workings moms vs. stay at home moms

[allison jane]

I am doing a report for one my early childhood classes and I need to know if more people prefer stay at home mothers or working mothers?

thank you


stay at home mothers:

working mothers:

[Diane]

I believe that we are ALL working mom's... whether were in the home or outside of the home working... we're all hard working mom's.

Diane...

[Cathy]

Wow, that's so open-ended. I can't make a blanket vote. How old are the children? Can parent(s) provide for their needs? Interacting with the children while at home, or neglectful? Home by choice or resentful? Isolation factor?

Too many women have made these considerations irrelevant to the topic of working in or out of the home. I believe people have the right and responsibility to make the best choices for their own families. No way is categorically better. It might make for a more interesting paper to poll women on the reason(s) that they have made their choice, and how satisfied they are with it.
Good luck.

[Marla]

Originally posted by Diane P.
I believe that we are ALL working mom's... whether were in the home or outside of the home working... we're all hard working mom's.

Diane...

I second that motion

[imamama]

Hard to say which is better, seeing as how I'm both... a working mother who stays at home any time I'm not working..... I'm a single mother and I HAVE to work to support my daughter and provide for her. I chose not to receive child support because having her father in her life is not in her best interest. She wants for nothing... most of all love, attention, sercurity and QUALITY time.

I don't want to attack you, but this topic serves no purpose other than to pit people against each other because everyone has a different opinion. We're all mothers together and shouldn't care who of us does or does not work. What matters to me is that the other mothers in the world do their very best to raise children with intelligence and high morals and values so that my daughter will have decent people to encounter throughout her life... unfortunately, that's a pipe dream! But of the mothers who do raise their children as I've just mentioned, I'm not going to sit around and count who works and who stays at home... who cares!

[Kab]

I agree with the above statements. Working full time and raising a child is just as hard as a working stay home Mom. I've done both, keeping my child home over summers and I think I worked harded then, than when I was teaching in the school. My hat goes off to all . Either way we are all constantly working, harder, I think than our counterparts.

[Kab]

And ...your post question does not reflect your poll question.

[Mickey]

I agree with Cathy. It depends on SO much.

I happen to be a SAHM (work part-time from home), but I've known several women (and men) whose kids, imho, are lucky to be in daycare.

Every situation is different and you can't say that one way is always better than the other for all kids and parents.

[Diane]

I'm glad to see that were all in agreement with this... LOL I remember a few years ago (maybe longer) we had a HUGE debate on this very subject... It wasn't very pretty. Were all mom's and were all hard working. LOL

Diane...

[littlesista06]

Originally posted by Diane P.
Were all mom's and were all hard working.

Diane...

Amen!!

[Diane]

Originally posted by littlesista06
Amen!!

[Linda/NE]

You definitely chose the right place to pose the question to get some insight!

There is no right or wrong answer on this. There are some kids who are better off in daycare because of their homelife. Other kids would benefit more from being at home with their moms. Many kids get benefits from some of both.

I think what is more important than whether a mother/father/parent is home with their child or works and puts the child in daycare IS what the parents do with/for the child when they are together.

It also important to realize that what is the norm for our lives is NOT the norm in other households. There isn't a set procedure for raising a child. Believe me if there was a owner's manual for each child I'd have it with me everywhere I go! LOL

This must be a hot topic in classrooms everywhere because I came across another board that's been debating this back and forth for most of a month. You'd be proud of me though--I just read the posts, I didn't comment.

[allison jane]

The whole reason that I posted this is for a research project at school. I don't need to be attacked for the subject, I want to know if you think that children get more benefits from staying at home with their moms or being in daycare. Evidently I am a horrible person for having a opinion on this subject, which I didn't even state, I just want a little tally in the box that says what you feel is better, not how I'm such a horrible person and that I'm attacking working moms. I am not attacking working moms! I'm just trying to get some stats for my report!

[Mickey]

Who the heck attacked you???

You asked a question and got many nice, honest replies.

In a perfect world, all parents would be perfect--loving, doting, patient, financially secure and home, showering their children with love and attention--but guess what...we don't live in a perfect world.

[Jeff]

Originally posted by Diane P.
I believe that we are ALL working mom's... whether were in the home or outside of the home working... we're all hard working mom's.

Diane...

Oh Yeah??