Save engagement ring?

[Lynda/WA]

Yet another Ann Lander's topic. I man bought an engagement ring for his fiancee that he really loved. The engagment ended and he still has the ring. He would like to keep the ring incase he gets engaged again. Friend's have told him that's fine as long as she doesn't learn it was origionally intended for someone else. He feels not telling her would be like lying. Keep in mind that he really loves this particular ring. What do you think he should do?

[Mickey]

I think he should tell her and see what she says.

[RCT]

LOL.....I don't think I would want a ring that was for another woman...JMHO....take it back, get the money....when he finds another love...buy something they both like.....or if he is so in love with that style pick one similiar...sorry I think that would be yucky to get a re-gift on an engagement ring....LMAO again JMHO

[Diane]

I don't think I'd appreciate getting an engagement ring that was intended for another. I also think he should either take it back... or sell it and take the $$ he gets from it and pick another one out himeself or let his fiancee pick out one that she likes. The ring just wouldn't mean the same knowing that it wasn't chosen just for me... and every time I looked at it I think it would remind me of "her". LOL I think it would be a very tacky thing for him to do. JMHO

Diane...

[KarlaB]

I wouldn't want it either. Granted it's a material thing, but it is a tie to his past. I think it would mean more to both of them (future engaged couple) if they picked out something together that they both liked.

[littlesista06]

Ditto everyone else - dump the ring!!!
It'll always have ties to the ex - no one should start a new relationship, much less marriage with that! Can you imagine if you suddenly found out your ring was picked out for someone else??!!! ugh.

[Lynda-WA]

Ann Landers told the guy to sell the ring. Or at the very least to ditch the setting, save the stone, and have the stone reset.

I'm with Mickey on this one. Ask. BTW, DH had a wedding ring from his single days. He bought it when he was in Turkey because he found that he could pick up more women wearing a wedding ring. He told me the rings history and asked me if we should use that ring as his wedding ring. He loved it because it is a red gold. I didn't have a problem with it.