Attending a Birhtday Party ?

[RCT]

Ok, DD is new to this...most parties she has attended, have been family...and we have always stayed...she got an invitation to go to a party on the 30th...a class mate...I have met the mother, talk with her everyday at the bus stop....met the father a few times also....so...here is my question...I wasn't invited...so I drop dd off and pick her up....am I just being weird because this is her first actual big kid party? she is 5 almost 6....these are nice people...I guess its all so new to me...ds hasn't really gone to that many parties either, that weren't family....(life in the country :newwink: )

advice please....:)

[AnnW]

Take her to the party. Stand around visit with the other moms as they come, if alot of them are just dropping off and you feel comfortable, leave. If not, offer to help the mom.

[bizymum]

I agree with Ann..Or you could ask the Mom if she would liek some help, then you could stay.

[lindaM]

When I have parties for the kids some mom's stay and watch which is fine, some of the kids felt weird not having mom around. Especially the girls mom's. I find the moms of the boys drop and run. lol.

[KarlaB]

Up until this year ds always wanted us to stay. Now he goes and we just drop him off. I guess for us I based it on how well we knew the people and what ds's comfort level was...and ours. :tinysmile I love Ann's idea to hang around and offer to help out. :)

[AnnW]

I can remember when dd was in PreK and invited to her first party. I was so used to just dropping off ds (had been for several years cause of the age difference) that I started to do that with her. The mother (this was her first child) just looked at me with such horror. Another mom, with an older child too, looked at me and said "oh yea, we've got to start staying at the parties again" LOL

[Lynda-WA]

I've seen both. I didn't usually stay but made parents welcome for my kids parties. For Preschool parties, all attendents were families that we were friends with. For DS's K Birthday party and those he was invited to, parents wanted to get to know each other so most of those had parents there. Not so much for the kids but for a chance at adult socialization. For DD's K parties, the opposite was true. Parents came, met the other parent and left. From 1st grade on, I can't remember a parent that wasn't a friend staying.

I think offering to stay and help is good advice.

[JAK]

Originally posted by RCT
...I wasn't invited...


Did you expect the mom to write your name on the invitation too? Or did you expect her to ask you to come? ;) Just wondering! If you feel stange leaving her, then stay. Or wait and see what other parents do. I drop my dks off. They went to a party today (for a 5 yr old and my dks are 7 and 9) and I stayed because we had to leave early. I probably would have stayed anyway because all the other moms did (they had younger dks).

[AnnW]

Good point Jen! Even when my kids were younger and I stayed at parties, my name wasn't on the invitation.

[RCT]

Originally posted by JAK


Did you expect the mom to write your name on the invitation too? Or did you expect her to ask you to come? ;) Just wondering! wait and see what other parents do.

:lol: not at all....this is still new all these party invites now that they are older...and we are in a big city....I love the advice to hang out and see what is going on...I feel comfortable leaving her there....I have met both parents...see the mother everyday at the bus stop....

Thanks for all your advice....all these new things all over again ;)