I had THE TALK...

[littlesista06]

with dd last night. Oh my gosh, it was totally unplanned, but went real well.
We were getting ready for her bath and she ran in excitedly .... "Mom! I've got armpit hair!!" ROFL Glad she took it that way, and didn't freak out about it.

I'd noticed some other signs that made me think we needed to start the ball rollig on this subject.
I just told her her body is changing on the outside (new hair, new teeth, etc.) and her body is changing on the inside too (organs, etc.)
I stalled just a min. and then went on to tell her that later, when she's a little older, she'd have a period every month and she'd seen my tampon box, and stuff, so I just related it back to that stuff and she was FINE. I couldn't believe it, and so was I. ROFL. So, I'm glad that groundwork is laid.

I made very very clear that this is a subject that is talked about with family, not girlfriends. She's like "well, yeah, it's MY body, it's MY business". Hee hee.

[BevJ]

LOL, glad it went well.

[Melody]

Wow! Glad it went so well.

I had the talk with ds1 two weeks ago. He really didn't know very much. He thought that dad waved a magic wand and voila! I was pregnant with his brother. lol
Then he learned about 'naked hugs'. He thought that was all sex was but they are learning about body's in the 5th grade and all the organs. So when we are searching for something on the net together he asked me what his little balls were there for. So, I told him. He thought that it was "kinda funny" how a baby is really made but all in all the talk went well. I'm glad we had it because I'm sure he has friends who knew more than him and I was afraid he would get teased if he asked a question that the others already knew so I knew we would have a talk soon.

[AnnW]

Correction...you had your FIRST talk! there will be many more hopefully, unless you screwed up like I did with ds who will never talk sex with me again!
WTG!!! sounds like you handled it well. Order the American Girl book now!

[KarlaB]

WTG!! Sounds like you handled it well!!!!!

Ann - You crack me up!! What did you say that made your ds not want to talk to you about it? I need all of the help I can get! ROFL! Was hoping when the time comes that dh would just take care of it, BUT I do want my kids comfortable talking to me, too - so I'll have to bite the bullet!

[AnnW]

WTG!! Sounds like you handled it well!!!!!

Ann - You crack me up!! What did you say that made your ds not want to talk to you about it? I need all of the help I can get! ROFL! Was hoping when the time comes that dh would just take care of it, BUT I do want my kids comfortable talking to me, too - so I'll have to bite the bullet!

Not so much what I said, but what I didn't. I totally wimped and didn't answer his questions...sort of hemmed and hawed and gave a really lame answer. Guess he felt like he could never talk to me about it.
We do sort of have drive by sex talks now. Like when all that stuff about the snap bracelets came out, I asked him if the girls wore them and what did they mean. He was confused. I said 'well, on tv, it said that it means the girl has to give you a blow job'. He said 'i don't think they mean that here'.
Me "you know what a blow job is?" him "mom, do we really have to do this?" or when he was taking Sex, God and Me at church. One of the talks was on STD's. So we had a brief talk about that.

[Melody]

OMG! I have never heard of that with the snap bracelets before. I so do not want to have to explain what a 'job' is! Dh can handle those ones. Mind you, if it was up to dh, the poor child would still be thinking that daddy had a magic wand like Harry Potter's hidden in the closet somewhere!

[littlesista06]

Correction...you had your FIRST talk! there will be many more hopefully, unless you screwed up like I did with ds who will never talk sex with me again!
WTG!!! sounds like you handled it well. Order the American Girl book now!

Ah, true, so true!! LOL
I think she and I both handled it really well, we were both so relaxed and the pit hair (LOL) really opened the door. OH! Which AG book are you talking about? Is it the one about taking care of your body.... I've seen it, just can't remember the title. Thanks!

[littlesista06]

.... Like when all that stuff about the snap bracelets came out, I asked him if the girls wore them and what did they mean. He was confused. I said 'well, on tv, it said that it means the girl has to give you a blow job'. He said 'i don't think they mean that here'.
Me "you know what a blow job is?" him "mom, do we really have to do this?" or when he was taking Sex, God and Me at church. One of the talks was on STD's. So we had a brief talk about that.

Oh we had that here too, except it was the jelly bracelets. And of course, dd wanted some, but I couldn't bring myself to let her get any!! LOL!!

[AnnW]

I highly recommend these books!!!

http://store.americangirl.com/pls/ag...b?catid=375878

This is the one on the body.
http://store.americangirl.com/pls/ag...&groupid=51662

Barnes and Noble also carries them.

[JAK]

Dd and I had our first talk the first week of school. I'm surprised I didn't post about it because I was so excited about actually having the nerve to do it. My mom NEVER talked to be about anything! Dd was telling me how the teacher had taken all the girls to the bathroom for a "field trip". I was thinking to show them the pad machine in case they needed it. I just decided it was a great time to talk to her about getting your period. (That's not why they were taken to the bathroom though) She was really listening to what I had to say and didn't really have too many questions. I bought her the taking care of your body American Girl book and gave it to her before we left Alaska. I told her if she had any questions about anything to either ask me or her dad. She was ok with that. Don't know how it will go in the future, hopefully just as good.

[Ryleigh S.]

Glad your talk went well.
I haven't covered much more than the body changing bit with dd, but I'm sure the time is not far off.

[Leigh]

I am so glad that it went well.