we are going to try and convience them to do more outside stuff this summer. I get so tired of just watching movies all the time.

The other couple friends that we have, we get along really well together. THe only thing is they live in HOuston,Bc which is about 41/2-5 hours away.

[Diane]

This thread makes me wonder how social we all would be with each other if we lived in the same town (or near) each other. :) LOL I wonder how much we and/or our dh's are alike/different from each other... or WHO were most alike. :)

[AnnW]

I think ya'll know how social we are! LOL It IS wonderful when you can find a couple that you AND dh AND the kids like..that is rare. With us it seems to be except for a few exceptions, either couples with ds' kids age or dd's age, rarely both. But we also work hard at just doing grown up things too with other couples.
Diane, that is really awful. We have several friends that don't drink and it would never cross my mind not to include them. Now, we do have some that don't drink and are somewhat martyish about anyone else drinking (imagine hearing in a very pious but loving voice) "oh that's ok, we don't drink, never would, it's so wrong, but we would never dream of telling anyone what to do, it's just not our personal choice" they make you feel like such an alcoholic!!!....don't socialize too much with them! LOL

[KarlaB]

I met a gal when oldest ds was 2? We do Mom's Night Out with some other gals and finally got together as families recently. A few days later on the phone she was like, "After we left your house "Bob" was saying how he could see the 4 of us being really great friends." Funny thing is my dh said the same thing about them, so it was nice that not only do our kids play wonderfully and like each other, but our dh's actually enjoy each other's company. I look forward to this friendship growing. :)

[Diane]

Originally posted by AnnW
Diane, that is really awful. We have several friends that don't drink and it would never cross my mind not to include them. Now, we do have some that don't drink and are somewhat martyish about anyone else drinking (imagine hearing in a very pious but loving voice) "oh that's ok, we don't drink, never would, it's so wrong, but we would never dream of telling anyone what to do, it's just not our personal choice" they make you feel like such an alcoholic!!!....don't socialize too much with them! LOL

LOL... I've known people like that too, :rolleyes: but fortunately I'm not one of them. LOL I don't expect that just because we choose not to drink that nobody else should. My best friend and her dh drink... it's just not a big deal to us. We don't make them feel uncomfortable about drinking and they don't make us feel uncomfortable about not drinking.
We've also been to places where... when someone hears that you don't drink, will try desperately to get you to drink. ("just try it... one sip/glass won't hurt you") :rolleyes: Ugh/LOL... 8o They act like something is mentally wrong with us because we don't. LOL I just hate that it ends up being an issue when it shouldn't.

It's good that you don't exclude your non drinking friends from your invitations... they're lucky to have you as friends. :)

[AnnW]

Thanks, but it's just not something I base my invitations on...to me that's like saying "just don't like what she watches on tv, so I am not having her to dinner!" LOL
Now, I will admit that I won't be inviting you or other non drinkers to a wine tasting...cause what's the point! LOL But other than that, non drinkers can hang with me (they can drive!!! LOL)

[darlene]

We have a couple of couples that we visit with. Playing cards/games/just visiting with. Both dh and I have known them since school days. Living in the same town all your life makes it somewhat easier to have couple friends.

My dh sounds alot like yours Diane....just as happy to stay home than to go out. Maybe we should get together and to heck with our dh's! :lol:

:)

[MaryL]

In our case, we have a number of other couples that we hang out with. We have different "groups"...one group of couples from school (dks friends' parents), both dh and I are still really good friends with a couple of college roomates and their spouses, and we have some good friends from "work situations". In our neighborhood, we are friendly with quite a few people...and have actually become involved this Spring in a Couples Softball League with some neighbors. Gee....I didn't realize how social we are until I typed all of this. Both dh and I have "best friends"...and we get along well with their respective spouses. I don't think we have any "single" friends at this time of our lives. All of our friends also have kids the same ages (or in that range) as our dks. Works for us!!!:)