I have a question. I have a 15 yo ds who absolutely refuses to help around the house, put his laundry in the toilet, pick up after himself, hang up his wet towel or even flush the toilet (which I find absolutely disgusting!) We have tried grounding him, taking away his allowance yet nothing seems to work. I have talked to him until i am blue in the face. In some ways I see this as a sort of teen rebellion which is developmentally normal but it is not conducive to family living. He is also very rude and uses bad language which he knows is not appropriate and is very disrespectful. In March he can legally start learning to drive and can take driver's ed. So far the only leverage I can come up with is that until I see better behavior at home he will not be taking driver's ed nor will he be getting behind the wheel of a car. Does anyone else have any ideas on how to deal with this type of behavior in a teenaged boy? There are times when he can be very sweet but those times are few and far between. I am at my wits end and very tired of putting up with his behavior as are other members of the household. And if there are no ideas on how to get him back on trace, are there any ideas on how I should react to his bad behavior? i have tried ignoring it, talking to him, bargaining with him, positive reinforcement yet again, nothing seems to work. I look forward to anyone's ideas or suggestions!