Ryleigh
04-27-2001, 06:11 PM
Thanks for all the support and encouragement! I thank God every day for letting me find this site and so many wonderful people. You are all angels in my book :angel:
dd refused to talk to either one of us the other night. Just burried her face in her pillow and wouldn't budge.
If she wasn't going to talk then we decided that we would do the talking and she could just listen. We went to her room together, and told her how much we loved her and are worried about her. We also told her how scared we were when we couldn't find her. We reassured her that we were not angry, just concerned and that it was ok if she didn't want to talk right now, she could come to us when she was ready. When she didn't respond, we just quietly left. Went out to the living room and bawled my eyes out. dh tried to talk to her again later, but I was in no condition to approach her. She still refused to talk. I finally convinced dh to go to bed around 2:30am. He had a 7:00 meeting that he couldn't miss. I couldn't sleep, so just sat back and tried to figure out what was happening and must have dosed off on the couch. About 4:30 I felt something brush against me and opened my eyes. dd was standing there trying to cover me with a blanket. I just looked at her and she burst into tears. I grabbed her and held her and we cried together. We both must have fell asleep like that. Next thing I knew I was waking up on the couch with dd in my arms. I found a note in the kitchen saying dh had dropped ds at MIL's house, and he would be back as soon as his meeting let out.
I kept dd home from school with me and we had a long talk. I still don't know all the details but things are looking up anyway.
She never was too far from home. Just in her tree house in the back yard. She appologised for scaring us so bad, said she doesn't know why she did it, she's just confused, but doesn't know what she is confused about.
She is happy about the babies but scared of how things are going to change.
She is afraid to grow up and "have to move away" from Mommy and Daddy!
She doesn't want to move and leave all her friend and the gym club.
This is just a small bit of what we were able to get out of her. I think it has been building for some time. I am working on arranging a 'girls day out' once a month. She seems quite excited about that but I think it's going to take more than just extra attention to get her through this. We are concidering outside help.
My emotions are still shaky but we are getting through this. She assures me she will never 'run away' again.
now she is after ds. He came home and said' Your a brat, you made mommy cry' They have always got along so well, I hate to see anything come between them.
Thanks again for all the kind words. You mean the world to me. :heart:
dd refused to talk to either one of us the other night. Just burried her face in her pillow and wouldn't budge.
If she wasn't going to talk then we decided that we would do the talking and she could just listen. We went to her room together, and told her how much we loved her and are worried about her. We also told her how scared we were when we couldn't find her. We reassured her that we were not angry, just concerned and that it was ok if she didn't want to talk right now, she could come to us when she was ready. When she didn't respond, we just quietly left. Went out to the living room and bawled my eyes out. dh tried to talk to her again later, but I was in no condition to approach her. She still refused to talk. I finally convinced dh to go to bed around 2:30am. He had a 7:00 meeting that he couldn't miss. I couldn't sleep, so just sat back and tried to figure out what was happening and must have dosed off on the couch. About 4:30 I felt something brush against me and opened my eyes. dd was standing there trying to cover me with a blanket. I just looked at her and she burst into tears. I grabbed her and held her and we cried together. We both must have fell asleep like that. Next thing I knew I was waking up on the couch with dd in my arms. I found a note in the kitchen saying dh had dropped ds at MIL's house, and he would be back as soon as his meeting let out.
I kept dd home from school with me and we had a long talk. I still don't know all the details but things are looking up anyway.
She never was too far from home. Just in her tree house in the back yard. She appologised for scaring us so bad, said she doesn't know why she did it, she's just confused, but doesn't know what she is confused about.
She is happy about the babies but scared of how things are going to change.
She is afraid to grow up and "have to move away" from Mommy and Daddy!
She doesn't want to move and leave all her friend and the gym club.
This is just a small bit of what we were able to get out of her. I think it has been building for some time. I am working on arranging a 'girls day out' once a month. She seems quite excited about that but I think it's going to take more than just extra attention to get her through this. We are concidering outside help.
My emotions are still shaky but we are getting through this. She assures me she will never 'run away' again.
now she is after ds. He came home and said' Your a brat, you made mommy cry' They have always got along so well, I hate to see anything come between them.
Thanks again for all the kind words. You mean the world to me. :heart: