So, how's the exercise and healthy eating coming along?!

**JeannieOR** · 03-07-2002, 04:58 PM

I have more energy now. It's a big improvement. The next step is getting into an excerise rutine. The problem is I've honed laziness into an art form. I'm starting out with weights in a hope that I can build up my shoulders and back so when I make it down to my college weight (125) I won't be back in my college bra size of 32C. Have you ever tryed to find a 32C? It's imposible! My sister wares a 32D. I don't think she's ever paid less than $40 for a bra. ...but I digress (sp).

Speaking digressing....DH's says he's now afraid I'm going to run off with someone else! He says he's kidding, but now he acting all insecure. My best friend is also having a hard time adjusting. I wiegh less then her now and it's feaking her out. When I got down to 139 I didn't feel like I could tell either one of them. (I had to call another friend who's thinner than I am.) Anyone else having trouble with loved ones adjusting to their weight loss?

**AnnW** · 03-07-2002, 05:24 PM

Congratulations!!!
People are just weird. Maybe she identified herself in ya'lls relationship as the "skinny one" and now that the tables have changed, she doesn't know how to react..doesn't know how the balance in the relationship is. But it is her problem!
I know that all my adult life, my little brother has been the slow starter, not really got it all together member of the family. Well, now he is doing really well, and to be honest, I am not being all that gracious about it. He's not the one who is supposed to be doing well, it's ME! LOL He's always been the favorite in other ways, being the child who had her act together was my job! LOL

As for your dh, have you always been at a higher weight? If so, you need to be sure to let him know that this doesn't have anything to do with him or your relationship, this was something that you did just for yourself. If not, then remind him that you loved him when you were at a lower weight before and you will now!

**AnnW** · 03-07-2002, 05:40 PM

Originally posted by JAK
. My neighbor goes with her friend (who I don't know). Do you think it'd be weird if I went too? Not with them, but on my own? I wouldn't want to make the friend feel weird if I was there...

Is this a private class??

GO! It isn't weird for neighbors to end up at the same place. Would you feel weird if you went to the same grocery store???

**Amy** · 03-07-2002, 05:58 PM

Originally posted by JeannieOR
I have more energy now. It's a big improvement. The next step is getting into an excerise rutine. The problem is I've honed laziness into an art form. I'm starting out with weights in a hope that I can build up my shoulders and back so when I make it down to my college weight (125) I won't be back in my college bra size of 32C. Have you ever tryed to find a 32C? It's imposible! My sister wares a 32D. I don't think she's ever paid less than $40 for a bra. ...but I digress (sp).

Speaking digressing....DH's says he's now afraid I'm going to run off with someone else! He says he's kidding, but now he acting all insecure. My best friend is also having a hard time adjusting. I wiegh less then her now and it's feaking her out. When I got down to 139 I didn't feel like I could tell either one of them. (I had to call another friend who's thinner than I am.) Anyone else having trouble with loved ones adjusting to their weight loss?

CONGRATS!!

When I get at a weight Im happy with, my dh loves it, yet tries and sabotages me! LOL He will bring home a cheesecake for "the family". Like I can resist cheesecake when its right in my face! LOL

I think in the case of your friend, I agree with Ann. I was much thinner than one of my bestfriends in college. Whenever we went out, I usually got more attention, but I was oblivious at the time. She lost a ton of weight and the attention got more evenly distributed and all of a sudden I noticed! LOL Its an expectation that your friend just assumed and now she doesn't know how to deal with the "change".

Dh felt safe with you heavier because you probably didn't take great stock in yourself physically (makeup, clothes and outlook) and now he KNOWS you are loking good and YOU know you are looking good, so the insecurity is setting in. Ann's answer to your dh was really good. When I lost weight this summer when dh was gone, I bought new clothes, started buying really good makeup, had my hair highlited and wanted to go every night when I was back home in NY. LOL I felt good and it showed. You have every right to be proud and show it!

**JeannieOR** · 03-07-2002, 06:01 PM

Originally posted by AnnW
Congratulations!!!
People are just weird. Maybe she identified herself in ya'lls relationship as the "skinny one" and now that the tables have changed, she doesn't know how to react..doesn't know how the balance in the relationship is. But it is her problem!
I know that all my adult life, my little brother has been the slow starter, not really got it all together member of the family. Well, now he is doing really well, and to be honest, I am not being all that gracious about it. He's not the one who is supposed to be doing well, it's ME! LOL He's always been the favorite in other ways, being the child who had her act together was my job! LOL

As for your dh, have you always been at a higher weight? If so, you need to be sure to let him know that this doesn't have anything to do with him or your relationship, this was something that you did just for yourself. If not, then remind him that you loved him when you were at a lower weight before and you will now!

People are weird! I've heard of friendships and marriages breaking up over wieght loss. I hope my friend doesn't keep gaining wiehgt . She's just miserable. I tried to give her wieght loss advise but that went over like a lead ballon as you can imagine. You're right it really is her problem. I just hope she gets over it. DH and I have never been thin but we gained a lot of weight together. Now he sort of feels like I've abanded him I guess. His co-worker's wife just left him. I'm sure that does help matters. The funny thing is I feel more attracted to him now that I have more energy.

**AnnW** · 03-07-2002, 06:07 PM

Originally posted by JeannieOR

People are weird! I've heard of friendships and marriages breaking up over wieght loss. I hope my friend doesn't keep gaining wiehgt . She's just miserable. I tried to give her wieght loss advise but that went over like a lead ballon as you can imagine. You're right it really is her problem. I just hope she gets over it. DH and I have never been thin but we gained a lot of weight together. Now he sort of feels like I've abanded him I guess. His co-worker's wife just left him. I'm sure that does help matters. The funny thing is I feel more attracted to him now that I have more energy.

yep, be very very careful not to give your friend weight loss advice..unless you want to find a new friend! LOL I can't get over how many people treat me like a moron since I have put on some weight! Hello...I knew how to exercise before, I just smoked too! LOL

Be sure to point out to your dh that there is that 'up'

side to your weight loss! LOL

**Brichard** · 03-07-2002, 09:13 PM

Jeannie,

What you are talking about is a very common phenomenon. One of the things the Oprah book "Make the Connection" book (my weight loss Bible!) warns you about is that others wil consciously or subconciously try to ruin your diet. I think part of it is jealousy and part of it is just human nature.

People get used to seeing us and themselves as a certain way and that is what they expect to see. My neighbor Karla always tries to push food on me b/c she thinks I have lost too much weight. But the funny thing is that I consider myself a little heavy for what I weighed in college! She is just used to seeing me as "fat" Brian.

My mother also likes to worry. She is almost like Ray Romano's mom on "Everybody Loves Raymond." I think she is happiest when she has something to worry about. She could complain about how much I weigh and offer me some biscuits and gravy in the same sentence! lol

You just set a goal and stick to your guns honey! It is normal to try and encourage people to lose weight whenever you lose weight. You feel good and want others to feel the same. However, ... we all have to do it in our own time. If people ask your advice I'd share away. Otherwise wait and let them come to you.

**JeannieOR** · 03-08-2002, 11:37 AM

Thanks Brichard!

**imamama** · 03-08-2002, 06:20 PM

Great job, Jeannie!!!!! Congrats! Sorry about your friend acting the way she is. Hope she gets over it soon for the sake of your friendship!

**JeannieOR** · 03-09-2002, 12:19 AM

Originally posted by imamama
Great job, Jeannie!!!!! Congrats! Sorry about your friend acting the way she is. Hope she gets over it soon for the sake of your friendship!

Yah', I think it will be alright. It's just kind of caught me off guard.

**kat** · 03-09-2002, 09:06 AM

Originally posted by AnnW
I am frustrated and depressed. I am doing everything right, but not losing at all. Menopause sucks!

I hear that. I finally got on the scales this a.m. and am happy to say I'm down 1/2 pound. My success this time has been to really go slow and it's worked. That way the changes are just that- life style changes. I don't ban anything. I even had pecan pie last night. If I want french fries I eat them, but not as many. I only eat a few of dh's or ds's, I never order my own now. Concentrate on smaller bites and enjoy the flavor and I get just as much satisfaction as eating the super sized portion. I did however get rid of the girl scout cookies. Ended up taking them to first Sunday fellowship and the college dinner.

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