workings moms vs. stay at home moms

[angie r]

Originally posted by allison jane
The whole reason that I posted this is for a research project at school. I don't need to be attacked for the subject, I want to know if you think that children get more benefits from staying at home with their moms or being in daycare. Evidently I am a horrible person for having a opinion on this subject, which I didn't even state, I just want a little tally in the box that says what you feel is better, not how I'm such a horrible person and that I'm attacking working moms. I am not attacking working moms! I'm just trying to get some stats for my report!

It is hard to give a "stat" to a question with no right or wrong answer, so instead you get opinions. I didn't see any attacks on you or the subject for that matter. Do you need a stat that says 62% of people think that being a SAHM is the best? What is your report about?

[Jeff]

Don't know if you can use me in your stats but we have done it both ways. When I was working the children did grow socially and became more outgoing and lost much of their shyness. Not sure if it was age or environment. I do know that when we were both working, we didn't feel we were spending much time with the kids and do feel in our situation they get more quality time when I am at home taking care of all the stuff that gets in the way of quality time. We know many people that are quite efficient as a household and a family where both parents work. We aren't one of those families. I would have to say that our children benefit from a single income family. I would also have to say my wife's sister's family benefits from the same situation.

[PamE]

I echo Angie R here... it's impossible to respond the way you want because the issue isn't right or wrong, cut and dried, black and white or simple at all. There are few here that would say children of sahms are better off than those of wahms or vice versa simply because we know from experience it's much more invovled than that! Each and every situation is different and will not fit into anyone else's mold of what is "ideal".

[Cathy]

allison jane- I think we are all responding to your question. No one (so far) has attacked you. If you just want to write a report that shows the view that SAHM's are best, there are plenty of stories to research about horrific child care. If you're aiming toward the working mom being preferable, check the statistics on moms who abuse their children. The problem is that we are all pretty aware of the value of statistics. It all depends on the wording of the questions. If you are interested in truth, steer clear of statistics. Your paper will have a great deal more value, and you will learn more from it, if you attempt to reveal and reflect on actual life. If you want an 'opinion piece', just use anecdotals.

[Ryleigh]

I don't know how to vote on this either. There are some many factors to concider.

How old are the children?
How much of her 'stay at home' time would be spent with her kids.
The childs personal temporment. Some children thrive more quickly, being with other children in a group setting and still having evenings and weekend to spend with mom.
and so many more........

I think it is different for every situation. Both options have the good and bad points.

[Diane]

Originally posted by Jeff
Oh Yeah??

YEAH!!!! LOL

Diane...

[Diane]

Originally posted by allison jane
The whole reason that I posted this is for a research project at school. I don't need to be attacked for the subject, I want to know if you think that children get more benefits from staying at home with their moms or being in daycare. Evidently I am a horrible person for having a opinion on this subject, which I didn't even state, I just want a little tally in the box that says what you feel is better, not how I'm such a horrible person and that I'm attacking working moms. I am not attacking working moms! I'm just trying to get some stats for my report!

I'm sorry that you feel that you were being "attacked", but quite frankely... I don't see where anyone was attacking you. We are all giving you our opinions the best we can. It's a hard question to answer and I'm afraid no matter how hard we all try to answer your question... it's not going to be what you're looking for. Sorry! I wish we could have been of more help to you.

Diane...

[imamama]

Allison Jane...
Based on all of the wonderful insight given by everyone.. you would have a terrific report to turn in. Instead of trying to say one or the other is better, why don't you report on how, at least the people from this sight, are so willing to embrace whatever other mothers need to do... be it stay at home, or work. I've never been lucky enough to encounter such positive responses from such a diverse group of people. Most of the time, when this question is posed, everyone is so ready to say the other half is wrong. But not here... these postings would serve you great purpose in your report... if only I'd had something like this when I was in school! Wow!! You're lucky to be receiving such a wealth of knowledge via personal experience... instead of going on the defensive (especially since no one attacked you), you should be grateful and use this stuff in your report!!!

[Diane]

Originally posted by imamama
Allison Jane...
Based on all of the wonderful insight given by everyone.. you would have a terrific report to turn in. Instead of trying to say one or the other is better, why don't you report on how, at least the people from this sight, are so willing to embrace whatever other mothers need to do... be it stay at home, or work. I've never been lucky enough to encounter such positive responses from such a diverse group of people. Most of the time, when this question is posed, everyone is so ready to say the other half is wrong. But not here... these postings would serve you great purpose in your report... if only I'd had something like this when I was in school! Wow!! You're lucky to be receiving such a wealth of knowledge via personal experience... instead of going on the defensive (especially since no one attacked you), you should be grateful and use this stuff in your report!!!

Well said and... I couldn't agree with you more.

Diane...

[imamama]

Thanks, Diane!!!