two birthday parties in one year??

[JAK]

Ds was invited to a birthday party this summer. He went and while we were there, I found out it wasn't actually the child's birthday. His actual birthday is Dec 26 and whenever he has had a birthday party for his actual birthday no one can come because everyone is out of town for the holidays. His parents decided to have his party in the summer so his friends could come. Fast forward to now... the mom just informed my ds last week that she's going to be having a birthday party for her ds soon and that my ds will be invited. WTF! I REFUSE to buy another present or to even let me ds attend. Am I wrong in my thinking? I know most kids would love to have 2 birthday parties spaced 6 months apart, but that's not how it works imho.

[AnnW]

I have lots of friends that do half birthday parties for that reason. Is this a 'big' birthday year for the child, so they feel like they have to celebrate it on the right day?
I don't think I would buy another present, but I would let my child go. It's not really any different than if they were having a Christmas party.

[Melody]

I think its weird but would let my ds go. If I felt funny sending him without a gift for the second party I would make a donation to a children's charity in that kids name and put the reciept in a card.

[JAK]

I have lots of friends that do half birthday parties for that reason. Is this a 'big' birthday year for the child, so they feel like they have to celebrate it on the right day?
I don't think I would buy another present, but I would let my child go. It's not really any different than if they were having a Christmas party.

The half birthday was one thing and I understood why they did it. I just can't see why they are having another BIRTHDAY party. He's turning 11. His mom's a quack to begin with. Maybe I should introduce her to the lady who invited her to my ds's party.
It's not different than a Christmas party unless she's expecting everyone who came to the first party to buy her ds another gift.

[RCT]

funny to have another party, I do understand it though. I would let ds go, another present would be wierd though. Do they really expect one is what I am thinking?

[SpeechMom]

I think I would just ask her. Maybe it's just a simple cake and ice cream party with just your ds (since there will be lots of people out of town) to acknowledge his actual birthday.

[JAK]

If she calls to tell me about the party I will ask her. This woman is a nice lady, but a real nut case. She drives all of us batty. It's a good thing her ds doesn't take after her or my ds wouldn't be hanging out with him!

[Diane]

If she calls to tell me about the party I will ask her. This woman is a nice lady, but a real nut case. She drives all of us batty. It's a good thing her ds doesn't take after her or my ds wouldn't be hanging out with him!

Give her the phone # of the 3 year olds mom... I'm sure she'd probably be happy to send her ds to his party seeing he won't be attending your ds's. LOL

Dd #3's birthday is January 2nd and for the same reason's (too close to Christmas and the new Year) we always let her celebrate with her friends during the summer when she could have a pool party. I wouldn't ever dream of inviting them all over again for another party ON her party though... I'm not too sure about what I'd do. I guess I'd ask and if she expected more gifts to be given, I probably wouldn't send my ds. Gifts are expensive enough to buy once, but would never think to have to do it twice in one year. LOL ..

[JAK]

She called to RSVP for ds's party and then said, "oh yeah, ******'s (her ds) party is on the 16th." I said what kind of party and she said cosmic bowling. I guess I should have asked what the party was for and not what kind of party. It turns out ds will not be able to go to the party anyway as he already has plans for that night.