Why do you come here?

[RCT]

I have been thinking about it lately:

why do I come here:

For friendship and comeradary (sp).... I actually feel like we are all friends here. All going through our journey of life, sharing experiences, good, bad, and indifferent.
I come here because I have always enjoyed this forum. and I still do...I have been coming here for a long time. You have all help me in so many ways. probably more than you know. I have moved from four different homes since I have been here. and you were all here when I got there. I feel like this is a place I can share those moments of shaky ground ie, the prospect of moving again out of state...EWWWH....I needed so badly to vent my fears, and again you all came through for me. I also love being able to share the great moments, as well as those everyday moments that are so momumental.

[AnnW]

Same reason as I hang with people in "real" life..for fun, enjoyment, feedback, love me warts in all, honesty, entertainment, escape, to sometimes be my conscience, for guidance. I don't look at the friendships or the people here any differently than I do my "real" friends.

[BevJ]

Honestly, I haven't figured it out yet why I come here, lol. I think I happened upon this board so long ago when looking for educational ideas for our ds. I come and check in every day, sometimes I add posts and replies but most days I have nothing to add...yet I still come back. I see support when others have asked for it (and even when they haven't) and I have seen laughs and milestones shared, etc. I offer what I can and am sincere in my posts. I don't remember if I have had to use this board for support and yet I'm not sure I, myself would post about that here. I know I would get support if asked, but I guess I still don't really feel like part of the whole group here yet, even after coming here for so long. I guess I just like the feel of this board and that's what keeps bringing me back day after day.

[MK]

To me, you all are real people, even though we've never met. I have had a few other internet e-pals (and in fact one of them has moved to my area, that's why she looked me up. We've only met once, but even in that first meeting I felt as if I'd known her all my life), and to me this is no different-- it's better, because we are all "e-pals" with each other, and we can all write/read our letters together, instead of forwarding them, or writing to several individuals. I come here for the same reasons I write to my "e-pals"-- for support and friendship, and yes, advice too. I love sharing different perspectives on certain topics, as well, as long as it's what someone said on that other thread-- as long as we know when to say, "okay, whatever" and let it drop, and not try to convince the other person that your opinion is the only right one. That's where I draw the line in debating.

[darlene]

Because I consider you all part of my life and my friends! I am not a social person....neither is dh....so IB brings the world to me right here at home. I can live vicariously (sp?) through this place!
Realize that I as a mom am not alone in some of my feelings. Get advice on my family as needed.

:)

[Linda/NE]

I came here looking for some friendship, a place to belong.

I found so much more than that!! I've found support, encouragement and help with real problems. You all have become a part of my life. It's funny how when something happens my thoughts go to--"I'll have to post about that on IB" LOL

[bizymum]

I come here for the friendship, adult conversation(LOL), advice and to vent and express concerns or fears.......

I consider all of you my friends and enjoy chatting(posting) with you all......

[Diane]

Originally posted by Linda/NE
You all have become a part of my life. It's funny how when something happens my thoughts go to--"I'll have to post about that on IB" LOL


LOL... that's how I am. When I found out about dd's ultra sound results... dh was the first one I called to talk with about it and then I came here. My family still doesn't know anything about it.
8o :\ I just thought I'd wait until we knew more. :)

Diane...

[JAK]

I come here to chat with my friends and to see what's going on with all of you. Because we move so much I don't really have a lot of friends, but you guys move with me. I feel like I've know several of you for a very long time. It's great when new people join in and actually post more than once or twice. I come here to vent, to have fun and for support when needed. There are so many different types of people here that you can always find at least one persone who's had the same problem you are having and also a ton of other people willing to give moral support. It's my safe haven where I know that I can post about anything or anyone and they will never know about it! :lol:

[JAK]

Originally posted by BevJ
I guess I still don't really feel like part of the whole group here yet, even after coming here for so long

You should feel like part of the group (whatever group that may be!)!!! :D

[Lynda-WA]

Originally posted by BevJ
Honestly, I haven't figured it out yet why I come here, lol. I think I happened upon this board so long ago when looking for educational ideas .

Ditto

[AnnW]

lynda//bev.......we are like a piece of gum stuck to your shoe!!!!! LOL

[Diane]

I don't know why I keep coming back here... I've been coming here for such of a long time it's probably more of a habit than anything. LOL Not really!!!! This is a place I come to, to see how all of my friends and their families are doing... what's up with them. Heck... I feel like I know some of you a lot better than I know some of my real life face to face friends! There have been times when I’ve felt like I didn’t “fit in” or wondered if I would ever fit in... but even though I may not be the “most popular” one here, l feel like I’ve got my place here. I’d like to think that if I suddenly stopped posting... I’d be missed... at least by some. LOL

When it comes right down to it... I come here because I enjoy having you all in my life. I’ve got a lot of friends outside of the IB, but there is something special about being able to come here. I know when I ask a question and need/want an honest answer... I can count on you all to give it to me. A lot of my friends will just tell me what they think I want to hear. I’ve been through a lot with you guy’s here... my children growing up, my dad’s illness/death, my dd’s wedding, pregnancy... and now the problem with her pregnancy. When things happen I find myself asking myself what everyone at the IB would do/say. I find myself talking about you guy’s to my friends and describing some of you as “my friend from... “Texas, California, New York, etc.”... LOL I’ve often wondered what would happen if one morning we all tried coming to the IB... and it just wasn’t here any more. 8o 8o 8o I know I’d miss it a great deal... and I hope that never happens. :) Even though we’ve all probably had our issues/problems here and maybe with some of the people in it... we’ve all pretty much stuck it out, which I guess is what friendship is all about. LOL Don’t know if I really answered the question... but I guess I’m here because I want to. LOL

Diane...

[AnnW]

Diane, that's EXACTLY how I feel!!!!!! I couldn't have said it better.

I know to some, this may all seem sappy or amusing, especially to those that don't post that often, but I think what we have here is rare and special...a community of women (and Jeff!) who are able to come for support, bitch and sometimes disagree but yet still be there for one another.