How would you handle this?

[Diane]

Dd #3 went with this guy all through high school. (3 years) Anyway... I have several pictures of her/him together from the Snowball dance, Prom... (fun pictures) of them hanging on the walls or sitting on the book shelves. Well... I really liked her and him together... he's a nice guy. Anyway... he decided to join the Marines and was expected to be gone for the next 4 years. (with 3 months of boot camp) 8o He was gone for about 2 months when dd started talking with and dating her boyfriends best friend. :rolleyes: She wrote to him letting him know what was happening... and although he wasn't too happy about what happened, handled it quite well. Two months later he returned home... and didn't go back. (couldn't handle it) This of course made things a little bit more difficult (very akward) for dd and her boyfriend... because her X still wanted to have everything to do with her/them.

Anyway, on with my question. Do you think that because she is no longer going with this guy, that I should take down all of the pictures of her Prom/Snowball? I don't want her boyfriend to feel bad or uncomfortable because of the pictures... or to have the reminder of her with someone else. She and her new boyfriend are still very good friends with her former boyfriend... which means that sometimes he's over here with them. I've seen him glancing at the pictures... secretly wishing he was still with her, but not saying anything. So anyway... would you take the pictures down? One of my friends still has all of her dd's prom pictures up... even though her dd's are all maried to different people. (but their dh's didn't know these guy's) I really don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable, but then again... I hate like heck to have to take them down. What do you think I should do? TIA...

Diane...

[MaryL]

I guess if it were me...I'd take them down.

[AnnW]

These are prom pics, they weren't married. I would put them in an album of her high school pics and take them off the walls.

[Ryleigh S.]

I too would take them down and save them for dd in a album/scrapbook of her school years or just give them to dd to do what she want to with them. I wouldn't replace them with photos of the new boyfriend too quickly though maybe just dd herself or family. Gradually add the new 'man' into the scene.

[Diane]

I wasted no time taking them down. :( I spent the better part of the afternoon scanning and blowing up pictures of our family... many with Sarah, and putting them in the frames I had the other pictures in. I bought a memory box and put all of the photo's in that and packed it away. I'm kicking myself for not taking them down sooner... it was really quite rude/inconsiderate to leave them hanging up there as long as I did. I included him/dd in a few of the photo's... so I think he'll enjoy seeing them displayed with the rest of our family photo's. Actually... I think these look much better than the other ones did... kind of a nice change.

Thanks for your thoughts...

Diane...