Invitation to a party question

[Diane]

I prefer an invitation at least two weeks prior myself, but the fact I never recieved one at all, but am expected to be there and bring two gifts for the gift exchange, kinda floors me. I got a message from step sister who is having this party last night, "just calling to see about your RSVP, I need a head count and wanted to know if you are coming."
I emailed her that unfortunetly we already have standing plans for this Saturday.
I will see my Dad before Christmas.
I am a pretty strong woman, ..but I can't do this again.
I am done with the her side of the Family parties, I really don't like how I feel when we are all gathered together. It's not healthy for me, and I don't want to project my feelings onto my children.
I have my father and his wife to my home for dinner alot during the year, and will make it a point to have them over a little more often, but as for the holiday bashes with all her kids too, I'm done. After Thanksgiving....No more.
I cried way too much that day. Dh said he has no intention of seeing me go through that again, which coming from him means that its not just me being a baby.

(((HUGS))) I totally forgot what you had to go through for Thanksgiving... I wouldn't be too thrilled to have to spend even more time with them after that either. Don't blame you one bit!!! Enjoy your Christmas and don't worry about them. After all you went through, none of them should be too surprised if you don't show up. LOL Hang in there....

[AnnW]

Then you should definitely not go. I didn't know if this was your only chance to celebrate Christmas with your dad.

[RCT]

I emailed sil early this morning,and called her cell and left a message, that we would be unable to attend. Remember ladies I have never recieved an invite, well I didn't get home until 7:15 PM, and the phone was ringing we missed it, but there were 6 messages on the machine 1st from Step sister, "I need your RSVP we are doing a head count for the gift exchange." not really pleasant, but ok 2nd messaged was from a step brothers wife, who I barely know " we really need your RSVP about the Party Saturday." 3rd message Sil again. only now she is bitchy " I wish you would call me back, I need a head count for this party."
Well hello, I WORK 40 hours a week! 4th message was SIL again, and well I just hit the delete key. Got the phone book out and then thought better of it....called my Dad Very sweetly in my little angel daughter voice, (Yes I know its immature and wrong to use that Daddy's little girl act at 40, but OK...I did it ) explained that it seems that all the SIL's are upset with me about this party and my RSVP, I emailed her and left a message for her, amazingly, he was a little miffed at the SIL's for hounding me. He will take care of them getting the message.

YAHOOO!

[Diane]

I emailed sil early this morning,and called her cell and left a message, that we would be unable to attend. Remember ladies I have never recieved an invite, well I didn't get home until 7:15 PM, and the phone was ringing we missed it, but there were 6 messages on the machine 1st from Step sister, "I need your RSVP we are doing a head count for the gift exchange." not really pleasant, but ok 2nd messaged was from a step brothers wife, who I barely know " we really need your RSVP about the Party Saturday." 3rd message Sil again. only now she is bitchy " I wish you would call me back, I need a head count for this party."
Well hello, I WORK 40 hours a week! 4th message was SIL again, and well I just hit the delete key. Got the phone book out and then thought better of it....called my Dad Very sweetly in my little angel daughter voice, (Yes I know its immature and wrong to use that Daddy's little girl act at 40, but OK...I did it ) explained that it seems that all the SIL's are upset with me about this party and my RSVP, I emailed her and left a message for her, amazingly, he was a little miffed at the SIL's for hounding me. He will take care of them getting the message.

YAHOOO!

Oh Renee... you poor thing! I couldn't even imagine having to deal with these people. Glad you got it taken care of...

[Melody]

I emailed sil early this morning,and called her cell and left a message, that we would be unable to attend. Remember ladies I have never recieved an invite, well I didn't get home until 7:15 PM, and the phone was ringing we missed it, but there were 6 messages on the machine 1st from Step sister, "I need your RSVP we are doing a head count for the gift exchange." not really pleasant, but ok 2nd messaged was from a step brothers wife, who I barely know " we really need your RSVP about the Party Saturday." 3rd message Sil again. only now she is bitchy " I wish you would call me back, I need a head count for this party."
Well hello, I WORK 40 hours a week! 4th message was SIL again, and well I just hit the delete key. Got the phone book out and then thought better of it....called my Dad Very sweetly in my little angel daughter voice, (Yes I know its immature and wrong to use that Daddy's little girl act at 40, but OK...I did it ) explained that it seems that all the SIL's are upset with me about this party and my RSVP, I emailed her and left a message for her, amazingly, he was a little miffed at the SIL's for hounding me. He will take care of them getting the message.

YAHOOO!

You are much better than me. I would have called her back to tell her that not only did I leave 2 messages with my reply, I didn't get an invite in the first place so she should calm the he!! down. lol Glad your dad is taking care of it. Don't blame you for not going. Yikes!

[Amy]

I actually liked that you took the Daddy angle! I also like when Ann used it against SM. Sometimes confrontation is not always the answer (okay-I am the queen of confrontation, but don't follow my lead on it. LOL). Sometimes it is good to play the martyr and let the fathers see things as they really are. If you go off half-****ed on SIL, then your Dad will only see your hostility, not the actual problem.

[RCT]

If you go off half-****ed on SIL, then your Dad will only see your hostility, not the actual problem.

AMEN!

Plus I think Daddy's love it, when they get to feel like your hero again....

[Mickey]

I forgot about Thanksgiving, Renee (or just didn't put the two together). Glad you talked to your dad about it. (Like Amy, I probably would have confronted her myself, but I agree that this was probably the better option.)

[Diane]

I actually liked that you took the Daddy angle! I also like when Ann used it against SM. Sometimes confrontation is not always the answer (okay-I am the queen of confrontation, but don't follow my lead on it. LOL). Sometimes it is good to play the martyr and let the fathers see things as they really are. If you go off half-****ed on SIL, then your Dad will only see your hostility, not the actual problem.

Exactly!! I think it's important for them to know what happened and how you feel about it. At least his wife won't look so innocent, no matter how much she tries to make it look like she is.