Mel, I completely understand your vent. I feel exactly the same way as you. Tomorrow ds is scheduled to work 10-2, but I've reminded him several times to take a moment of silence @ 11 a.m. The three of us are going for breakfast downtown, then dh will drive ds to work and come back to meet me to attend the ceremonies at our arena. It's always a special time of remembrance for me, since my Dad is a WWII vet and most years I'll take the morning off to attend the city's ceremonies as opposed to the university's. And it always seems in the last few years my Dad has spend this day in the hospital. This year being no exception (and I don't mean the home he lives in). I will visit him after the ceremonies.
"A mother understands what a child does not say."
--Jewish proverb