Disciplining the children of Friends...

[Diane]

How far do you go in disciplining the children of your friends when they are not there and you're watching them? Are you more lenient than with your own children, or do you expect them to tow the same lines?

If your friends are present and their children aren't behaving... do you leave it up to them to dicipline their child/ren or would you say/do something to correct their behavior?

How do you feel if someone else took it upon themselves (whether you're there or not) to correct your child/ren's behavior?

[AnnW]

if the kids are in MY house...they follow MY rules!!!!!!!

[bizymum]

Originally posted by AnnW
if the kids are in MY house...they follow MY rules!!!!!!!

Ditto!!!!!

We also discipline when the parents are here too, and visa vers, our friends are more than welcome to discipline our children too when needed....

[WonderLor]

Originally posted by Diane P.
How far do you go in disciplining the children of your friends when they are not there and you're watching them? Are you more lenient than with your own children, or do you expect them to tow the same lines?

If your friends are present and their children aren't behaving... do you leave it up to them to dicipline their child/ren or would you say/do something to correct their behavior?

How do you feel if someone else took it upon themselves (whether you're there or not) to correct your child/ren's behavior?

Okay as far as disciplining the children of my friends when they are not here I do no more or less then I would do with my own..Time Outs for all LOL

That depends on the parents behavior. Most times Yes I wait until the parent handles it. However, if I feel it's something that needs to be addressed and the parent doesn't do anything I will mention something to my friend. (I haven't run into that problem too much).

The one time that I did stand up and do something a friend of mines son (which is chronically sleep deprived) age 3 at the time and my son 2 were playing and the boy just got cranky. He hit my son on the back with a plastic hammer hard enough to leave a mark. They just made the excuse that he was tired (Well put him to bed before 11:30pm!!!) By the time he came around for a second smack on my son's back I did grab his arm in midswing (gently of course) and firmly told him that his behavior was inappropriate and I wouldn't tolerate it. If he continued, we would be leaving. This wasn't the first time this has happened and I completely understand that kids will be kids however I feel that it is important for children to understand that under no circumstances is hitting appropriate - tired or not. And I felt obligated to protect my son.

Depends on the correction. If I am there I will handle it and feel it would be more appropriate for the friend to talk to me and let me handle it. I am the parent after all and feel that it is my place to teach my child.

[RCT]

my house my rules....there house there rules....simple...

[MaryL]

In our home, everyone follows our rules (for the most part!). In other people's homes...I'm still kind of tough on my dks behavior. For example, at one of our friends's house, the dks are allowed to jump on beds. This kind of freaks me out..ever since ds1 broke his wrist after being at their house and jumping on the bed! I just don't allow jumping on beds anywhere...for my dks! It's hard when good friends have different parenting styles. We're struggling with that right now. Our good (best) friends, are very permissive with their dks. They don't like to correct them...kind of want to be "the nice guys". Dh and I are more strict with our dks, and I hate to say it...but our dks are MUCH better behaved and nicer kids!