Okay, 6th graders here have HABIT sheets - they are behavior sheets where you earn letters for good behavior, displaying core values, actions, etc. or have letters taken away from you for poor choices, not having homework, etc.

Well, dd hasn't ever had a letter taken away until Friday. The ex-boyfriend had been talking to her and she said something back. He got caught, got a habit letter taken away and the teacher thought the girl next to dd was talking - but she wasn't, and she didn't get in trouble.

Dd told the teacher she was talking to the ex. The teacher thanked her for her honesty and coming to her (she stayed after class to tell the teacher and the ex stayed with her), but she still took a letter away from her. : (
Now, it's not going to make a hill of beans worth of difference in her life, but I feel two ways about this:
1. proud of her for telling on her herself
2. disappointed that the teacher went through with taking a letter away
3. thinking if she had to take the letter away from her, she could have zero'd it out by giving her a good habit letter
4. pleased the ex stayed with her - he kept saying "you didn't have to do that" (which dh agreed with adamantly!!!)

I won't say anything to the teacher, just not worth it. But wanted to get that off my chest. LOL Dh was irked at dd for turing herself in but I thought it was very grown up of her. She said she had a stomach ache the rest of the afternoon after she did it. LOL!!

I should say, the giving and taking of letters is arbritary to the teacher - there is no office or administration involvement in this.