Diane
07-16-2004, 09:11 AM
Am I being too sensative?
Ever since we moved into our neighborhood... the other neighbor's have gone on and on about how wonderful these certain other neighbor's are. They are SOOOOOOOO nice... SOOOOO helpful/kind, thoughtful... considerate!!! Well... in the 26 years we've been here I have yet to see it. :rolleyes: They've (especially the Mrs.) has always gone way out of their way to avoid/ignore us. If I'm out for my walk and happen to meet her coming back from her's... she'll look down at the street as if she doesn't see me. I've seen her go so far as to turn around and go down another street just to avoid me. 8o What really get's to me is that when she see's other neighbor's outside working in their yards, she'll go way out of her way to walk over and talk with them. When/if I happen to be talking with one of these neighbor's, and they call her over to talk... she'll be all smiley and nice to me. (all for show??)
Anyway... seeing she was the last neighbor to put together (about 20 years ago) the neighborhood picnic, I called and talked with her about helping me in getting another one put together. She was all nice/sweet and excited about the idea and thought it was about time we did it again. She told me she'd call Sue (one of the other neighbor's) and the three of us would get together and decide what needed to be done. Well... that was SEVEN weeks ago and I still hadn't heard anything. Anyway, I got sick of waiting so, I called Sue myself. I couldn't believe that this other neighbor had never even called/talked with her about any this? I couldn't BELIEVE it!
Anyway... Sue and I talked for quite a whle and decided what we needed to do in order to get this thing going. She didn't say much about the other neighbor... but I think she was a little embarrassed about the whole thing. She tried to make up a few excuses for her, but I think after 7 weeks there are no real good excuses. Anyway... if you were me, what would you do? Would you try calling and talking with her again or would you just leave her out of the whole thing? As far as I'm concerned, she's pretty much proven to me that she's not interested... and I think I should just proceed on without her. Dh thinks I'm being too sensative and that I should call/talk with her one more time. Well... as far as I'm concerned, I'm done trying to be nice to her. It's VERY obvious that she's got a problem with me, and I'm not the type of a person to run/chase after and suck up to someone to try to get them to like me. If they don't... they don't, they're entitled. So... how would you feel and what would you do? I don't really want to do anything to tick her off even more but... I'm also not going to just sit by and do nothing because she's got a problem with me. Any thoughts/advice? I'd really appreciate your input. Thanks.
Just thought I'd add... I get along with all of my other neighbor's, so I know it's not me. LOL
Diane...
Ever since we moved into our neighborhood... the other neighbor's have gone on and on about how wonderful these certain other neighbor's are. They are SOOOOOOOO nice... SOOOOO helpful/kind, thoughtful... considerate!!! Well... in the 26 years we've been here I have yet to see it. :rolleyes: They've (especially the Mrs.) has always gone way out of their way to avoid/ignore us. If I'm out for my walk and happen to meet her coming back from her's... she'll look down at the street as if she doesn't see me. I've seen her go so far as to turn around and go down another street just to avoid me. 8o What really get's to me is that when she see's other neighbor's outside working in their yards, she'll go way out of her way to walk over and talk with them. When/if I happen to be talking with one of these neighbor's, and they call her over to talk... she'll be all smiley and nice to me. (all for show??)
Anyway... seeing she was the last neighbor to put together (about 20 years ago) the neighborhood picnic, I called and talked with her about helping me in getting another one put together. She was all nice/sweet and excited about the idea and thought it was about time we did it again. She told me she'd call Sue (one of the other neighbor's) and the three of us would get together and decide what needed to be done. Well... that was SEVEN weeks ago and I still hadn't heard anything. Anyway, I got sick of waiting so, I called Sue myself. I couldn't believe that this other neighbor had never even called/talked with her about any this? I couldn't BELIEVE it!
Anyway... Sue and I talked for quite a whle and decided what we needed to do in order to get this thing going. She didn't say much about the other neighbor... but I think she was a little embarrassed about the whole thing. She tried to make up a few excuses for her, but I think after 7 weeks there are no real good excuses. Anyway... if you were me, what would you do? Would you try calling and talking with her again or would you just leave her out of the whole thing? As far as I'm concerned, she's pretty much proven to me that she's not interested... and I think I should just proceed on without her. Dh thinks I'm being too sensative and that I should call/talk with her one more time. Well... as far as I'm concerned, I'm done trying to be nice to her. It's VERY obvious that she's got a problem with me, and I'm not the type of a person to run/chase after and suck up to someone to try to get them to like me. If they don't... they don't, they're entitled. So... how would you feel and what would you do? I don't really want to do anything to tick her off even more but... I'm also not going to just sit by and do nothing because she's got a problem with me. Any thoughts/advice? I'd really appreciate your input. Thanks.
Just thought I'd add... I get along with all of my other neighbor's, so I know it's not me. LOL
Diane...