Personal question....S E X

[RCT]

while my sister in law was here...she made a few comments as to NOT liking SEX anymore....told me to call her in twenty years and tell her if I like it then...she is 49 and said if she never had it again, that would be ok.....so I asked if she ever liked it ;) or if it was her partner that she didn't like....she seems to think that I am rare because I still enjoy lovemaking...but its because I am so young....ok ladies with more life experience than I....is that what I have to look forward to?

I hope this does not offend anyone....:)

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[AnnW]

I know this is just a sneaky way for you to brag about your great sex life!!!! LOL :p :D
When you go through menopause it can be become more uncomfortable because you are drier. Also, the dropping of hormones does make your desire levels go down. My folks (and I wasn't always happy to know this! :o ;) ) had a great sex life up until the day my died. I think it just depends.

[RCT]

Bragging? ME? :blush:

thank you Ann for your honesty....my SIL made it sound so fatal....I don't think she is HAPPY in the rest of the relationship...and that can show up in the bedroom....she is 49....and I also have a girlfriend younger than I (32) that isn't interested in it either....sure her husband finds that fun...

my parents had a healthy sex life until my mother died...and my father and his new bride seem just FINE too...:lol: (too much info for me)

[AnnW]

Menopause can definitely change things, but I think if everybody is honest, we all have periods where it's not a priority for various reasons. With everything going on in my life the last 5 months, can't say that I have been all that interested. I think it can show that there are other issues going on in a marriage, but I think most of the time it's just that life gets too busy or there is stress that causes lack of interest. I don't think that a slow sex life automatically means that there are problems in the marriage. I always wonder about those couples who "have" to have it all the time..makes me wonder what they are trying to "fix" with sex.

[RCT]

it think the key words that scared me most were NOT LIKING IT....she seemed very adamant about it.....like it was AWFUL or something.....I agree that its not always the first up in my mind daily/weekly....LOL....but the thought of it NEVER being enjoyable again...threw me.....

[AnnW]

The dryness can definitely make it not fun, but there are ways to get around that ;) Tell your sil to look into Astroglide. :o

[RCT]

I will, thanks Ann...I just was shocked at her bluntness about this subject....and the casual way she told me to expect it....

[littlesista06]

Hey, I'm the first to admit we're not the 4 times a week couple! LOL

It is an interesting cycle I see here:
either we get along better when we have more sex or,
we have more sex when we're getting along better..... lol

It's not what I wake up thinking about, but I can't see us ever stopping it, either. I have NO idea (nor care to know) about my mom/dad or mom/stepdad or my in-laws.

I've got friends who NEVER give it up and I've thought to myself, what a waste of an awesome husband you've got. :blush:

[RCT]

Originally posted by littlesista06

It is an interesting cycle I see here:
either we get along better when we have more sex or,
we have more sex when we're getting along better..... lol

I've got friends who NEVER give it up and I've thought to myself, what a waste of an awesome husband you've got. :blush:

AMEN sista........:lol: